“Sab kuch gadbad ho gaya
.... mera peace of mind bhi gaya!”.... said my victim! He was my
colleague.. And I knew, I had inadvertently victimized him with
himself!
It all started with a very
casual talk... We talked about our likes, dislikes, and then about
kids, their demands, based on their likes... (somewhere, this
'selectivity criteria' based on likes/dislikes, more than what a
situation needs, got into a snowballing effect, and I became a victim
of my own thought process... it usually gets into this kind of
concepts, and then the fellow next to me is the obvious scapegoat...
That day, it was this colleague)..
He had quite a lot of
people in his joint family... So the kids looked at him as an
'elder', to seek something from... this person was 'single' and
hence he was under the impression that he was looking alike at all
the kids of the household...
I asked him specific
questions, when it came to taking 'responsibility' about those kids,
and he gave details...
Then I asked him: “Hey,
are you looking at these kids as if they were some
'difficulty-levels' of a game, designed for you to pick and
choose?... Or do you also 'think' that,.... the way they are as
kids, they are quite innocent as yet, and therefore, you have to look
at their needs, and reach out to them that way... irrespective of
what level of difficulty you need to undertake to make available
their needs?”
He just felt himself
hanging-in-mid-air, at that .. what I said...
I further added (I wished
later, I hadn't ...).. and said “What if a doctor at a mental
health home decides to take care of the patients according to
'difficulty-level' that suits his-own-comfort zone, and administers
sedatives to the rest of them?... Or even that 'electric-shock' we
see in movies?”
This one had hit him hard,
perhaps! But having blurted, there was no going back... I did try
the 'seemingly—antithesis'... “See, a mom loves all her kids, but
gives that extra care to weaker ones” (He was by now so lost into
his own introspection that he did not listen to the mom-story)..
Explaining that 'gadbad'
he narrated his own 'reflections' about our office, when he used to
haggle about a particular 'seat' during the 'rotation-of-duties'
mandated periodically... I used to say, “so that, we do not grow
roots on a particular chair” (but then there were 'specimens', who
carried their chair to the new-table!)...
With automation, the
criteria of selection is outsourced to a large extent! The
'tick-marks' on series of question-answer choice-boxes decides our IQ
even!...
Does a Guru select or pick
a disciple according to his 'difficulty-level'? (dunno...!..).
Somebody/something... seems to have pushed me into that turbulent
river of spirituality, and I had to learn to remain afloat first, to
be alive, and only then to think about learning to swim! So, I am no
good judge!
Selectively yours,
psn (21st February, 2014)
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