Which is better, USB, blue-tooth, infra-red, (what else ?)This question seemed something like this to me, when I waded through the set of questions on YA,Thought, that perhaps , it would not hurt us to glance at it again, to at least take a re-look at our priorities.
psn
quote:
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090812081143AAqlC71
What is the right way to know the Truth ?..through books and prophets?
OR....by Direct Experience or ...??
My way:
When the Greater being has 'designed' us, it could be flawless!We may choose to find fault with shortcoming or manufacturing defects, like "why was I destined to be born blind/deaf "etc.Along with the sensory level perception, we also get a more powerful tool, the 'self-awareness’, which is unfortunately the least used, in the present day context. Once a person consciously chooses and maintains that self-awareness at the possible peak levels, as much as possible (meaning, as often as possible), that itself would permeate even during sleep states!! This is perhaps 'Nature's great plan to enable us to know the "truth".You gave a hint in the last words of the question "Or.. by Direct Experience...". This direct experience does not 'refuse' Books or Prophets, but in fact adds immense value to the great efforts of writers of books, and supreme sacrifices of prophets when they compromise to STILL linger around out of sheer compassion! (Perhaps this explains why all the readers or disciples do not benefit, and there are larger 'dropouts'!)I feel already rewarded, being given a chance to look 'into' this question thus! My heartfelt thanks!
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Nomenclature, what is in a NAME!
It was a great technology once.When the purpose is forgotten, the device remains a mere ritual, and over the years it gets diluted.Now it is worse than the methodology of numbering vehicles, allotting PAN/PIN numbers etc!I was reminded of "Ashta-vakra" a character in the story of Mahabharata (calling it a Mythology, might not beappropriate, since it hints that mythologies are but "myths" ! He got 8 deformities, even while in the womb,simply because he 'reacted' to the mis-pronunciations of his dad! Just a reminder by his name, that whileit is good to be soooo sensitive to slightest of errors, one has to be equally careful, not to react (even within),lest we may have deformities in our attitude! At least for Ashta-vakra the deformities were physical! Being a Physically challenged is far better than being mentally challenged, if challenges are inevitable.But, there are eager minds, I could see, when I saw this question.I quote the question, the link and my walk, through the same path again,psn(13th Aug, 2009)
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090812195743AAIBAbj
How did you choose your avatar (if it's not your name)?
Re-treading (my 'self'):
(thro’ the answer)
My priority, that has remained so for nearly 50 years, what ever else I do!I thank the YAHOO TEAM for enabling this feature of 'nick-name' because, it gave me a chance to also name myself the way I would like! Name could be a powerful tool to remind us of our priorities, lest we tend to be driven away by temptations elsewhere, or get caught up inadvertently by fast pace of life, and immediate / urgent life situations!For most it might suit to hide their identities (ofcourse for a very valid and genuine set of reasons), but for me it seems to serve a higher purpose. My identity has got slightly revealed after that participation in ATP/Feb 2007.Thanks for bringing me closer to my own priority through the question!
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090812195743AAIBAbj
How did you choose your avatar (if it's not your name)?
Re-treading (my 'self'):
(thro’ the answer)
My priority, that has remained so for nearly 50 years, what ever else I do!I thank the YAHOO TEAM for enabling this feature of 'nick-name' because, it gave me a chance to also name myself the way I would like! Name could be a powerful tool to remind us of our priorities, lest we tend to be driven away by temptations elsewhere, or get caught up inadvertently by fast pace of life, and immediate / urgent life situations!For most it might suit to hide their identities (ofcourse for a very valid and genuine set of reasons), but for me it seems to serve a higher purpose. My identity has got slightly revealed after that participation in ATP/Feb 2007.Thanks for bringing me closer to my own priority through the question!
Bandar kya Jaane Adrak kaa swaad!
(in good humour, without any offence)
I used to wonder why they blame that poor monkey. Even I was no better! Loving ginger was not that easy for me! Every time I tried to ‘like’ it as a kid, my face effortlessly took the form of a monkey-face!
When I saw this question, I felt if I am still not capable of ‘true’ love, since it felt very much dependent on my self-awareness. If I were to become 100% ‘mental’ (as we love to call it), I for sure would become incapable of ‘love’, and those around would be in great trouble (not that even now they are too comfortable!). So, if that question holds value, then I am no better than a monkey is with ginger!
