Silly questions

 I might keep adding my sillyness, through questions  here. So revisiting this blog is a subject-matter of solicitation ( not a compulsive-syndrome)

Silly questions

1)Why do we learn? ( How to learn? is a vital question ❓)

2)Why do humans need parenting?

3)why do we miss our sense of discrimination while inside our dream?( we are unable to ask that dead person we knew "hey! You were dead, then how did you appear now?". We also don't know, it is our dream, not real)

4) garbha gruha in a temple is ill_ventilated, and priest further spoils the ventilation burning camphor, incense & oil lamps, and keeps the door shut most of the time….. and yet, he looks fresh? Over years he has no ventilation probs 🙏

5)human death anniversary on moon phases of that month each year, whereas God's birthdays are on moon phases instead of Star birthday like us???

6)festivals related to god's birthdays are usually with junk food ( even as prasadam), whereas food on death anniversary is damn healthy and easily digestible even if we overeat 😜

7)I used to quiz....those who are unlikely to get angry suddenly " can you tell me why......Godji in his different avatar, dashaavataar, etc....give moksha to main villains, the raakshasaas, and leave the poor victims in a lurch??? . Does it not look odd? Not an injustice?" They stare 🫣 no answer😜)

8) who between two is more prone to get angry, a coward or a brave person?( A coward may be even strong, and a brave one weak )

9) Did you mention factually inside your dream to somebody " hey ...I had a dream last night"

Meaning.....was there a dream within a dream????

🙏 i ain't gonna embarass you asking for the "reasons" etc.  🙏 ( that needs a genuine qualification in psychiatry 😜....not just a paper degree. A yogi is enough to explain 🙏)

10) what does the emotion of vismaya/wonder do to us? We dropped it, like we get rid of our appendix, when it is unwell, merely because medical science doesn't know it's purpose 😜

11) are you able to switch off logic and still think, by choice, consciously? 

12) Do you agree with my baseless wild guess.....???

I guess that among all nations globally, even today, Bharat has the biggest ratio/percentage of people, for whom money is not everything. We hold on to values, that are very basic to life, though of  no commercial worth or value .

If....you are able to agree, then your own priorities about those values, over and above wealth? 😜

13)Whenever you meet any acquainted person, 

do you view him with your outdated & fixed opinion?( or with an open mind ready to update the opinion with present reality?😜)

I have this problem : when I meet Valmiki today, I have no way to recognise him as a transformed Rishi, and my perception is outdated by just 3 days, when he was "😫Ratnakar_Bandit". So I was curious about others😜🙏

14) can you describe a thought ( or a sentence), which is not a judgement of any kind? Not a conclusion of any kind?

15) do you know through 'experience' the difference between empty stomach and a hungry stomach. If yes, how do you know you are hungry, if your body is trying to tell you? ( we "feel" very thirsty, and therefore we know, we want water to drink, urgently…..hunger?)

16) I asked my spouse " can you make out if the soiled appearance is gone from a dark coloured saree? You prefer a dark coloured dress, because it hides the soiled_colour, and therefore makes washing easy+lazy 😜

( I won't reveal her answer…. because it deals with deeper_perception to say "yes!"...

17) is humility a cultivable quality, or….is it a mere consequence of 'something/s else? 😜🙏🙏… like, we can cultivate honesty, by speaking truth always, by not taking bribe etc… humility? Is it an exclusive quality like honesty, stealing, looting, donating etc? 

18) kids are taught to respect & revere elders.

Is it sensible to revere and respect mere age, instead of elderliness which is not dependent on age, but probably used to sync with age often in ancient times?

19) do you consciously, and by yourself, voluntarily try to look to see, if you are also a part of the problem, whenever you are confronted by a problem? ( why should I look into? is not my problem. I and pappu are often a problem for others😂( though for diagonally opposite reasons 🙏), and so seldom we find an occasion for this kind of problematic introspection.

20) which one is a choice, positivity or negativity? 😜

First sip, taste, snort of nervous stimulants( drugs, liquor, etc) was a conscious choice. Once addicted, there is no more any choice 😜

Can positivity ever become an addiction? Can negativity be a choice?

21) why are we unable to become very intense in whatever we do, during our waking hours?  All other life forms are quite intense in living. ( What might happen, if we ‘try’ being intense at very routine, mundane and boring jobs?

22) what will you choose between blessings and benediction if there is an offer of any one item from a very powerful giver? ( in my view , there cannot exist anything beyond these two ). 

23) how would you sight wisdom in otther person?   ( relevance.?.. my teacher asked an all_the_more_tough koschan…. “How would you recognise, if the fellow seated next to you in a crowded bus is an enlightened being?”...they don't brag about it)

24) “no response” says the doctor, when he checks a patient in deep coma. But, when we are okay, and interact with our life situations all our waking hours, how often do we respond, instead of reacting ??? ( now, do you feel a reaction to this silly koschan, or does a response surge ?)

25) can wonder/വിസ്മയം/विस्मय be cultivated as a habit/capability, independent of any other emotion ( exclusively)?

