Training Guns on Emotions!

It is not often, that we get a query that seeks a concerted effort at handling those unpredictable and uncontrollable emotional outbursts!
I got the opportunity to draw the asker’s attention to a glaring aspect of our present day society, which goes almost inconspicuous, and un-noticed! The absence of a structured mechanism or institution to train a person to handle emotions, to train a person to maintain that inner balance, the harmony between conflicting emotions. Without that training, the achievements, with all the logical skills seems to leave a sort of vacuum, depriving a person the joyous experience of rewards of hard work, wealth and even prosperity!
Perhaps, it is time to look at, what ingredients constituted that peace that our ancient simple life-styled ancestors enjoyed!
Regards,
Psn (1st November, 2009)

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http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20091031171534AADigLI
The question:
How do you train yourself to control your emotions?
I am a type of person who is either very happy or very sad, I want to know how to control my emotions how to not feel very sad when something bad happens, I dont think feeling very happy is a problem.Thank you


My answer:
The problem is very reasonable and well justified! Please see, there is no institution, school, or organisation which imparts emotional training in a structured way! We have very good institutions to teach us all the logical skills to handle the material aspect of life. Even handling others to encash their emotions is taught logically, through courses like MBA etc! Psychology teaches us to manage imbalanced people, like that MBBS teaches to manage 'dis-ease'!A human being is equipped with emotional and logical capability. While the logic can evolve with support of outside training, the emotion is left to evolve by itself, exposing to all the vulnerabilities of the outside situation, which is ever unpredictable!The silver lining is the very urge to ask such a question! There is that self-awareness, which is perceiving what is happening to the 'self''!Usually, religious preachers used to take care of this emotional aspect to stabilise a person. All those 'ambiguous' looking teachings aim at maintaining the inner emotional balance, using the 'trust' in the unseen Greater Power, to whom we are asked to bow! It seems very difficult to logically evaluate all those teachings, and it is therefore that a few people seem to Challenge such 'beliefs'.If there is sufficient trust in one's own religious path, there have been very great beings, who have left behind a legacy of precious teachings, which can provide such training to control our emotions. But to get started, it would be very fortunate to have a genuine spiritual guide. A person can evolve by oneself, but it requires greater involvement, and persistence ( tenacity is a better word!).A simple solution would be to watch such emotions with a little space within ourselves, and see that 'bad' happenings are simply beyond our control. A deep sense of 'acceptance' would allow us to have a fair control on our emotions. When emotions overpower us, logic fails to that extent. And with weaker logic, we become vulnerable to outside situation.
Best wishes,