I shall be very happy to get enlightened on this aspect from you!
Regards,
Psn(13th Aug, 2009)
Quote:
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090812212802AAtlO9q
What makes you feel the most alive besides love?
(How I ‘mon-keyed) around with my answer):
Very sorry.May be I am not that good at love by itself!So, to me, it is not "besides".... It is because of "self-awareness" that I am at times, even capable of a few stray droplets of that 'oceanic' love!And "alive", yes, I am alive only when I am aware!
I used to wonder why they blame that poor monkey. Even I was no better! Loving ginger was not that easy for me! Every time I tried to ‘like’ it as a kid, my face effortlessly took the form of a monkey-face!
When I saw this question, I felt if I am still not capable of ‘true’ love, since it felt very much dependent on my self-awareness. If I were to become 100% ‘mental’ (as we love to call it), I for sure would become incapable of ‘love’, and those around would be in great trouble (not that even now they are too comfortable!). So, if that question holds value, then I am no better than a monkey is with ginger!
I shall be very happy to get enlightened on this aspect from you!
Regards,
Psn(13th Aug, 2009)
Quote:
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090812212802AAtlO9q
What makes you feel the most alive besides love?
(How I ‘mon-keyed) around with my answer):
Very sorry.May be I am not that good at love by itself!So, to me, it is not "besides".... It is because of "self-awareness" that I am at times, even capable of a few stray droplets of that 'oceanic' love!And "alive", yes, I am alive only when I am aware!
Earning food itself is now so tough, with recession, Respect… ?
Isn’t it so?
I can see a lots of compromise on that ‘self-respect’ when hitherto harmless bosses are riding ‘rough-shod’ on even slogging employees, simply because of the threat of pink-slips!
When retaining some respect is difficult, earning it a far dream.
Yet, I tried to look at ‘respect’ itself with some respect, ‘respectively’ with ‘respect to love’, as the question demanded its due respect!
Regards,
psn(13th Aug, 2009)
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090812013227AA9KEiM
Respect is earned... What about Love ...?....................(spiri… of course)?
My attempt to “earn” some attention to my answer:
Strictly speaking even that respect is perhaps at least due to a very mild dose of love. Staunch adversaries 'respect' each other's ability, trying not to 'underestimate' the cunning even under heavily guarded captivity.Is it possible for such a respect, without some love for such 'ability'.And, when a 'true' disciple respects every single ability of the master to the utmost possible measure, the body language itself, of the disciple simply reveals, the measure of respect!The adversary keeps a safe distance from the other even in captivity. The disciple too, maintains that alertness , awareness about the Master's greatness and keeps a 'respectable' distance, waiting to be called near for a precious hug or embrace! The 'main' reason for the distances cloud the love hidden beneath. And that love is right now for the 'ability' an abstract thing. Not the person! (Quite contrary to the normal love we see, and even hear thus "Can you not just love me for what I am, other than my beauty, money etc?") Respect looks like 'earned'. But it depends on the others around to know what and how to respect! How can a great singer earn respect from people who tend to look at a song as a nuisance/polluting-noise?
I can see a lots of compromise on that ‘self-respect’ when hitherto harmless bosses are riding ‘rough-shod’ on even slogging employees, simply because of the threat of pink-slips!
When retaining some respect is difficult, earning it a far dream.
Yet, I tried to look at ‘respect’ itself with some respect, ‘respectively’ with ‘respect to love’, as the question demanded its due respect!
Regards,
psn(13th Aug, 2009)
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090812013227AA9KEiM
Respect is earned... What about Love ...?....................(spiri… of course)?