Kids used to “wonder” …. Or, is wonder also, a consequence like, innocence,  humility etc? ( darkness & cold are a consequence of absence_of_xyz science)

26) are you having the ability to notice the latent “qualities” in any person, who is largely available within your proximity?( simplified form: if, N.D.Modi had continued to be a chaiwala/teaServer near you for 10 yrs, would have “listed” out several qualities in him? ( so_called andhBhakht, can list good, whereas haters can list bad qualities, though neither of them ever met him in person 😜). My colleages"discovered"me afresh after I turned ex-colleague😜🙏

27) Exceptionally good at which one, othe two , emotions and logic, is going to help becoming good at the other one????

( simplified version....

Excellent emotions enable dexterity at flawless logic?

Or,

Exceptionally accurate logical prowess enables deepest emotional capabilities??)

28) Between logic(reasoning) and emotions, which one can we afford to forego in a situation, of worldly material life?

( even to answer this sensibly, we may need to keep aside for a moment, our  emotion and use logical reasoning ? Dunno 🙄)

29) you may be a slave or a master/boss of your logic and/or emotions… 

But, between  logic and emotions inside us, which is the boss or slave of the other? Or, are they merely interdependent?  Or are they complementary and/or supplementary to each other? 

30) why is it that mother nature chose bleeding ( blood) to cleanse a female after her puberty ( till 55)?  And, we haven't heard of such bleeding-for-cleansing in other life forms, why? ( a very deep understanding of this process might-offer a gift of release from psychosomatic disorders that a woman( working ones….err…actually, earning ones) face as stress, tenShun etc in the present day). If we never noticed this aspect hitherto, at least I am not to be blamed😜… menstruating females do-use sweat, urine, etc like any of us, to cleanse their inner physiology,  then why bleeding?  🙏😜😂😂😂( no 2 women bleeding alike, why?)

31) this koschan only for fun🙏 ( let those, who call themselves “scientific tempered”, fathom it)

Why did ancients ask very differently from today's scientists, a basic question? ( ancientquestion was “ why did it rain?”  Instead of today's “how can it rain?” ….  And ancients brought rains using chants and fire worship. Toady “param computer” isn't able to match the ability of ants to predict-a-rain… dr.Yashpal kapoor quotes his true experience when tribals showed him, ants predicting rains🙂🙏)

32) we heard of powerful ascetic, using their powers (acquired through rigorous penances) to pronounce curses on erring people! My question is, was there any instance of an ascetic begetting a curse, because he cursed somebody wrongfully?  Abuse of power, warrants a punishment too, isn't it?🤣😜😜😜😜 ( yes or no…..why?)

33)Why did ancients make a very-conspicuous absence of psychiatry( modern format of psychology, I mean) for “living” humans, when…..they evolved a WHOLE-SCIENCE to counsel the bodyless-minds, stuck in the “past”? BhootAatma refers to a soul stuck into the past. Several complex rituals are available, to evidence their-expertise i reaching+counseling them. 

34) why are we not able to use certain life-specific concepts without needing to consciously invoke them mentally, when it is needed urgently+crucially?  ( the “gravity” concept, for instance, is into our muscle memory. A good motorist pushes the brake-pedal instinctively, while sighting an obstacle, not needing a mind's-effort to tell himself, “hey! Apply brakes”) ROM-and RAM concept.  We use softwares specific to the file-formats, without “invoking” them. Why not certain concepts we learnt?

35) why aren't we able to use the tools to evaluate the analytical-skills of others?( HR  guys, engaged into recruitment will appreciate this “silly” question better 🙏)

( might be continued.... my silliness, being perpetual 😜)

just silly, yours,

psn(7th Sept., 2024)

1 oct 2024 ...( onwards)

36)when all our “modern” and scientifically-advanced gadgets are essentially time-saving-devices, why is it that we find ourselves in a “no time for anything “ situation, compared to our great-grandpas of 200 years ago? 

37) what might be the reason for primitive man to seek “spirituality”??? It was not a “necessity” … in fact, bulk of us have no-idea about our “spirit” ( life, aatma, soul, etc….except for a fanciful-imagination, without experience of actual-life, ticking within us !

38)my personal question ( I am practicing it, that's why mine)...is it worth visualizing something very positive despite knowing it to be impractical? I have-been always visualizing ‘what-ought-be done’, in a situation, though I know, none of the team people are going to accept it. My reasons are, to keep my positivity in planning/visualizing ALIVE-IN-ME. something that needs to  place other's priority greater than mine🙏😰. 

