The First Born!

Even a team gets a bit sentimental, at times, and chooses to sponsor a question that belongs to a collective mind!

That is how it must have happened that a logic defying incident shot up to prominence and evoked a great interest to know, the 'know-why' of certain mystic sentiments! Biologically, a child-birth is just another nature-assisted phenomenon... and it is not an unfamiliar event... What mystifies is, when an accomplished person, or an achiever (whichever way we choose to look at that person!), gives in to a 'strange-looking' emotional excitement, which is logic defying in itself, and it even persuades another very-sanely-logical, practical, and pertinent priority,.. then it is 'attention-grabbing' indeed!

My attentiveness was towards the attention of others, which might have got focused into a singularly-pointed way, at least for a while! A reason good enough, for me to budge in!

It was about the importance of a first born!

And now let the question-answer speak for itself!

Firstly yours,

psn (30th July, 2013)

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20130729133932AAG1Qtd&cp=2

How important is the birth of your first child?

It was very important to Hunter Mahan! Mahan was leading the Canadian Open when he learned his pregnant wife, who was a month away from her due date, had gone into labor early. He exited the tournament and sacrificed 1 million dollars. What do you think?

Article: http://yhoo.it/16vQNRx

My (first-take on it) Answer:

Well, the importance cannot be better evidenced than with the existence of a time tested set of rituals that has come down through several generations from ancient India!
Right from the sixth month, when a noble wandering soul is invited into the womb, offering the best all round care, right up to the 'pass word' being invoked and a temporary access being given to the person who represents the departed ancestor, that ancestor who looked forward to the birth of this first child, who holds the 'pass word.... the whole process connects us, the human beings, with everything relevant to our future and past, thereby, scripts the whole process of life on this planet!!!
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The question details thus.. "He exited the tournament and sacrificed 1 million dollars"... I would add, and thus, in turn, "he inherited a priceless experience of togetherness of a whole new being, celestially excited at the prospects of eternal togetherness!"......
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Human being is capable of volitional consciousness... and therefore , by choice is capable of giving the highest values possible to yet another life form... please look at this when other life form devours a few of its first born/s for its own survival purpose, though the basic instinct is very much 'the' very essential component of nature's design for preservation and propagation of the species!....
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Core aspects of life can be understood only when a person transcends logic, and yet adheres to the sense of discretion, to judiciously apply the power of reasoning!
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Science has probed (and almost proved) that the entire photograph of the planet is carried over generations through genes inherited... that makes the first born a very precious latest model of the rarest antiques (a unique two-in-one!!!)

What next?

I knew this question as early as my earliest memory can reach! That was my question too, when a kid... and precisely why I could provide a clue, when somebody told me, pointing to his mischievous kid, 'Look at that rascal, his stare ... so innocent-looking, blank-looking... is in fact, a warning, he is up to something afresh, just the 'commercial-break' he is affording us, with his own search for “what next”...!!!..' I provided a clue, 'Oh! Then, just make sure there is nothing-next-to-him that will provide THE next thing to do something with...' 'Roger', he agreed, and gently did that reverse-theorem of 'presto!' (not just a converse theory), and one by one, the breakables disappeared from that kid's reach!

I retired abruptly.... the question 'cropped' up... what next!

Oh! the question is as old as me... I told myself... (So, why not look at how others deal with their 'next'.... be it a nagging spouse even?... and, now... I did not have to seek my own 'next' for the next several 'period-of-time'!!!.... not even the next blog.... it has to be 'allowed' to happen by itself... what ever makes it happen!)

Kid age, what next (mischief)

school age ... what next (books, painfully long period going through the very same books, then exaams, the results, the promotion, ... after a few repetitions, the question finds its own answers!)..

meanwhile, in the gaps of time during the 'school-debacle', that is... small spaces of 'what next' searches... that was decades ago... now the kids are loaded with enough homework, tv-work, gadget-fiddling-work, etc... so much that.... they hardly look up to the closed lid to ask 'what next' to find any new dish being dished out of that dish and served 'dishoom' on to the dinner plate! Most of it is off-the-shelf... or still worse... that cold-hearted-fridge, looking so vengence-fully, when the hunger seeks a 'matching' temperature of food! (That is why, perhaps, the ancient query, 'can she cook well' is outdated during match-making now!... all we need is good cookers, not just a good-cook!)... anyway, that is not the-next on our agenda right now!