My attempt to “earn” some attention to my answer:
Strictly speaking even that respect is perhaps at least due to a very mild dose of love. Staunch adversaries 'respect' each other's ability, trying not to 'underestimate' the cunning even under heavily guarded captivity.Is it possible for such a respect, without some love for such 'ability'.And, when a 'true' disciple respects every single ability of the master to the utmost possible measure, the body language itself, of the disciple simply reveals, the measure of respect!The adversary keeps a safe distance from the other even in captivity. The disciple too, maintains that alertness , awareness about the Master's greatness and keeps a 'respectable' distance, waiting to be called near for a precious hug or embrace! The 'main' reason for the distances cloud the love hidden beneath. And that love is right now for the 'ability' an abstract thing. Not the person! (Quite contrary to the normal love we see, and even hear thus "Can you not just love me for what I am, other than my beauty, money etc?") Respect looks like 'earned'. But it depends on the others around to know what and how to respect! How can a great singer earn respect from people who tend to look at a song as a nuisance/polluting-noise?
Temple Trample!
When we do not know the purpose of visiting a temple, but invariably end up frequenting, by sheer force of habit, compulsion by social norms or otherwise, we could be inadvertently ‘trampling’ that divine place, where it would be expected of us to gently tread, a bit apologetically!
It might look funny, but the 'Hindu way of life' has even suggested ‘apologies’ in the form of ‘slokas’ to be offered to what we some times refer as “Mother-Earth”, when we urinate or shit upon it!
So “logically”, the abode of that “God” cannot be treaded upon by us, lower beings (leave alone trampling), without those due apologies each time!
I could not subscribe to these logic(s) till I underwent a spiritual program where it was suggested to ‘experience’ the worth of walking as gently as possible, within a ‘prescribed’ perimeter, to get opened up thereby to newer dimensions of consciousness! I would not elaborate this, lest it may end up being an “ad nauseam” !!
I received a vey genuine query from a very lovable youngster, regarding “what is to be done, when inside a temple”. I value his ability for his being very outspoken, and so would not mind mentioning some additional details he gave, to further strengthen the purpose of his query:
Quote:
1. I am lazy
2. I [subconciously] dont believe visiting the temple serves any purpose spritually or otherwise.
3. I dont know what I am supposed to do when I am inside a temple.
Of the 3, I somehow feel, the last one holds more water than the rest. (……)…I dont feel any sense of spirituality or closeness to God and maybe thats why I dont want to go.
Unquote:
And, the reply I gave is as hereunder:
Do you remember, some time ago I quoted a famous couplet by Omar Khayyam(the renowned poet of middle east), “Masjid mein jam peeney dey Jahid, warnaa woh jagah bataa dey jahan Khuda na Ho” (Either allow me to drink inside the Masjid, or else show me a place where God is not present!).
The 2nd and the 3rd points used to match my own reasons too, when I was a kid. Laziness was never a reason. But, my grandmother confused me further, by insisting that I visit the native temple in a semi wet condition, right after the dip (for bath) in the village pond, all the belongings sanctified by the dip (plus wash of used clothes—change of dry washed was only after reaching home!). She herself was not regular or meticulous about visiting the temple! This added to my doubts! My doubts were more hurting, like, when asked to pray, I asked if God needs to be told what I wish/deserve/desire etc, through a prayer(most of the ‘prescribed’ prayers were either about asking for some benediction or just offering tributes to His glory)? But, I knew that a tradition that has lasted thousands of years could not be casually discarded as meaningless. Some where down the line, the grasp of its significance has eroded, and hence the present day doubts. Most people lack the courage to ask themselves these genuine questions, leave along ‘voicing’ it! So, I continued the practice of visiting temples, and also intensified it when I could ‘stand’ on my own legs, to the extent, that I covered almost 95% of all the places of worship (not just temples) around the two states that I could reach during week ends. The difference was that I did not have the usual agenda. I just attempted to make myself open, receptive to what ever was likely to happen by these visits. I mentally ‘handed’ over myself to the unseen, to do what ever the ‘higher’ power finds me fit for, at that point of time. When alone, I spend as much time as possible inside the premises (not necessarily the sacrosanct inner place where visiting duration is often restricted to few minutes). It is only in retrospect, that I know for sure that none of my visits were in vain!!
I think if that ‘trust’ is good enough, it is good to visit thus, despite the fact that we hardly know of any ‘moksha’ or enlightenment that has happened inside a temple/place of worship!!
