Feeling Ugly

I was quite surprised to see an old answer of mine getting a ‘thumps up’ now!

There was a very good question from an asker who felt both , ugly and ‘good’ about oneself, at different times.

The question was about the ‘feeling’ itself, irrespective of ‘tangible reality’.

This does happen to most teenagers. And the girls usually get caught up in the situation, the outside situation, and thereby, grossly miss the greatest “benediction” that mother nature had showered upon here by mere reason of her being a female! The ‘body-awareness’ is thrust upon her, especially during the teenage. If only there is someone around who would gently guide this teenage girl into delving further deeper into herself, beyond the body, at that well-timed ‘period’, the spiritual awareness can dawn much more effortlessly!

This was the question:

Quote:

Why do I feel ugly somedays and attractive on others?When will I stop feeling like this?

i'm 19 so i guess its normal but when will it end? there will be a period of time when i feel attractive and confident then the next i feel ugly as hell and really self conscious about my appearance starting with my big lips and being skinny. i hate feeling that way i just want to feel comfortable.

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I did not lose the chance to ‘address’ the mind of the asker. I was amply rewarded with the asker’s kind comments.

I had let it rest at that, there.

But somehow, when that thumbs-up came up, I felt tempted to share it with yet others here.

(The first use of “thumPs” is a bit intentional. I was amused to see a ‘seal’ –a rubber stamp—at a document-registrar’s office declaring it to be “thump impression” of so-and-so. That made me realize , “what a THUMPING” majority we are, the electorate of our country, and the elected ones too, till recently! I did mention it to the ‘concerned’ person there to get the error rectified, offering even, to replace the rubber seal at my expense, since they know ‘only how to receive’ but are yet to learn to spend! The response was however ‘on expected lines’….. )

psn(29^th May, 2011)

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmwSixTq2i8AJXG0KWpftqaQHQx.;_ylv=3?qid=20071222170005AA9G56J

My answer:

Oh! The mind and the body are indeed related.
Please see, when we get some very bad news, the mind instantly triggers a chemical change right upto our stomach, and despite intense hunger, we simply cannot eat even a morsel of food, and if somebody forces it down our throat, we might vomit.
We have to now consciously 'cultivate' the thought process such that it keeps the body chemistry 'positive' at all times, and creates that 'feel good factor', and makes us feel attractive.
It is our own body chemistry that matters more than the features, looks etc, that makes us attractive. That is why many film actors do not seem to attract a large fan-following despite being gifted with good-looking features, where as some 'ordinary-looking' actors have that tremendous mass-appeal!