Marriage/job/kids/home-loan, home/ par-motion(promotion)... each suffixed by 'what next' leads sequentially to 'the' next...!!! These are serious 'nexts' nested badly around us... but life is not entirely without humor... For instance, a colleague of mine, eager to try it out in Engleesh, his usual query (mere leye agla kaam kya hai?), blurted thus: 'What is next... to me?'... Inadvertently I replied without a thought or batting-of-eye-lid, “Bhooth!”... He got scared, while others had a hearty laugh (it was just the preceding day that I narrated my adventures to the, during my preceding few days, pursuing occult-kinda-people ... being a genuine and single bachelor, I had lot of leisure on non-working-days, to hunt for 'anything that has anything to do with spirituality'... and occult people seemed to offer it 'off-the-shelf' ... till I saw the point that there was 'nothing more in it'!!!_ than some materialistic-oriented-powers!... I was after nothing-less, than the nothing-more-than something, already!)

At times, 'who next' scares us... The who is 'next to me' does matter in some cases...

It goes on... perhaps, till we are next-to-nothing! And if we decide further again, the very same way, yet another something-next is already in the offing! ( I dunno! If it was the one thing that kept me so busy, that other trifles of 'what nexts'' did not really bother me too much, and took off the mischief in me, when the elders around 'found' my inconspicousness to be a heavily felt absence during my youth days, when my search within kept me away from that 'what next' for too long-a-while... ).... and after all.... now that I find myself next-to-nothing... there is really nothing-next-to-me... to boggle me with 'what next'!!! That is about the mystic-nothingness!

(somebody gave me a puzzle, while at school... it was a copy-by-heart... but quite a good starter for 'what-next'... he said, use the same word to fill in all the three sentences... 1) dash is greater than God, 2)dash is worse than devil and 3) if we eat dash, we will die!... I did not 'dash' my head for too long... I said, it means to me 'nothing'... other kids wondered, when the asker applauded!... That was how nothing-next-to-me befriended me right from the kid age!)

what next, yours (is the turn!)

psn ( 28th July, 2013)

Dreamy State!

“Which state do you belong to?” is a question that I faced quite often, while at north.. My accent usually got adopted to the place in a reasonably brief time... and therefore the doubt... (they 'feel' that the name, the deeper aspects like choice of words etc do not rhyme with the apparent accent.... and yet this adapted accent is good enough to camouflage the origin of state, or the state of origin... which ever way it is!!!)... This is one of the 'tough' questions, that I really never learnt to answer well!... Demographic details do not support my way-of-being adequately enough to furnish the facts (facts do not sustain THE truth that they 'seem to comprehend'!!!)... the facts are too simple.. born in a village where the parents hail from... just born there... migrated to grow where the livelihood of parents takes them... further 'state' at a state where the higher-educations is stated, not taught, by 'stately' teachers pampered into such stately-states, by the system, which is merely certificate-oriented, not 'Oops' like (Objective oriented, purpose supported)... And then I stand on my-own-two-legs, to state that now I am in a state of my own stability or... a stability of my own.. etc.. Yes! I lived through such confusions, so I am eligible to say it thus, a bit confusingly!

Out-of-world state! That is what appealed to me when this question came up!

Something that got related with my own states-of-being... despite the demographic states trying to rivet me somewhere or other!

Let us go to that question... I do not know if the answer 'states' anything worth while to the asker's state of being! But who knows... my answer might address the state of yet others, here who are unable to state their own state!

Psn (19^th July, 2013)

The question:

( http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20130718211942AAUrZjN )

Why i always remain in dreamy state,how to control it?

I always remain in fantasy world made in my head rather than real world. Since childhood i'm always like this only. Don't know why??? My friends says that PISCEANS always remain in dreamy state. But i don't believe in them as i think that how can a zodiac sign will control my traits?? Whenever any events takes place ultimately i start making it perfect in my fantasy world,even while walking or going to classes i dream a lot. I don't know how to control it because of it i'm getting lazy day by day as i always remain in my own world,i don't feel like doing anything,just keeping myself in that world. How can i control it?? It is over-ruling me. How do zodiac sign affect this?
Yeah I'm a PISCEAN girl.