I did learn of many scientific aspects due to keen observation, intense pursuit etc. The details would be too elaborate, and each would merit a separate narration due to its own great value! This addition of analytical information enriched my knowledge about the art, technology, and unsurpassed skill of the great people who constructed the ancient temples. Each, I found, had unique greatness, and the intangible aspects to be of a far greater value than its visible ones! Some incidents even appeared ‘mystic’ to me! There was a case of a colleague of mine (quite senior by age, position etc, still in service as a Senior Manager), who insisted that I accompany him whenever I could, during his ‘undertaken’ visits to an ancient temple. After a lot of persuasion he revealed his reason, that he ‘experienced’ far greater ‘effect’ or results, when I was with him(this was his chance discovery after our joint visits for over an year at the rate of twice-a-week). Being a chatter box, I used to voice my keen observations, during most visits. Some how it happened that he also felt a greater ‘presence’ when the electric power failed during one of our earlier visits, and I attempted to ‘show’ the positive side of absence of ‘negative’ flow of current, while he started murmuring the abrupt discomfort due to loss of illumination, which even hampered our movement for pradakshinam etc. Most temples in Kerala disallow electric lights inside the sanctum-sanctorum even now, as a matter of tradition!
If I try to put forth my experiences as a logical reason in support of justification to visit temples, it could be not only quite incompatible but might even strengthen the disinclination to visit, for those who go out of sheer ritualistic practice and / or out of their sheer ‘belief’. I was keen to replace ‘experience’ with such a belief. When the experience became strong, the need to visit temple got dropped by itself, despite the never-before-such-intense reverence for such places(And now, it is very clear why my grandmother insisted that I visit, though she herself did not adhere to ‘mandatory’ style of such visits! She is no more, to accept my apologies for lack of ability to grasp the reason then!). I cannot adequately offer tributes in words to the people who constructed such great temples (the “Hindu” temples if I may be allowed to call them so, due to sheer constraints of requiring some way of reference!). No two ones are alike! Each adheres to all known principles of architecture to the greatest conceivable measure, bearing uniqueness of justification of multiple need-based purposes as contra-distinguished with other places of worship! Look at the modern cars. Lot of innovation and planning goes into making it the most sought after vehicles! Not a single screw or piece of plastic is added without a purpose! Break-through is said to be achieved when a lighter alloy is discovered without compromising on strength, safety and fuel-efficiency, comfort, or all-round-performance! And therefore, when a place of worship is designed, to handle the well being of humans (the most complex ever machine!).... what words could possible be adequate to appreciate it! If it is to be a powerhouse to re-charge the human potential in every possible way! Imagine if some manufacturing defect is effortlessly taken care of by ‘service’ workshops! Oh! I have strayed into a domain where logic of the normal sensory level of perception cannot be expected to accept these suggestions! Better that I punctuate the reply here.
Regards,
Psn (11th August, 2009)
BTW, what do we do when invited for a thread-ceremony, a traditionally conducted marriage, a pooja, visiting a new born, etc? I could never keep a count of these types of questions, right through my kid-days!
( If I have been able to persist patiently till ‘God’ unfolded a few of His mysteries, I am sure, I shall be able to put up with delay or lack of responses to my sincere replies, as always!)
It might look funny, but the 'Hindu way of life' has even suggested ‘apologies’ in the form of ‘slokas’ to be offered to what we some times refer as “Mother-Earth”, when we urinate or shit upon it!
So “logically”, the abode of that “God” cannot be treaded upon by us, lower beings (leave alone trampling), without those due apologies each time!
I could not subscribe to these logic(s) till I underwent a spiritual program where it was suggested to ‘experience’ the worth of walking as gently as possible, within a ‘prescribed’ perimeter, to get opened up thereby to newer dimensions of consciousness! I would not elaborate this, lest it may end up being an “ad nauseam” !!
I received a vey genuine query from a very lovable youngster, regarding “what is to be done, when inside a temple”. I value his ability for his being very outspoken, and so would not mind mentioning some additional details he gave, to further strengthen the purpose of his query:
Quote:
1. I am lazy
2. I [subconciously] dont believe visiting the temple serves any purpose spritually or otherwise.
3. I dont know what I am supposed to do when I am inside a temple.
Of the 3, I somehow feel, the last one holds more water than the rest. (……)…I dont feel any sense of spirituality or closeness to God and maybe thats why I dont want to go.