39)which of these 2 are more SUSCEPTIBLE to extreme situations in life? Logic or emotions? ( logic may be strong in us, or emotional balance, or both good or weak, but vulnerability to fail during an extreme situation is due to the ‘nature-itself’, of logic and emotions. These two have its own innate nature, common to humans! That nature decides as to how much security, each one deserves🤣, not how well it works for us. A large glass house is more susceptible to a stone thrown at it, than a tiny house of rocks!...  so, which is vulnerable one? Correct understanding might help us to protect it better🙏)

40) when does intellect function, in us? ( just to persuade involvement in the question, let us see, if this is really true?   It dawned conceptually, on whiskies in digital technology after decades of observation of computer's stupidity of GiGo-garbageIn-out…. And therefore the ‘attempt’ to make it intelligent,  A.I. … yet, machines are unable to mimic human intelligence.  At least for now!  But we have our intellect as an embedded-software 😜… part of original equipment. Original accessory 🙏… so, like to look at it? School syllabus sharpens mind, seldom our intellect😭) 

41) why do teachers have to STAND and teach while we-students SIT and listen, in our classrooms? Save furniture, let students stand & give just 1 chair for that knowledgeable teacher?( my kid-age question! I didn't ask till I knew the DEEPER reason😜)

42) do you keep learning at least 1 new thing daily? ( 2 problems, we face, I learning “new”.  I. Learning curve turns horizontal/flat, as we age. 2.repeated routine dulls our focus towards new). A silly-example, from me. When slurping(surrrr) hot tea, I hold the sipped tea to exhale air in mouth, and then gulp the 5 ml tea, thus…reducing the air entering my stomach with each sip of tea---a learning from even-routine.  It seems, godess of learning conceded “what I know is like a fistful of sand and yet-to-know is the sand on shores of all the oceans”. 

43) do you ‘allow’ your stomach to ‘feel’ hunger? ( stomach cannot-think, it can only feel!). Or, do you deny it, by refueling as-soon-as stomach feels empty? … ( sorry, ….stomach can even transmit data to our brains, if+when it experiences starvation, which is next level of hunger😜)

44) why are we unable to make breath-watching into a habit?

45)why is it that we do not get-to-see any creature ( ant, fly, mosquito, snake, birds, etc not under captivity, in free state) when it is about-to-die? ( we surround a dying fellow-human, about to die, sick or wounded, beyond scope to save, and watch that person dying helplessly). I don't know, if I may feel a little humiliation even, if I come to know the truth of 'this-why'!

46)Why don't we use art as a litmus test to assess an emotional responsiveness in a person? ( 😜 well, being “silly” in asking questions is also about adding irritants in a question, that can also be framed decently. 🙏) i am assuming that “art” and fine-arts, etc, need a bit of sensitivity of the emotion contents in a being! Even “stone” was said-to-have melted itself by the music of “Mian Tansen”. Maybe an overexaggeraShun/over-exaggeration. But still, an appealing one to our emoShun ain't it?😜. Any way, “emotions” have a lot to do with Spirit, hence,  with spirituality as well😭

47)if health is necessary to enjoy wealth,  when we have time to enjoy it, Obviously, wealth and time available is useless without health. My silly question is :  a)health means, both mental and physical health?  b)between mental and physical health which one is “basic”? More of one is important to enjoy the other?  c) between two people A & B…. Who is better fortunate? A is physically okay, but mentally ill, whereas B is mentally okay, but physically ill, so who is more fortunate between-the-two? d) are we more familiar with health measures related to physical or mental health? ( mental “health” homes …. bring patients only to “normal” level, not to a healthy-mind level 🤣…. if at all, it is not toooo-late for a patient🙏)

48)”do you TRUST yourself?” A very silly thing to ask ourselves 🙏. But, please see, we usually look at it as self-confidence, not trust. Our mind is comfortable, in dealing with ‘confidene’,  when it is about self!  Whereas, when it comes-to building a strong relationship,  trust is the fulcrum. Does our inner relationship between mind and our ‘being’( the life energy/spirit/soul/atma/whatever… has a trust factor? This is the question. When we say my-mind, are we not accepting a “me” other than my-mind?)

49)Why aren't we bothered about improving our NATURAL intelligence?  Already we are scared by seeing copypastes & forwards, threatening us saying that this AI( artificial intelligence,  robots, machines) will take-over from us, our independence,  freedom,  or whatever 😉.  Why not start again at basics like, “when does our intellect ( not our mind or organ brain) FUNCTION?”  Are you the type who says “i do only crisis-management. Let AI cause harm, only thereafter, I will wake up my intelligence”👍. Okay! Your freedom then🙏

50)why is it that….one hindu godess alone does not “sell” an insurance policy? 🤣…   ( all other deities display a gesture called ‘Abhaya-mudra’ which is show of palm, symbol of congress-party, to mean “why you fear, when I am here?” … a very scientific verse, tantra based, is my source for its authenticity🙏… verse 4, waves of beauty_____त्वमेका नैवासि प्रकटितवराभीत्यभिनया). How is this operational? Scientifically? No need for blind belief, once we know_how?  Hinduism is irreligious.  Anybody can try to find_out the answer😜👍

51)how do we know, if we are intelligent at a particular point of time? ( like "now, I am intelligent, to whatever possible extent🙏"). Functioning of intellect is not a "default" item, like our breath or heartbeat. It can work for anyone, anytime. But knowing its symptoms/diagnosis, might help us to switch_it_on, when there is darkness in our mind? 🙏. A very silly thing to ask. And most sacred/silliest, as the fifty-first one, an auspicious numeral 😜