My reply:

Probably, the use of the words 'dreamy state' is persuaded by that 'dream like state' where we are aware that we are dreaming, yet something 'seems' to prevent us from getting hooked on to the 'outside situation' ... that situation, which is logically better defined as 'ground-realities' (only when we call it as 'ground realities', we also find the simultaneous urgency to get-related to it, for the purpose of behaving cohesively towards furtherance of life... towards self-preservation, survival etc... the enhanced levels of this self-preservation/survival is 'becoming something worth-while in life'!!! That dreamy state seems to fulfill no worthwhile purpose (to satisfy logic!)... If all this is reasonable, the question 'how can I control it' becomes all the more relevant!
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Good to think of becoming 'intune' with life-realities... But.. why should it prevent us from taking a look at the 'phenomenon' that is happening 'while we are in that state--the dreamy state'? If the reasons that we are likely to discover,, while trying to take a look at it, is significant enough to the very purpose of life (!!!)... how about the proposition?
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Please see, if we are aware of 'ourselves being in that dreamy state' while we are in that state... This is the test... (if the answer is no, the whole purpose of looking at it is superfluous, and even redundant!)...
If yes.... then there is some significance... What we call as our body....
Wait.... let us make ourselves a bit more sure.... We are quite familiar with those sleep-dreams, where we are right inside the dream,... deep enough... to be deprived of that awareness that we are inside the dream.. or that 'hey! it is just a dream... don't take it too seriously! that fellow trying to kill you, (in the dream) is your own creation, while dreaming, and the dreamer, the 'you' is as safe as anything, since it is just a dream!!!"
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Now back to 'what we call as our body'.... the moment we say thus, we are aware, the body is ours, and we are not THE body... (We say 'why do you step on me?' when in a crowded bus, some high heel steps on our tender toe... later, we narrate the story saying, ' somebody stepped on MY toe... ' (not me!... and so on...)... Similarly, 'my mind was confused'... is slightly indicative of 'our' freedom, when we also say, 'I am confused'...
The distinction between 'dreamy state' and the 'cohesive imagination' is that we have no control over the thought contents of that dreamy-state, while we(our our ambitions, desires, fears, anger, jealousy... etc... negative/positive/whatever...) drive the thoughts during imagination.... Clearly, there is somewhere the observer, the "we" which is indeed elusive (and that is precisely why this question)... and the dream-state! (I am tempted to answer thus, because, there is a mention "Since childhood I'm always like this only. Don't know why???'.... three question-mark symbols!!!... the innocence about this question is a bit obvious!)...
Now please take a look at the 'known descriptions' of meditative states!.... and decide for yourself!
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Welcome (if it appeals)... into the world of spirituality!
Best wishes, and respectful regards,
spiritualseeker!

Lean for Learn!

An interesting question was inadvertently mis-spelt.
The asker was artistic enough to let the error remain while acknowledging the same in additional details.
All this and the question itself amused me.
The question however raises deep enough questions!
At times we wonder, what do we get spending our precious life time amidst a particular type of people, just by
virtue of our livelihood!
Almost like a doctor, spending the bulk of his time amidst 'sick' people, A psychiatrist amidst.... (well you know).
etc.
What do we learn or gain to lean so much upon it?
Psn (29 september, 2009)

quote:

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlmMm9tVyKWPiIW6b5SgSs52HQx.;_ylv=3?qid=20090927210243AAo2R7p

How often do you lean something new from answers...?

... to your questions? hmmm... to answers to others questions also.

Additional Details

opps: LEARN (darn, did it again)

My lean/inclination (that is, the answer)

Only when we are inclined to lean that we do learn.
Else it is just 'darn' (the patch work that tailors do to a 'worn' clothing!).
See, even at word play, it is worth it!
And then, we lean upon what we mean by learning.
That again would lean upon how we learn the how to learn!
Potential is what the Japanese recruiters tend to lean upon of late!
Here too, that potential keeps the learning curve leaning towards something new in the answers!

Repetitiveness!

Even repetitiousness means the 'same'... !

Even the 'talk' about the need to change ourselves, fatigues the mind, when repeated too often!

(At least why don't they change the way it is told! The way we count the change (small coins) doesn't change, for instance... and they keep repeating that 'change' is permanent..... no, it is in short supply always!)

If we try to list out the things we do not mind being repeated, it is going to be a very brief one, and it contains those items, which seldom get repeated!

When we feel inclined to become a little devotional (just to try it out and see how it feels,) the typical lines of a bhajan tires us out too soon, with its endless repetitions and we wonder, how those dedicated devotees manage it!