Unquote:
And, the reply I gave is as hereunder:
Do you remember, some time ago I quoted a famous couplet by Omar Khayyam(the renowned poet of middle east), “Masjid mein jam peeney dey Jahid, warnaa woh jagah bataa dey jahan Khuda na Ho” (Either allow me to drink inside the Masjid, or else show me a place where God is not present!).
The 2nd and the 3rd points used to match my own reasons too, when I was a kid. Laziness was never a reason. But, my grandmother confused me further, by insisting that I visit the native temple in a semi wet condition, right after the dip (for bath) in the village pond, all the belongings sanctified by the dip (plus wash of used clothes—change of dry washed was only after reaching home!). She herself was not regular or meticulous about visiting the temple! This added to my doubts! My doubts were more hurting, like, when asked to pray, I asked if God needs to be told what I wish/deserve/desire etc, through a prayer(most of the ‘prescribed’ prayers were either about asking for some benediction or just offering tributes to His glory)? But, I knew that a tradition that has lasted thousands of years could not be casually discarded as meaningless. Some where down the line, the grasp of its significance has eroded, and hence the present day doubts. Most people lack the courage to ask themselves these genuine questions, leave along ‘voicing’ it! So, I continued the practice of visiting temples, and also intensified it when I could ‘stand’ on my own legs, to the extent, that I covered almost 95% of all the places of worship (not just temples) around the two states that I could reach during week ends. The difference was that I did not have the usual agenda. I just attempted to make myself open, receptive to what ever was likely to happen by these visits. I mentally ‘handed’ over myself to the unseen, to do what ever the ‘higher’ power finds me fit for, at that point of time. When alone, I spend as much time as possible inside the premises (not necessarily the sacrosanct inner place where visiting duration is often restricted to few minutes). It is only in retrospect, that I know for sure that none of my visits were in vain!!
I think if that ‘trust’ is good enough, it is good to visit thus, despite the fact that we hardly know of any ‘moksha’ or enlightenment that has happened inside a temple/place of worship!!
I did learn of many scientific aspects due to keen observation, intense pursuit etc. The details would be too elaborate, and each would merit a separate narration due to its own great value! This addition of analytical information enriched my knowledge about the art, technology, and unsurpassed skill of the great people who constructed the ancient temples. Each, I found, had unique greatness, and the intangible aspects to be of a far greater value than its visible ones! Some incidents even appeared ‘mystic’ to me! There was a case of a colleague of mine (quite senior by age, position etc, still in service as a Senior Manager), who insisted that I accompany him whenever I could, during his ‘undertaken’ visits to an ancient temple. After a lot of persuasion he revealed his reason, that he ‘experienced’ far greater ‘effect’ or results, when I was with him(this was his chance discovery after our joint visits for over an year at the rate of twice-a-week). Being a chatter box, I used to voice my keen observations, during most visits. Some how it happened that he also felt a greater ‘presence’ when the electric power failed during one of our earlier visits, and I attempted to ‘show’ the positive side of absence of ‘negative’ flow of current, while he started murmuring the abrupt discomfort due to loss of illumination, which even hampered our movement for pradakshinam etc. Most temples in Kerala disallow electric lights inside the sanctum-sanctorum even now, as a matter of tradition!
If I try to put forth my experiences as a logical reason in support of justification to visit temples, it could be not only quite incompatible but might even strengthen the disinclination to visit, for those who go out of sheer ritualistic practice and / or out of their sheer ‘belief’. I was keen to replace ‘experience’ with such a belief. When the experience became strong, the need to visit temple got dropped by itself, despite the never-before-such-intense reverence for such places(And now, it is very clear why my grandmother insisted that I visit, though she herself did not adhere to ‘mandatory’ style of such visits! She is no more, to accept my apologies for lack of ability to grasp the reason then!). I cannot adequately offer tributes in words to the people who constructed such great temples (the “Hindu” temples if I may be allowed to call them so, due to sheer constraints of requiring some way of reference!). No two ones are alike! Each adheres to all known principles of architecture to the greatest conceivable measure, bearing uniqueness of justification of multiple need-based purposes as contra-distinguished with other places of worship! Look at the modern cars. Lot of innovation and planning goes into making it the most sought after vehicles! Not a single screw or piece of plastic is added without a purpose! Break-through is said to be achieved when a lighter alloy is discovered without compromising on strength, safety and fuel-efficiency, comfort, or all-round-performance! And therefore, when a place of worship is designed, to handle the well being of humans (the most complex ever machine!).... what words could possible be adequate to appreciate it! If it is to be a powerhouse to re-charge the human potential in every possible way! Imagine if some manufacturing defect is effortlessly taken care of by ‘service’ workshops! Oh! I have strayed into a domain where logic of the normal sensory level of perception cannot be expected to accept these suggestions! Better that I punctuate the reply here.