52)how to ….improve our own sensitivity better than what we have right now? ( is it not the “sensitivity” at different levels, functioning very uniquely at each level, that helps us to evolve? What try_to_call as divine, a person, saint, God's agent or God-himself is about EMOTIONAL-Sensitivity in that “being” at its peak levels? The acts of kindness, love, or whatever is merely a response, isn't it? A dialogue in a hindi movie “namakharam” a wise elder advises the hero “only when you find the pain in others to be unbearable,  you become capable to help the poor. So don't  give up your responsibility as a labor-leader 🙏”. That wise elder sensed the sensitivity_level of that hero well👍 Good diagnosis 😜)

53)can you 'feel' the water we drink, beyond our throat? Indeed a stupid question🙏( not just-silly)

We require to drink a glass of water, when we feel a little thirsty. When gulping, Can we try....and accompany that thin stream of water going down? Most of us have almost zero experience about "what happens, once the water goes below, beyond the throat Doesn't matter. Body takes it to the right place/destination 👍 ( our accountability is only to avoid that "junction" where, another pipe leads into our lungs 🤣.... we cough with-pain ..... not smooth like exhaling air! Water without saliva causes a burning sensation🙏. But, for those who can manage to extend their curiosity, a little "cold" water can enhance the feel a little beyond. Maybe chest? ( with practice, we can even feel the water playing, fooling_around in our stomach 😜 Worth trying? 🤔🤔😰

54)does our mind ever add to our energies?( hyper-active mind, depletes our reserve-stock of energies too, whether such activity was gainful or needless-hypertension 😜.  Does it ever add? Physical activity, we know. ) we are good at taking bodily rest, when our energies are depleted.  Are we capable of requesting our mind “hey! Shut up for a while…. fuel tank is too low!”

55)Silly question now....😜

Is the transition from a stubborn logical mind to emotion tougher..... or, is an adamantly emotional mind to logic more tougher? ( I could have asked "easier?" instead of "tougher?" ....but then..... ain't i a tougher nut?😜👍🙏🙏🙏)

56)why is the battery/power of sage Durvasa not getting depleted/reduced/exhausted DESPITE unlimited number of curses he throws around?  ( famous for anger, curse and its effect). All other sages, rishis, ascetics have to start again with rigorous penances/tapas, to restore their expended tapobal/power_of_penances 😰).  Try asking it to those who lecture, or proclaim knowledge in ancient scriptures👍…  Yes, there is a very “scientific” reason🙏

57)can you listen without thinking anything parallel-to listening? ( even the most “sincere” listeners struggle to avoid ‘thoughts’ surfacing from memory, related to what they heard during the previous moment….  😜….  Probably why, listening & talking gibberish-meaningless words, got evolved into a meditaShun-itself😜🙏). I wont embarrassed your-mind, asking the NEXT-LEVEL  question : “can you READ without a parallel-track engaged in thoughts?”  Like to try listening with-inner-silence? It might work WONDERS with your grasping pawar/power🙏

58)🙏not a decent thing to ask those who are unfamiliar with epic stories of Ramayana/Mahabharatha, but there are “enough” people who “may” wonder “hey! Why did this NOT-OCCUR to me earlier?” 58A) why is it that Rama(main hero) never attempted to “distribute” advices? No sermons!  58 B) why is it that Rama ALWAYS needed ‘help’ from other God's, other people, even monkeys😜 to tackle his personal problems? His wife was abducted, not citizens🙏. Not a political war! Personal vendetta!  None of the other “avatars” ever needed external help, to deal with demonic villains of epics😂 58 C) Shiva himself certified that the “name” itself is equal to chanting entire sahastraNama(1000 names of vishnu) Such is the embedded software in the name “Rama”. My silly koschan is “before Rama, that is during or before tretaYuga, was there the name “Rama” given to any person? 🤔 58 D) i dont want to irritate the reader any further, though…. I can think of few more “quixotic “koschans” like this, from epics. But, is it that my sense_of_discrimination ended_up/got_infected with computer virus, and maybe therefore, that I ask such indiscriminately-discriminated questions? ( even from holy epics?😭🙏)

59) Ever wondered why.....fundamental duties are not enforceable at law? ( Rights are invoked all_the_time, in courts, and often by "bad" ones 😜)... what if we try to make it a cognizance_offence in failing to perform fundamental duties? 🤔 ( Oops! Most of us dunno what the hell our 'duties' are? We abandoned a 4000 year old desi tradition of teaching "duties" to our kids😜 Jai Hind 🙏

60) ever wonder? Why is it that only-God's existence gets questioned toooo-often?????   Why Devil's existence rarely gets questioned? Not even as-often-as we question a “ghost's” existence ?  (Meanwhile, a question i ask ONLY-TO-MYSELF, not others😭…  “who inside me, is prompting me to ask this question? Devil-himself, for advertisement?  Or the outsourced-agent of God, just to sudue a negative-publicity, which is affecting his bijness?”..... someday, I shall hopefully get independence from these 2 guys, and then observe from a safe-distance, who-has-dunn-it? 🙏😜)

