Indecisiveness!

How to tackle, is a question that can arise only after we resolve our indecisiveness about whether we are indecisive at all!
It may sound funny, but we are so well trained in ‘masking’ ourselves, that it is quite possible, that we may use all ‘substitutes’ to avoid the direct tackling of it. That is how we have ended up evaluating anything and everything, including our deep emotions, bonds etc.
I happened to ask a queer question to a young girl who had recently got married. Both the spouses are well educated, well placed etc. The boy’s parents too are well educated, healthy and reasonably well off. The family of three (boy & parents) amicably welcomed the fourth one and have a smooth sailing.
What I asked was just this: Suppose this girl hailed from a labour-class, doing domestic-help as a servant maid for a living, with her parents, and gets married to a boy from similar family, and after marriage, happens to continue the same job (necessity of the their social level of subsistence). Instead of mother, the mother-in-law decides the houses to be ‘covered’ for washing dishes. Perhaps, this mother-in-law picks just the ground-floor flats, to avoid climbing, now that the daughter-in-law is there! By trying to visualize both the situations, which of the husbands is a “more husband” than the other? The question isolates from all other easily comparable parameters, and narrows down exclusively to the quality of bond. Even educational qualification does not have much of a role to decide the quality of relationship.

Well, this quiz has nothing much to do with the question of indecisiveness, but was used to merely invoke the quizzical aspect of our mind.
Regards,
Psn(7th January, 2010)

Quote:

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100107051920AAhPyfr

The question:
How to tackle "indecisiveness".........?
Im a 22 year old . I think at least hundred times before and after taking any decision , even small daily life....how to tackle this mind's attitude.help me..........? and i regret infinite times.huh..?

My answer:
Great! Already proved to be very very 'decisive' than most average people around, about one thing (that is to be indecisive about even small things, most of the things)!!
All that is required is to just reverse this. Once we are very indecisive about 'being indecisive', the decision about all other things would simply flow forth out of us!
True, it sounds nice as a play of words, and very difficult to actually try it out. The problem is that indecisiveness itself is an 'abstract' concept, and loosely lying somewhere within us, evasive and elusive. All we have to do is to try a little bit of circumspection about the root of this indecisiveness. Has it got something to do with our 'sense of discretion' or even the lack of it? Is it just that we are a bit reluctant to 'exercise' that discretion, ( sort of a refusal to 'deploy' the software called 'sense of discretion')? Or is it as plain as a constant conflict between our desire of what should happen in the outside situation, and our own 'practical logical assessment' of what is more likely to happen?
This indecisiveness is something that happens to everyone. Just that some are smart and perhaps lucky, like those trapeze artists who invariably have a strong safety net far below, and yet are successful in drawing the awed admiration of audiences!

Unquote:
Tailpiece:
And now it is out an ‘indecisiveness’ that I add a question which I feel has some indication of an example of “indecisiveness”, and if ‘yes’ then it is worth referring to it.
So, I make it brief, with just a comment, that when it comes to a ‘life-time’ decision, what kind of a spouse to choose, a question of this type seems relevant.
I end up with just the hyper-link, to leave you with a ‘taste’ of indecisiveness as to whether to click on the link or not ?? !!
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ak2VSiiOvV9OHu0o7SULLSJ2HQx.;_ylv=3?qid=20100106091012AAhieX0
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