Colours of dress were repetitious until recently! Printed designs brought some cheer, but only for a short while... the bulk of varieties at a cloth store has brought a unique kind of 'repeat-fatigue'... the previous experience of wading through too many of varieties seems to remind us of a 'repeat-of-same-exercise' in the offing(not the availability of varieties... the thought of 'having to go through the tedious task of going through so many varieties yet again!... The sales person looks repetitiously-cheerful each time we visit!!!)

Oh! Life seems a repetition already, with even the 'talk' ... about rebirth cycles!

And our blogs?... Sermons, advises, suggestions, reminders...?

Somewhere, the mind ... our mind it is... holds us in a grip of indecisiveness, when it disallows a choice to us, to look at things afresh! And it is the 'repetition of this indecisiveness' that evades notice ... otherwise, we would have been wise! The person is wise, not the mind... mind you! And when a person is wise, it is the mind that gets noticed as a 'beautiful mind'!!! (Does it sound more familiar, when we say 'wise-mind'... or a 'wise person'...)...

Please see... when we just look around... the eye pauses, the moment it notices something that does not match with our memory.. (kids keep asking, 'what is that?' too often... their database is yet to find something similar within it, when they see it on the outside... We all are.... somewhere within us... performing a 'de-duplication' task with our processor at an incredible speed! Only that some of us are fond of tiring others with the verbalising of the results, with a repetitious dialogue of 'I know it..'... And, even if the articulation of it is at a speed, we are fond of listening to the repetition, like... when that humble 'server/waiter' at a medium-cost-hotel, who repeats the list of 'hot-dishes' at a great speed!

At my school, we kids used the word 'repeat' even to ask a fellow to beat/hit his victim yet again! 'Peett' in Hindi, is a slang to mean 'smash-hit' him... Re-peet... was simply re-do it... re-smother him... (The reason, why this funny way of coining it came about was... one of our teachers was fond of asking us to 'repeat' the homework 7, 14, 21, 70 .. etc times, yes.. it was multiples of 7 and to this day, none of us know why it was so!... We all felt the re-peat so intensely that we would have preferred some beating/'peeting' instead! Or.. maybe the joke got into our head... 'kal' is tomorrow... what is parsoen?... and we were told, 'tomorrow ke upar aur ek maro'! )... Kids almost hate doing things they dislike, again and again... But if they like something, they argue, that the previous repetition was 'yesterday'... not today! Good movies, we proudly declare having seen the nth time!

Spirituality, when it engulfs us, after those tedious repetitive practices of tools and techniques, releases us from the concept of repetition itself... for... “we” already are much-much 'earlier'... than all concepts!

Repetitively yours,

psn (10^th July, 2013)

Dog-eat-dog Versus Spirituality!

It is difficult for a spiritual seeker to 'manage' in a dog-eat-dog world!

(http://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/dog+eat+dog )

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Objectivist philosophy comes at least half way! It allows healthy competition!

Spiritual path defies logic, even in this arena!

Somewhere, the healthy discussions on a spiritual forum tends to end up deploying that 'dog-eat-dog' concept, be-fooling even the most well-meaning-minds, inadvertently, unconsciously, egoistically, etc... etc...

I was wondering.. A dog symbolizes loyalty(!), Faithfulness(!), and such noble attributes... and then why this dog-eat-dog?

Does not matter... if it seems good that way.... let us not have a dog-fight over it... be it so!

How to now manage... this spiritual business and the survival within dog-eat-dog world?

Only brilliant people can give logically-convincing solutions!

I just got absorbed into spirituality so much that ..... when I see that competition is now inevitable, and it is only doggedness that is going to dominate, I wag my tail a little, wrap up the tail now and quietly leave! It is sheer 'grace' that I managed survival this far even! (Incidentally here, on spiritual path ... converse theorem works too well! I even came across a wonderful Teacher who said, to the class... “Those who are seeking comfort-oriented-blessings, please go elsewhere... the world is now full of such 'Gurus' who give guaranteed results for a small fee even! My blessings would be... 'Let everything that can ever happen to a human being, also happen to THIS disciple of mine!'... In spite of it, if you are alive, you have won! Richer by experience! If you are gone... then it is again won... no more problems, with material life!”

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Even at material aspect of life.... only human beings can see... out of their sense of discretion, that it makes 'sense' to let sensible people live a bit more comfortably! That is how, Kings used to patronize artists, craftsmen, teachers and above all spiritually oriented people as teachers!!! It is the intrinsic value for something precious in a human being, which, when we recognize  persuades us to leave competition out of their way, paving way for only humility... and through humility, our own receptivity!

Receptively yours,

psn (7^th July, 2013)