61)computer era! 😜 Why is our-storage location (human-memory)behaving funny? Everything is in-put as video. But, storage is different? 1.Video memory(only extreme situations  of tragedy, comedy) 2.audio( only medium-relevant files… forget lessons after exam-basis) 3.text ( not worth remembering, unless external compulsions exist) Whereas, Smartphone is exact replica of video(GB), audio (MB), text (KB)...and recall is easy+accurate! Human memory is “supposed” to be more complex/sophisticated etc? 🤔

62)Which one is ‘easier’ to learn from? a)luckily, being able to see the_stupidity in an action of an idiot? ( he fell in a pit, being careless in watching his step) or b)from a wise proverb like “watch your_step/look_before you_leap …. Type of “essence of wisdom from generations)???  There are no “right or wrong answers” . The idea is to realise+recognise which suits my_mind? Experience or words? And within Experience,  myself getting injured or live_video of an idiot getting injured?😜

63) can you help? I was ‘wondering’( like babies do all_the_time😜).....  why did humans evolve into “we need to work, for our food”?  Even today, ( like it ‘used to happen for ALL humans thousands of years ago) that ALL-OTHER-LIFE_FORMS don't need to go-to-work, for a-living 🤣…. Food happens naturally!  A few “hunt” for food, but dats_not ‘working-for-money’.  Why?🙏😰😰😰🤔

64) "എന്നെ ശപിക്കരുത്" ( please do not curse me!)

A very common & popular dialogue in Malayalam,  even today (🤣) in real & reel life, between 2 people emotionally attached!

Not that "curses" really work! 😜

But other languages don't find it using in routine conversations!  ( why? 🤔.... why only "malayalis" stick to this "request"?

Very close to another mystery = when requesting for any blessings,  it becomes a request for 'benediction' ( anugraham)  the moment they use Malayalam for this request🤣😜😜

Unless the curiosity is intense, mind cannot decipher its "mystic" reasons 🙏😔

65)What do we do with our mind, when too much focus is not needed, while doing a dull routine? ( driving a car on a smooth desolate highway, mind is free to engage itself into any thought, with bare minimum alertness required to focus on the road. Just look-out for hurdles, and keep driving.  While “watching” for a rising milk level, when it is on stove for boiling, the mind might travel elsewhere, and that ‘little alertness is lost, and milk spills over🙂). What do we do? Allow the mind to drift like a kite with a broken string? Or, do we decide what our mind should “think”? Or, are we really good-at, silencing our mind and remaining vigilant with total relaxation?😜 

66) which one is less harmful in case of a crash…. Hope or desire? ( 😰 my apologies, for being dumb-myself, about the distinction between the two🙏). We face psychosomatic consequences,  when a hope or a desire crashes during actualization!  Recovery of psyche depends on whether it was a hope or a desire. Residues last as a karma, over lifetimes, if unreconciled!

67) Assuming that our ghost stories are true, logically everybody turns into ghost isn't it?  Only a few are ‘problematic’ and hence those ghost-stories😜 My “silly koschan” is….. among those problematic ones( whether stories, or experiences), what kind of unfulfilled desires is driving them into becoming a problematic-ghost? Emotional desires or logical desires? 🙏 ( now, don't start “planning” to start a “consultancy Startup" to ask a ghost! 😰…. There were taantriks already, and they even had disciples!)

68) a silly question that baffled me🙏😰 Generally, those who didn’t get an opporChutney to go to a school, feel a little regret. They never say “I don't need a schooling! I can become self-literate”( though a good number do-manage to acquire schooling by themselves, privately). But, when it comes to toughest kind of learning, spirituality,  a sizable number declares “i will get enlightened on my_own👍….. no need for a guru!”  Guru, being the topmost among 6 types of desi-teachers😜 Why????🙏

69) how to focus? (I didn't learn well 😕. )  Then how to “use” this advice? “If you focus on the hurt, you will continue to suffer. If you focus on the lesson, you will continue to grow” (I didn't learn, either this…. “ injury is inevitable,  where as HURT is your own product!”  True, even words can ‘hurt!)

70) practically, what decides the bulk of our interpersonal relationship?  Logic or emotion? ( it does differ in each individual, no doubt.  And it varies within each human due to many factors 🙏). A baby has no choice, for instance.  Logic is yet to develop. An oldie, if wise, strives to revive his child like emotions to re-live that joy, and struggles against own-logic, (😜) to revive it!  “Nature” never imposed any “rules” on us ( we imposed it, with our social norms( moral & legal rules). A robot is programmed to hold only-logical bonds with humans!

