Being Practical
“Are you being Practical???๐ก๐ก”
This is the main issue very often in our inter-personal relationships.
The details of “what is practical”, differs vastly with each situation ๐.
Only a deep and complete understanding of “dharma”( a sanskrit word & name for a scientific concept called cosmic laws) can guide us Flawlessly ๐. This kind of grasp is impractical unless we “attained” moksha, Jeevan mukti, ( in simple terms “Enlightenment”๐)
Hurdles in becoming “practical” is something we can atleast “try” and make out daily lives a ‘bit' easier ๐
1)Giving up our own personal desires, wants and likings, is the most prevalent and most common hurdle.
2) Our personal desires can be controlled or governed by logic or emotions. Logic can Never understand emotions and, emotions are unavailable to logic. Enough for an internal conflict???
Examples:
A desi tradion of ‘kanya daan’ is 100% illogically designed ๐๐. Ideally, we ought to ‘become’ inquisitive to ask ourselves “ then why the _hell did this custom & related rules prevail successfully for milleniums???๐ก”
Why should we ask_at_all this question?
Don't ask!๐ ( Logical response!)
Intellect is better inclusive than our logic. (Intellect is aware of limitations of logic.) Emotions are an inalienable ingredient of this entire cosmos๐. Only the intellect can hope to evaluate the worth & relevance of emotions in any scientific phenomenon. Rishis were at the peak of intelligence. Hence they formulated and prescribed the rules of functional aspects of kanya-daan. Zero scope to ENFORCE these laws (please see, any practice, tradition, law, ritual etc, if based on emotions, can_never_be_enforced ๐๐๐๐)
Exactly why, the kanya-daan concept and its related traditions and rituals are falling apart progressively with each day๐.
Consequence? Except in cases where emotional compatibility is excellent, relations between spouses are falling apart. If logic is too powerful, the relationship hastens faster towards a divorce. An alternative to ‘only_logical_based’ relationship, for marriage is a ‘Live_in_relationship’!
Attrition rate of present day is due to increased patronage towards a ‘live_in_relationship’ ( logic in exclusivity) at workplace ๐. ( Why should I be loyal, in the absence of a commensurate_compensation? ….is the logical question, which has no logical answer).
Domestic relationship– Versus workplace relationship. ( An example).
Logic_based rules are unenforceable in any home, simply because, the base of relationship is emotional, non-commercial and beyond logic. A wife can be a boss at office, but bossing at home cannot sustain ๐๐. Marriage has to metamorphise atleast into slavery, in such cases to survive. And if physical survival is the topmost priority of the hubby, he simply doesn't mind misnaming his slavery as “marriage” to suit the ‘social norms’๐
A very PERTINENT question, “why does it always have to be…only a female that surrenders???๐ก”
A practical reply ( to stubborn minds) is : please do not surrender. Fight unto death ๐ ( if stubbornity can stand aside for the intellect to ‘look’ there is scope for a lasting reply. Till then, breakup of relationship is inevitable ๐)
At home, a mind which is fatigued by ‘non-stop-logic’ at workplace ( techies, typically talk to the monitor_only, and the monitor tolerates ONLY logic, not emotions), seeks ‘some’ emotional outlet ( not_inlet …mind you ๐).
Both the spouses techies, and one_way_traffic_only??? Sustainable? Outlet only, no inlet? Can't last long ๐. Look at divorce rates around tech_cities.๐
Commercialised_minds seek short-cuts for emotional satisfaction/gratification/satiation ๐. Whereas, even emotions, to sustain, needs a strong sense of reasoning, emotional _reasoning ๐ ( a bla-bla-bla response to a sensible question, info, comment from a family member, merely to satiate an emotional thirst, doesn't work. The spouse, kids, siblings…shout back”can't you talk sense????๐ก”. )
Wedding gatherings, is an excellent outlet for releasing the ‘steam’ of pent-up emotions ๐…. Hours of bla-bla, utterly meaningless conversations, works amazingly! Those who can't talk at-all, without logic, ( often males), use the area reserved for ‘drinks’ at the marriage party! Switching off the logic too works๐๐. Problem is, liver gets damaged ๐ญ
Enough of my Bla-bla-bla ๐
What is the clue? ( Solution is a choice)
Inclusiveness is the key!
Inclusiveness sustains relationships. Unfortunately, no logical answer is possible for why_be_inclusive.
Ultimate practicality of inclusiveness is ‘blackhole’. There is no questioner at all, anymore ๐
Simply yours,
psn(21 Jan, 2026)
Post_script punch
Two advises:
1) when rape is inevitable, better enjoy it๐ ( mass appeal, and hence popular)
2) Rajasthan Thakurs to their spouses: burn our kanya girls, then burn yourself. We males will apply on our forehead, the ashes from your burnt bodies, and use the emotions of your sacrifice to Chop off as_many_heads as possible, of the invading JIHADIS, who outnumber us at the moment ๐ ( zero appeal to this advice, yet ....a documented history and the source of 'sati' sampradaya ๐๐๐๐)
If there is a bhagwan ( really ๐ฅ) whom will He give pass_marks? ( Unfortunately, no logic for a query :"why should there be a God at all???๐ก". Either experience God or be doomed to be an atheist or a blind believer. Both are qualitatively same๐)
West enjoys practical jokes.
Witness( victim): my lord. I was raped by this young novice.
Judge (๐ค): why do you say a "novice"???
Lady: beCause my lord..... I had to show him how to do it ๐
