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Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Learning to say Thank You

Of late, the fashion seems to have faded out.. 'saying : “Thanking you in anticipation, yours faithfully”... and the advice was, to use these phrases, 'especially' to government officials, who turn down a request, quite whimsically, with no one around to question them! Power is in their hands (not just discretion, or the sanctioning authority... raw power!)... So, thank you is a 'caution-deposit' and non-refundable!

I would try to dramatise, and imagine, as to how this 'anticipation-wala-thankyou' would have taken birth?

Next door uncle: “Beta... yeh lo... chaak-late/chocolate... khaa jao... eato/eat”
Kid: stares blank, for a while, and even blinks!
Dad: “le lo uncle pyaar se de rahe hain..”
(Kid, wonders,... chocolate wrapper ke andar sirf chocolate hota hai.. yeh pyar kahaan include hai packing mei?)... but anyway, he blurts.. “Tan-kooo”..
Now there is no shortage of any 'interpretor'... Dad, “Thank you bol raha hai... bachha hai na!” (now, whatever it means, that.. 'bachha hai na'... if it were an adult, 'you had it'!!!)

Next day, the same 'next'door wala uncle...
The kid is looking at his palms... it is open! No chocolate! Jaane doe... But what about 'tan-koo'?, he wonders!... Aaj kal, advance payment ka procedure aa gaya hai kya?...
By chance, if that kid says, a 'tan-koo'... no chocolate... still a tan-koo... woh uncle ka baaja baj gaya.. KOoooo.. he doesn't know what to do with that 'bribe after retirement?'

We teach 'gratitude' + 'humility'... like we teach, 'Beta don't fall' when we find suddenly that this kid has climbed up a tall tree, and calls 'de-ko'/de-kho/whatever... We do not have the knees and bones to climb up and rescue... we are shy of calling 'fire-service' (they have that-kind-of-ladder, though there is no 'actually-fire' or a 'duplicate-fire'..!)... We shout: Beta, don't fall... do-not-fall! (shaayad, at that height,, he can't read that coma after the “don”, the don-'-t ...).. He does not know how to give-effect to the command, 'do not fall'! It feels almost like that empty-thank you! Bol tou diya hai... (kuch hua kya?.. abhi tou nahi.. abhi tou nahi.. wala song!)..

Instead, .. may be, something like “Hold tight”.. he, knows, 'exactly' what to do... he keeps-holding tight, not waving Ta-Ta... Birla etc.. As a consequence, that 'don't fall' is ato-matic/automatic... Later, he might even remember, and feel gratitude, “Hey bhagwaan, aap ne sirf ek baap hi nahi, usko thoda sa brain bhi diya hai!” (warna... bulk of upadesh, would be 'unable to carry out wala... Matru devo bhava... the pitaaji says, treat-mom-as-God?.. Arey! I feel like mata-ko-devour bhawa... she keeps shifting blame for even her own forgetfulness on me!.. Even the dad has not seen a God, and here he is giving upadesh, treat-mom-like-God?.. even the prashaad, has to be mom-manufactured, not me... gas lighter ko haat nahi lagaana, is the warning... aur mujhe paanv/leg se sulgaana aata hi nahi!)...

The kid grows... Somewhere, he learns... either of the two things.... This humility is a mere show-business, and unless, there is a useless/meaningless-Thank you.. it cannot sail through into that other-fellow's brain!.. Another possibility: A bit rare one.. He understands, that he-understands-the-hollowness of such a Tan-koo... and this 'understanding of such-understanding' was due to a human birth! He feels grateful to rab/uparwala/whatever! (By now, he is sure,, the dad and mom are just yet-another-assembly of machines that manufactured him, and not their skill, in his birth!)... Possibly, he evolves, and deepens his perception... He becomes aware of of 'beings' who even refuse to show any 'id-proof'.. and yet they support him, during his empty-cup-wala-state, during meditations, usually! Now a 'new kind of 'thank you' that doesnt seem to really suffice, a new sense of gratitude, that seems too tiny.. so the question of 'email-id' doesn't even arise... Maybe a few tears roll down!..
He tries to share.. Most likely that others mock, saying, 'You hallucinate'... He doesn't protest... He humbly says, 'Maybe you are right!.. I might have merely hallucinated...”... He checks within... He is not too-sure.. But, it works! If fortunate, it 'occurs to him'.. this hallucination, is a 'win-win' one.. the after effects do stay.. after-effects do not need a hefty-fee to a psychiatrist, in fact, it keeps me away from him!... The residues of 'common cases' of hallucination doesn't tally here!..
He goes on 'speculating' thus... And maybe, another problem of a new source of gratitude for him... But that is his problem, (though a fictional story of mine)!...

Fictionally yours,

psn (24th December, 2014)

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