71)Desi languages, vowels and consonants are kept separated.  WHY is it mixed up in English? ( a,b,c,d,e,f….x,y,z)....  ( only one English teacher came closest, to the answer, when I asked many! Others chose to substitute their lack_of_inquisitiveness with gross display of annoyance😂🙏…  hence it got enlisted into “my silly koschans”)

72)silly, though easy: who ideally, ought to be the best student in that classroom? ( a classroom where, 20 doctoral students listening a very senior PhD professor).... 

73)Why are we stubbornly flooding the chat-windows of social media like WhatsApp with ‘sermons’( adages, proverbs, sayings, punchlines) which don't mean a damn thing for us, and our recipients????  ( I personally look at such senders as my fake-wellWishers 😜  if they are genuinely close to me, they wouldn't be poking me with injections I don't need! Their careless-forwards reveals the ‘truth’ about the fake in-them!)

74)diplomatically silly koschan : what is the qualitative difference between a customer feeling a liking/affection etc( emotional closeness) with a shopkeeper and a shopkeeper feeling about a customer? ( same koschan, nasty version : difference between a responsible family member with his dependant and a dependant with his provider( feeling a positive_affection)? I had mostly a recipient_relationship with customers of the bank whom I ‘served’ for 3 decades. What i felt for them was mostly a sense_of_duty, not a liking, affection etc, unless their ‘personal_nature’ was rare & unique! {{{Addition to koschan: A match referee expressed his love for me😜 He was qualified to umpire international matches in carroms.  He umpired my match at an inter-regional carrom championship ship at Bangalore ( I represented my region with 50+ branches). Winning was not my agenda ( anyway I wasn't going to get 1st place) I was keen on refining the quality of sportsmanship in me🙏, when the situation was just_right, to deal with usual ‘tensions, anxieties, fear etc. I displayed my exceptional skills acquired, taking care to skip a win of that_round. This referee ( unfortunately for me) happened to be a ‘visionary’ too😭 Immediately after the match, he whispered “you should have won!”  I shuddered! Did he ‘discover’ me? Fortunately,  he proceeded to explain and suggest the errors in my strategy, and summed up with"your level of accuracy was far ahead of your opponents.  What surprised me was your_cool”!!!!  I smiled politely and inwardly soaked myself in his affection for me! Not, often, a commercial or professional umpire can_feel any affection for a ‘player’😜}}

75)silly to hear, but vital to relationships: how do you differentiate between an opinion and a fact, when somebody says something ( assuming, it is relevant to us)? Easy example: a siesmologist says a)there is strong possibility of a massive earthquake within next ten years, at point ‘x’ ( it is an opinion, though very reliable one b) same siesmologist says: a massive earthquake is on its way at point ‘x’ and we have maximum 10 minutes to get away from there!( pucca fact!😜. Just run! Don't bother to assess whether it “could be his opinion_only!” An example of 2_in_1 😜:  bankers routinely seek their_lawyers OPINION (for a fee) about the worth, marketability, and authenticity of the security offered by a loan_applicant( often, title deeds of a property) but, but, but….that_banker prays 🙏 intensely “Gawd/God… let that lawyers opinion be FACTS, and not merely his_opinion only!😰 Now (😜), please look at my silly koschan, and decide, how you routinely look at something told to you! ( is it not vital, and hence relevant to distinguish? 🙏)

A teaser now:   a heavily opiniated person will twist facts into his opinion and damage my assessment.  An indiscriminate person will concoct opinions into a fact and distort my assessment 😭. How do I deal with the statements by these 2 samples?

76)”where is honesty now-a-days”....a silly koschan 😜 But, look at “disclaimers” in product details! Honesty lies in its fine-print, praying hard that “nobody reads it” isn't it? Why are disclaimers honest? 😜 ( I decided to try dishonesty in disclaimers, for a change😜….  If interested,  take a look at this blog https://selfseekers.blogspot.com/2025/05/a-dishonest-disclaimer.html  See if it is honestly_dishonest or viceVersa)

77)Ever wonder why babies cry at birth?( the doctor gets worried if they don't cry----that is medical reason. But why is it needed at all? 😜. )  …..    a subordinate question 🤔  why is it that we cry_effortlessly when only_in_pain? Most of us feel only pain intensely_enough. Only few get tears of joy! A deep spiritual experience too can cause tears, but for that, we need to evolve a little 🙏😰. 

The beauty of this "silly koschan" is.... If you get the correct answer, you won't need to get_it_checked by anyone😜 You will have no doubt about its correctness! ( unless, I am totally wrong about the question and answer, both of which are mine!🙏😭)

78)What is the difference between quitting from Hinduism & all other world religions? ( whatever reason---non-belief, conversion, personal preference……anything). I am NOT advocating for Hinduism.  A physicist doesn't try for gathering faith in favor of “physics”. But he loves to teach it to a willing recipient 👍.   A cyclist who knows gravity better can bend his bicycle a little more during sharp turns, at a greater speed, avoiding wasteful efforts to re-pedal hard to recover his cruising speed😜….   That simple is, the advantages of “knowing” the difference better🙏

79)a very nasty question 😭🙏 What exactly do we lose, when we managed to demolish our desi joint_family system?  ( for an exaggerated exampull : in that fictional story of Tarzan, he was an extraordinarily healthy, strong and emotionally stable hero. But, since he lived among apes, lions etc alone in a dense forest, he missed to “smile” 😜. Heroine Jane, had to pull his cheeks apart, to train him to smile!😭🙏…  despite having good health in body & mind, he missed “smile”).  What did we miss, in becoming a smaller sized family? 

