Handling Criticism

“Please don't stand here in front of me”... says the counter-clerk.... often!

I on the other hand, find it so difficult to insist the 'other way' .. I love to say, “Please do stay on for a while more... I love to have a 'conscious being' so close by, merging with me, through what I am doing.... it empowers me so uniquely... and yet, I have no 'adequate means' to even acknowledge your benevolent presence, so generous to me.. leave alone to think of compensating... for, ... I am already 'paid' to serve you, to my-best...”... When I can't say this to total strangers, I somehow manage, toning down my own 'oppressive-presence' to allow them that subtle room-space, to feel more space to be around!

This is the scene at 'public-places'.. where a customer/client/visitor can walk in and expect some service towards him...

The chair provided at a little distance is not meant to be used to get rid of his presence from our proximity! (Only when the queue swells, and they know, it is futile to wait on.. with aching legs (“the making of”...varicose veins .. like we hear the 'making of a giant-movie'...!!!)... Tension in the mind “how long will it take”.. translates into that needless tension at calf-muscles, and the veins pay the price squirming, twisting, and getting mangled!

Even the mere stare of 'uncertainty' filled mind, looks like 'enough of negative criticism'!

Those who are destined to work at a back-office ... feel like complaining “meri tou ek bhi matki nahi phodee” (one of the heroines says, “he didn't break even one of my earthen pots”... in the movie, “Mother India” when a few others had lined up to complain about the broken pots to the mother of a naughty son).

Criticism often calls for assessment of the owner of that criticism...

Assessment presupposes ability to assess properly...

Ability presupposes knowledge...

knowledge presupposes wisdom to analyse data (including visualised data, not waiting for experience)...

Wisdom insists on perception, especially when time doesn't afford us the luxury to have it slowly.

Perception says, 'conditions-apply'...!!! (for it to be present-even... only then to deepen, on the way!)...

Perception without self-awareness works well, with animals but is driven by survival instincts, not emotions...!

When emotion is contained, intuitiveness gets intensely focused!

(The rest of it... I love to leave it for the 'critics' to speculate... apni apni soch.. or... whatever!)

Innocently yours,

psn (5th February, 2014)