An interesting question came up...
The asker was very sincere, concerned and genuine.
The question was,
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgDE6s6_K0bN6puVws06pYDsy6IX?qid=20060727073832AAvL3pn
"How do I get my 9 year old son to listen?
He is a good kid at heart, however, he is very stubborn, argumentative and has a hard time following rules. And when he is punished he can't stick to his punishment.What would be good punishment? How do i nip this in the bud? "
My answer:
"9 years is not a bud ! It is half way through. Not like old times, the child-like innocence is lost very soon in this generation. No harm really, but parents are on a real fast-fast-forward, as far as nipping at the bud is concerned. And the sprawling media content offers tremendous transparency regarding many things that hitherto youths could find for themselves only when they are on their own.Punishment would only foster hatred. The vulnerability of society for a city bred child is by itself a punishment in many ways. We have to participate meaningfully, intensely, wholeheartedly, communicative, and cheerfully, as much as possible (that is if children are really our priority !), in all their activities, and suggest options, explaining the consequences of their choices, and not in the least of all, admit our ignorances and failures, honourably and gracefully. "
Please give your comments ...
The asker was very sincere, concerned and genuine.
The question was,
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgDE6s6_K0bN6puVws06pYDsy6IX?qid=20060727073832AAvL3pn
"How do I get my 9 year old son to listen?
He is a good kid at heart, however, he is very stubborn, argumentative and has a hard time following rules. And when he is punished he can't stick to his punishment.What would be good punishment? How do i nip this in the bud? "
My answer:
"9 years is not a bud ! It is half way through. Not like old times, the child-like innocence is lost very soon in this generation. No harm really, but parents are on a real fast-fast-forward, as far as nipping at the bud is concerned. And the sprawling media content offers tremendous transparency regarding many things that hitherto youths could find for themselves only when they are on their own.Punishment would only foster hatred. The vulnerability of society for a city bred child is by itself a punishment in many ways. We have to participate meaningfully, intensely, wholeheartedly, communicative, and cheerfully, as much as possible (that is if children are really our priority !), in all their activities, and suggest options, explaining the consequences of their choices, and not in the least of all, admit our ignorances and failures, honourably and gracefully. "
Please give your comments ...
2 comments:
A few chores never hurt either!
Karen
Consistency is key when raising any child. Part of the statement that was made was this child "won't stick with any punishment". It's not the child who needs to stick with it, it's the parents that need to be firm in their stance or else the child will walk all over you and wrap you around their little finger. Once a child understands they can get away with something, they will continue to find better ways (no matter how young or old). Be consistant. If there are both parents involved, both then need to support one another with the decisions of discipline and follow-through.
Hope this helps
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