80)urge is merely a desire in a_great_urgency!  Animals ‘respond’ to their natural ‘urges’ during their mating season. Humans? ( this is my silly koschan!) Why do we allow the mind to get addicted to such natural _ urges, and keep pursuing it during off_season too, overdoing it? Are we turning “reactionary”? Mind reacts of its own? Responses are conscious_actions isn't it?  Funnily, spirituality does_not yield to any kind of reactionary tendency from within isn't it?😜…  and once the inner urge gets fired towards spirituality,  it is unstoppable too!🙏😜😜… human history is the_evidence, though its occurences are rare!

81) what is memory_power? ( in terms of its PRACTICAL utility for us in daily life?)  Schools prescribe repeated learning of same lesson numerous times, as a “means” of memorizing something for eggjams/exams! But that “functional aspect” isn't fail_safe! If we understand the real “mechanics” of what_constitutes as…. memory_POWER , perhaps, our life can improve qualitatively😜 ( my seeking was because of very_strong allegations that I remember things over decades!)

82) offering resistance, is a default second nature in us?( each of us needs to be CONSCIOUSLY honest within us at least, in answering this silly koschan🙏….. bekos, resistance is a frontline defence for most of us against any threat_prrception of exploitation 😜. At workplace, resisting hardwork works🙏, against exploitation by selfish bosses! ) I wrote my answer in a blog https://selfseekers.blogspot.com/2025/05/by-default.html 

83) Does your/our mind allow our brain to do the processing ? Mind, binds the attention of our brain to be engrossed into where it wants for example when we are engrossed in reading an interesting novel we don't feel the bite of a mosquito not because our skin does not fire the neuros of pain sensation, but because our brain is engaged by the mind in becoming engrossed into the novel🤣 Only if, this logic appeals to our mind, it might ‘concede’ to allow us into meditative practices😓 …… typically, as a rare gesture, mind says “okay, I am willingly going to SHUT-UP boss”. (tough, ain't it 😜)

84) why is the divine incharge of the art (lalit-kala/fine-art)called ‘dance’ a male-deity? ( When MOST powerful ministries are held female forms? Shakti-parvati, learning-saraswati, paisa-lakshmi... ) Statistically, women folk out-number globally as “dancers” even today🙏

85)Am I not a SILLY fellow to ask “Is it not practically true, that…. Hinduism really BELONGS to NATURE??... while all other religions belong to their human-followers ONLY? “ Most irritating evidence: Hindus, after reaching a ripe age of 60, prepare a forest-dwelling( not relocate nearer to a hospital, etc like Today 😜) Lessor irritating: bulk of the concepts( rituals, traditions, practices) related to nature( bio-diversity, planetary influence etc) Astrology/astronomy is an inalienable part of Hinduism_only😜 comforting part: no compulsory rules, no human_bosses, no human can intake/outcast anyone into/out_of Hinduism 😌. A non_believer is respectfully -heard, since he is more intense than others into ‘experiencing’ it. Best part: Hinduism aims at highest human possibility, of reaching the core of nature, subtler than the subtlest known to humans( individual ‘spirit to universal spirit, atma→Param’atma) And, so on… Strangest part: worst kind of human can aspire for enlightenment 😜 ( the demons when they INTENSIFIED their evil, got their moksha/enlightenment FASTER🤣)

86)Body is programmed to convert it's energy in basic form, into heat, to compensate for the extra-cold of the climate absorbing the skin temperature 🤒 Ancients merely discovered its fuel-throttle, and managed austerities stop himalaya 🤣( I too learnt a 'bit' of that technology 🙏) Dunno, if this can be any 'hint' .....🙄...but, I noticed obese peepals feeling less of the outside cold than skeleton_like peepals😜😜😜 My humbal koschan eeej( humble question is) " are we willing to atleast 'watch'/observe this software at_work inside us, when our body 'feels' a bit_cold, and we look_around for some warmth?

