I do not compartmentalize the topics, when I try to write for my blog post.... Basically, every activity that revolves around 'humans' is worth discussing... It is only for convenience of a better focus, indepth study, that we 'categorise'.... But, the very nature of mind, given what it is, tends to resist, and ends up compartmentalizing, instead of categorizing.... In this process, people around me try to dissuade me from voicing certain opinions, which might evoke needless controversy.... I too, oblige them, and retain those pieces of writing, within the confines of the isolated hard disk... Not out of any fear (that is why the title, Pyar kiya tho darna kya..), but out of consideration that those in the immediate proximity have a reasonable claim upon my leisure, which becomes shaky when vulnerable posts evoke those 'needless controversies. But this one, I decided to go ahead, since the benefits to those who might be really intense, could outweigh the other apprehensions....
Enough of prologue.... on to the main stuff.
There was a blog post, and I was asked to give my opinion. After a while, I felt it is good enough to constitute an independent post by itself. So, the post that sparked this one, is given as a brief link (to those who are interested), and my response, which, I feel is readable by itself, not very dependent on any preceding arguement, I reproduce hereunder....
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My response:
I read that link.... It is very difficult to give specific and 'related' comments, because it has to be confined to the contents, which would essentially render it 'subjective' by nature... where as, our idea is to look at it objectively. There has been an 'attempt' to highlight the worth of ancient and traditional values... but as can be easily seen, the difficulty is in making it appeal to the modern logical mind....
The very 'form' of that traditional concept that is handed down to us is quite complex, and any 'logical' overview is bound to make it appear 'outdated, obsolete, stupid, illogical'.... The only clue is the surprising/baffling/perplexing fact that this tradition has sustained for so long!!! This clue, by itself, is not really good enough to lead us to the intrinsic worth of those traditional values! A rational mind (rational in the 'modern' sense of the word.... admirably, the 'modern' sense of the word is beyond that 'logical' mind.... it seeks to combine logic with certain 'human' values, emotional values... quite admirable, but not really adequate, for the typically "Indian" ancient values to be understood!
Please see, two simple things are within our reach even today....
1. Hunger-satiation.... Very few people today happen to eat the next meal, after they become really 'hungry'.... What they misconstrue to be hunger is usually an 'empty stomach! Now, that hunger statiation is afresh each time, and mind is almost incapable of bringing any interference of the past satiation-experience....
2. Thirst satiation.... The experience of water satiating the thirst usually lasts only up to the throat level.. very few travel along with the water up to the stomach at least, though the body is ready to allow us access, (in fact, the body yearns for 'our ' participation), right up to the cellular level even!
If these two 'seem' reasonable, rational, then there is some scope to discuss the third one, where the 'nature' is a bit benevolent...
3. The mating ..... For the purpose of procreation and preservation of the species, nature has designed this instinct to be 'felt' afresh.... but human beings can exercise their choice to recaptulate the mind, the memory and lose its 'experience'. (Few spiritual masters have gone deep into the aspect, and have evolved a technique to reach that 'in the moment' state using this act.... It is the gross mis-interpretation of this technique that has rendered it into the present 'devalued-presented-form'.... A parallel example, is the purpose of 'aghora-yoga' , which still scares the 'common' mind... but can be easily comprehended by a person who has reached a reasonable level on a spiritual path..... ).... Another 'easily' verifiable fact is , it is very difficult to 'fake' or 'feign' the pleasure or joy during the act of mating.... and it is this aspect, which leads a person to 'matching' partner most of the times, more than other things....
Marriage, its rules, traditions, etc are all 'self-imposed' restrictions....
Any self-imposed restriction is usually for the purpose of evolving into something higher.....
For example, an 'ideal' student, abstains from games, pleasure, fun, etc, and confines to study hard, with a clarity of higher purpose... it could be to 'grasp the concept' of the subject, way beyond just passing the exams, just reproducing by-heart, the text-book contents.... (quite rare, but such students do reach research level, and stay there for life, instead of stagnating)....
Another example, a surgeon, abstains from caffine (coffee), a week ahead of the date of brain-nerve-surgery, with the clarity that his hands/fingers should not shake/shiver, during the intricate surgery.....
If we make an attempt to look at those 'stupid/meaning-less' looking traditional styles of relationships prescribed for 'marriage-relationships', and then try to equip with the necessary perception-tools to examine these rituals, then and only then, there is a possibility for the 'reason' behind it to become 'visible'.... Till then, such discussions, and debates are bound to be fruitless.... (It does make sense to 'at least' enjoy the gift of nature, that primitive physical pleasure that is already available, provided, we do not overdo it too much , beyond what 'nature' has designed this bio-logical body for!!! Even animals, confine to the 'nature's rules, though without that self-awareness... It is the self awareness, which imposes that 'choice'.... again, choice is not a freedom, it is the compulsion to 'choose'.. ... within those two choices, either overdo it, or have self-imposed restrictions, and be rewarded with evolvement!)...
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(Even this length of 'comments' is unduly long, by the 'common-standards'.... so, it is 'rational' to close it at least here!)
PSN(16th January, 2012)
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