Regards,
Psn (11th August, 2009)
BTW, what do we do when invited for a thread-ceremony, a traditionally conducted marriage, a pooja, visiting a new born, etc? I could never keep a count of these types of questions, right through my kid-days!
( If I have been able to persist patiently till ‘God’ unfolded a few of His mysteries, I am sure, I shall be able to put up with delay or lack of responses to my sincere replies, as always!)
Tuesday, August 04, 2009
Jaan lo, ke Jaan Jaane doe, ya naheen, Jaane Jaanam
“Dil cheez kya hai, aap meri jaan leejiye” goes the famous song.
But when it comes to calling it an ‘euthenaisa’, the legal technicalities seem to
Stand before us “imposingly” !
This asker ‘coins’ very interesting questions, and I attempt most of them.
More strange it is when the least expected answer gets ‘chosen’.
This is one such!
Regards,
Psn (4th August, 2009)
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090726133305AATwZKx
Should doctors or friends be allowed to help terminally ill people to die without fear of prosecution?
My Juris-prudence:
Whether "Euthanasia" being permitted legally, is the question.We have to look at Jurisprudence (the law about law).We had a concept that law would work in the long run, only when it bears coherence with 'nature'.
The bulk of 'living' beings die gracefully except for humans. We humans seldom get to see the other being dying 'naturally'. They even 'dispose' their remains almost inconspicuously!
Terminally ill patients would have ceased to feel that 'pain' after initial 'worry' period. It is the on-lookers who try to imagine that enormity of pain, visualizing it with their own limited patience.
We have dumped our ancient capability to just 'walk' out of the body, AT WILL, when it has become unfit to contain us. It is this reason mainly that now we look at permitted 'mercy-killing'.
This debate would ever remain inconclusive, due to lack of ability to get clarity about what constitutes 'life' (we are still busy in defining accurately the 'death', being content with issuing certificates for death only at 'clinical' level!)
But when it comes to calling it an ‘euthenaisa’, the legal technicalities seem to
Stand before us “imposingly” !
This asker ‘coins’ very interesting questions, and I attempt most of them.
More strange it is when the least expected answer gets ‘chosen’.
This is one such!
Regards,
Psn (4th August, 2009)
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090726133305AATwZKx
Should doctors or friends be allowed to help terminally ill people to die without fear of prosecution?
My Juris-prudence:
Whether "Euthanasia" being permitted legally, is the question.We have to look at Jurisprudence (the law about law).We had a concept that law would work in the long run, only when it bears coherence with 'nature'.
The bulk of 'living' beings die gracefully except for humans. We humans seldom get to see the other being dying 'naturally'. They even 'dispose' their remains almost inconspicuously!
Terminally ill patients would have ceased to feel that 'pain' after initial 'worry' period. It is the on-lookers who try to imagine that enormity of pain, visualizing it with their own limited patience.
We have dumped our ancient capability to just 'walk' out of the body, AT WILL, when it has become unfit to contain us. It is this reason mainly that now we look at permitted 'mercy-killing'.
This debate would ever remain inconclusive, due to lack of ability to get clarity about what constitutes 'life' (we are still busy in defining accurately the 'death', being content with issuing certificates for death only at 'clinical' level!)
Sunday, August 02, 2009
Taxing 'returns'
We are always on the look out for “feasibility” for doing something good.
I wonder, what about ‘viability’?
Anyway, the request for an incident which actually gave strength tempted me to narrate my experience. But, this time, the recipient of that ‘strength’ was the ‘other’ person not me. Still, I thought I can narrate it, being at least a witness to that strength permeating into that other person.