87)Did ancient doctors of Bharat charge fee from their patients?(Honestly, we don't have any evidence. Yet, can we not guess, when there is no mention about CORRUPT practices? Today, if people are healthy, doctors will lose their BIJNESS😜 … therefore, the source for corruption is wishing for more_sick peepals 😜……isn't it? I did meet rare few medicos, one each, in ayurveda, MBBS & nadi_vaidya, who “lived” without ‘asking’ any fee, though they accepted voluntary_fee, given willingly. These few merited 100% UNCONDITIONAL trust of their_patients. Can we hope a crowdfunding to obviate exploitation_fees?🙏)

88)why did our present day’s Literacy-syllabus miss to_teach about “how to use our intellect at its BEST”? ( IRONICALLY, the I.Q. tests themselves fail often, in being intelligent enough to measure their candidates accurately 😜). Ancients prescribed numerous tools and techniques, to scale up the ladder of intellect! Buddhoo—>Buddhi—>Buddha( popular terms of reference, as evidence,😂)

89)Why are a lot many of our modern gadgets mocking at our negative attitudes? ( For example, a spring door at a public place reminds us “You are NOT responsible enough to close the door after use, so….me, a dumb spring is more DECENT than you!😜… I supplement your lack of decency “.... If everyone is sensible enough, why INNOVATE a gadget to show “mistrust”?) Most humiliating example I saw at many places was 🙏 A photo of some Hindu_God pasted on a wall, 2 feet above ground level to dissuade a passer-by from urinating on that wall😭 ----- tragic_use of INNOVATION SKILLS🙏

90) assuming that “karma” theory is true, which of these 3 is dominating your mind?( Mind decides what we do with our life🙏) 1) inherited karma(genes, diseases, abilities, disabilities etc) 2) acquired karma( we copy-paste the traits of those whom we ‘hero-worship’) 3) the residues from past lives( prarabhdha karma). Answer hardly matters for me( silly questioner here), but it might re-align your life🙏 Mid-course correction like, for spacecrafts 😜)

91) meditation is the in-thing now!( Obviously quackery in this field is bound-to-abound). Assuming that Quietening of a “mind” has something to do with what is called as meditation……. A silly question🙏 “do you have an experience of a SILENT mind?( A thought less state?).... If you experience it, and say “I knew that I was thought less for 45 seconds”, does it not imply-that, “knowing that I am thoughtLess_NOW!” IS ALSO A thought?😜( major irritant). I can CONCEDE, I was thought -less during DEEP-SLEEP( those rare few moments during the night, when the medical term “REM”--Rapid-eye-movement too was absent🙏… but I don't have any EXPERIENCE, bekos…..I was non-existent in my-deep-sleep😜. What to talk of thoughtLessNess? Your experience can be useful for me😓🙏

92)Why is it that every full moon day is invariably “associated” with some enlightened -Master/s?”😜 ( Dismiss it as a “mystic” thing, or will you–your mind–allow the intellect to “deduce” the reasoning behind this Pattern-of-occurrence, since it qualifies the Scientific principle of “element of repetitiousness?)

93)We 'sense' pollution in the air ( from a fragrance in an incense stick to a killer fart, any "smell" we sense by-default।) Why aren't we trying to "sense" when inhaling air, enriched with O²?( Only on a holiday in a hill station, our mind allows to inhale-deep the first time and we say "ah! FRESH air!"( it is not "fresh" from any packet. It's"free" as air, and we are the "first-timer" there 😜,) Why are we not "sensing" it at routine places? ( Under a debris, when trapped for 2 days, lungs will tell us "idiot, breathe lightly 😡,... Limited O²... It won't last long 😭")

94)Why do not teachers learn more than students? 😂…After all, literacy is about a mind teaching several young-minds in a school! That way, a teachers learning ought to be several times than each student, about “how they learn” isn't it??? (With Each batch of 40 students, teachers should grow 40 times, in teaching capabilities, since each “mind” is UNIQUE, and creates a World_of_its_own!!). A psychiatrist learns from EACH patient, since no 2 are alike 😜

95)why do we feel shy of appreciating Values, openly, loudly, frequently, when we see them in others? Things like honesty, hardwork, sincerity, outspoken-ness etc don't get any encouragement. Instead, honesty is threatened at a corrupt govt department 🤣 Is it because appreciation makes us VULNERABLE to change our own weaknesses????😜( We tend to become what we glorify? ) ( Once I suggested to a frustrated manager, lamenting about growing number of late-comers, at an over-unionised workplace “sir, I come 60 minutes early, daily. Why not call for a 1 minute meeting of staff, and say “I give this reward to him (me) for punctuality”? I will buy a pencil worth ₹2, gift wrap it and give you secretly, so that you give it back to me openly, zero-cost to you 👍”.... He became SILENT. no response. 😜. True incident 32 years ago🙏)

96)Why are we trying to do certain things ONLY to ensure that we remain RELEVANT?😂( we even copy-paste ‘gud-mourning’ msgs, forward trash, etc ! Giants like Sage Patanjali didn't bother to claim authorship/copyright of their GENUINELY original monumental works. We don't know the contributors of timeless scriptures. ) Examine our own talks, chats, conversation, messages, EVEN few activities, solely to ensure that we remain RELEVANT 😜 . Why?

96)What to do, to develop a liking for a job, we are ill-fated to do? ( I am a ‘freak-case’ therefore, my experience is totally useless to others 🙏 I am waiting to find out if I might come across a task i am assigned, for which a dislike can brew in me😭. ) . Very few are lucky to be able to pursue something they like 👍🙏 . My question aims to help less-fortunate.