Forgive and Forget

I am even quite uncertain, if the asker would have taken into consideration the deeper “implications” when the words “moulded into the person you are” were used!
And it was therefore that I confined my answer to those glaring issues that we ‘feel’ in the form of a long term ‘scar’ that remains, after the wound heals.
But, in spiritual terms, everything that we are, everything that we perceive of ourselves, is something that has got molded or ‘welded’ into us! Even those wonderful “good” habits, that adorn us like golden bangles, bracelets etc, are in fact some kind of ‘shackles’ that we simply refuse to look at as that!
Those who try to peep within, simply find it perplexing, as to what they have to look at, within us, to have a glimpse of that ‘being’ in its pure form! Even those fortunate ones, who have a hazy ‘feel’ of meditative states, feel having failed to ‘capture’ the glimpse of that experience to be able to ‘hold’ on to something that one can look forward to, something that one can identify, to draw some inspiration, satisfaction and consolation or even some comfort that ‘we are on the right track’!
And yet, when those Masters speak with such emphasis, such certainty, the mystic-element in it, is indeed quite baffling!
All this may sound like some stupid jargon when we look at it with a very casual approach. But, if we like to make use of the technique, to put it to little bit of routine use in our daily life, it does work wonderfully well, and the results are quite rewarding. That is the idea of placing the question and answer before you here.
Let us make it happen.
Regards,
Psn(6th August, 2010)

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100804231633AA7tEBZ

How do you forgive and forget abuse when it has molded you into the person you are?
Forget about the past is such an over statement.

My answer:
That is why in the ancient, Indian 'way of life' spirituality is symbolised with that lotus flower that gets nurtured by slush, stays in slush, and yet remains untouched by it. Forgive and forget, in its raw form is quite impractical. We remember wounds, hurts, insults, pit-falls, etc more than good times. That 'forget & forgive' is a temporary shelter to get started, before we conclusively resolve, with a deep and clear understanding that our being remains untouched by all those events (both good and bad) that occur in our life span. The question is just about our 'experiential' realisation of that purity, nothing more! But what sounds so ridiculously simple is not at all that easy (that is why we have this good and valid question)!