Psn
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090731072602AAkEo3X
Is it always feasible to do good and expect nothing in return?
i mean i like to do good, but sometimes feels sad when the receiver doesn't respond.
Additional Details
thanks to all of u: could u narrate an incident which actually gave strength to your saying so? @Nick : well said, but i don't know why i feel that your saying, "so do good without expecting something in return and you will reap the benefit in some way or other", is also some short of expectation in some way.
My story: (offered as 'answer' on the forum)
An interesting incident happened a few years ago. I was driving a 100 cc motor bike, forgetting to fold the 'side-stand-rod'. A moped driver struggled to chase me, uphill, and finally overtook me, and waived his arm to get my attention, and warned me. I tried to thank him, but he just grinned, being visibly angry because I could not hear his horn for a long time, and he had to strain a lot with that 50 cc moped!At the next signal, we both were waiting for 'green'. I gently told him that he owes me a cup of coffee. This time he decided to voice his annoyance. It was he who saved me, and so why should he offer a cup of coffee? That was his query. He once again chased me, and asked for explanation. I parked on road side, and offered him my explanation. "Please see, at the most , I can become capable of little bit of "gratitude" if at all I am a decent human being, because you saved my life, not I (presuming that the unfolded side stand would have landed me in some danger). But, you have the "joy" of having saved somebody's life. Which is greater, and gives more happiness, Joy or gratitude? " I asked him. He seemed convinced and this time offered me a cup of coffee genuinely, and confessed that all along, he was stuck, looking out for that "return", and missed the 'fountain' of joy waiting right within himself. I was in a hurry, and told him that I felt amply rewarded in knowing that I made him 'independent' of receiver's reciprocation.Trying "not to expect" return itself is a reminder and so it may not really work. If we are able to get immersed in our own joy of the deed, the act, we don't even seem to notice any return. Perhaps this may work! However, it is nice to know that somebody is keen to keep doing good, and therefore this question.
Source(s):It did happen with me, on my way to work!
I wonder, what about ‘viability’?
Anyway, the request for an incident which actually gave strength tempted me to narrate my experience. But, this time, the recipient of that ‘strength’ was the ‘other’ person not me. Still, I thought I can narrate it, being at least a witness to that strength permeating into that other person.
Psn
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090731072602AAkEo3X
Is it always feasible to do good and expect nothing in return?
i mean i like to do good, but sometimes feels sad when the receiver doesn't respond.
Additional Details
thanks to all of u: could u narrate an incident which actually gave strength to your saying so? @Nick : well said, but i don't know why i feel that your saying, "so do good without expecting something in return and you will reap the benefit in some way or other", is also some short of expectation in some way.
My story: (offered as 'answer' on the forum)
An interesting incident happened a few years ago. I was driving a 100 cc motor bike, forgetting to fold the 'side-stand-rod'. A moped driver struggled to chase me, uphill, and finally overtook me, and waived his arm to get my attention, and warned me. I tried to thank him, but he just grinned, being visibly angry because I could not hear his horn for a long time, and he had to strain a lot with that 50 cc moped!At the next signal, we both were waiting for 'green'. I gently told him that he owes me a cup of coffee. This time he decided to voice his annoyance. It was he who saved me, and so why should he offer a cup of coffee? That was his query. He once again chased me, and asked for explanation. I parked on road side, and offered him my explanation. "Please see, at the most , I can become capable of little bit of "gratitude" if at all I am a decent human being, because you saved my life, not I (presuming that the unfolded side stand would have landed me in some danger). But, you have the "joy" of having saved somebody's life. Which is greater, and gives more happiness, Joy or gratitude? " I asked him. He seemed convinced and this time offered me a cup of coffee genuinely, and confessed that all along, he was stuck, looking out for that "return", and missed the 'fountain' of joy waiting right within himself. I was in a hurry, and told him that I felt amply rewarded in knowing that I made him 'independent' of receiver's reciprocation.Trying "not to expect" return itself is a reminder and so it may not really work. If we are able to get immersed in our own joy of the deed, the act, we don't even seem to notice any return. Perhaps this may work! However, it is nice to know that somebody is keen to keep doing good, and therefore this question.
Source(s):It did happen with me, on my way to work!
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