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Saturday, April 28, 2012

Duty versus Love


I found a very good blog “Love is not a duty”!
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It did 'provoke' a thought process in me!

It reminded me of a dialogue from a TV serial, where the author surmised the entire relationship between spouses, very briefly, and yet very beautifully, precisely, and yes.... completely!

It takes a lot, to really expand that idea ( of that author of the TV serial), and to grasp it in its entirety!!!

All he said was, “during the yester-years, the spouses looked at marriage as a 'duty' to the other spouse. Today, they look at it as a 'right' against the other spouse”.... He simply added: 'please look at the bulk of divorce cases... the whole quarrel is about some 'right'!... And all of those successful marriages have a common binding-factor, of offering oneself unconditionally towards the spouse in a duty-bound attitude..... it is up to the individuals to choose , as to how they wish to have the relationship of a 'marriage'....'

The problem with 'love' is, after we often look at the manifest form of it, to understand it, and then just stay there, stuck to the manifest form! It is okay to make a humble beginning with 'giving' out unconditionally, to get that feel of it... but some time, we have to 'allow' ourselves to becoming a loving-being, with that love as a quality of our very being (the manifest form depending only on the outside situation..... for instance, if we are alone on a tiny island right from birth, still we can be a loving-being :) ...)... that 'duty-business' is the consequence, not the purpose of love itself! All other duties are obligatory, for some kind of social orderliness. (The so-called bullock-cart-days-people, in their great wisdom had very consciously chosen to exempt the wandering mendicants, monks, sanyasis, etc from all kinds of duty-bound-obligations... they had enough trust in themselves, their own wisdom, to know that these people are already a 'loving-being' in every sense, and need no rules to be governed upon!)

psn(28th April, 2012)

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