Rules rule our bonds

 

Real problem affecting our present day mutual bonds( not relationship 😜) between relatives is lack of trust, mutually!

Trust is the adhesive for human bonds, not rules 😜

Trust deficiency with non_relatives  also affects commercial-relationships EQUALLY, but we manage to reduce the impact by seeking help of more and more complicated 'rules' which are ENFORCEABLE at law 🙏

It is easy to understand the distinction.
But, we are stubborn about recognizing the distinction, enough to retain it in our awareness 🙏(why we are stubborn is : Emotional stress accumulates, when emotional needs remain unfulfilled, and emotions are unavailable to logic.)

Rules are POSSIBLE only in commercial 'relationships'.
Strictness of rules, in commercial 'relationships' is INVERSELY proportional to the trust.  More the trust, lesser need to invoke rules.  Zero trust, mind starts devising, conniving ways to flout rules 😜.  When rules swell, the costs are prohibitive in terms of money, manpower and time 😥 (unproductive costs is going to affect profitability, GDP and the economy itself.  Prosperity-graph turns horizontal 🤣)

Non_commercial relationship is breaking up, simply because rules cannot work!

Look at the 'new' set of rules we tried to squeeze_in, for non_commercial relationship 😂.  Both, bride and groom should be well employed, well qualified, carry zero 'luggages'( dependents like aged parents are now 'luggages' 😜), etc.

Babies are downloaded with one excellent software pre-embedded, called 'element of wonder' ..... Very precious! Wonder is the first and the only 'app' they can-use to learn! 
They wonder, looking at the commercial_type_rules in the Non_commercial relationship between the parents 😳🤔.
Nascent brain🙏. It merely adopts with trust assuming that only_this_works! ( Kid age, he tests "gimme 2 chocolates for doing my homework, eating your nasty( not Tasty) breakfast" etc. The parents agree to the kid_rules 😜 unsuspectingly, since their muscle__memory nods, looking at the synchronicity with their own mutual_rules 🤣.

Rules rule our emotional relationship instead of love, trust and affection.
It is STUPID to expect the results of a fruit using the wrong seeds and deeds😥🙏

When quality of emotions deteriorate, stress, hypertension etc are inevitable.  Nature shows reluctance and hesitates to 'grant' babies if the emotional chemistry is inadequate! Commercial mindset decides "babies are a burdensome additional workload without any remuneration/compensation-package, so.....at least postpone it👍. Enjoy freedom from burdensome bonds at least for a few years!" It works! They do get logical_benefits. 

Then comes an experience of 'void'. Without addressing the emotional needs, this void keeps growing and haunting. Attempts to substitute this void with gadgets using a commercial mind isnt going to work!(pet-toys, in the west, aren't working too well. Probably why, a fourth of the doctors are psychiatrists).

The source of emotional abundance is our spirit within 🙏 (when nothing else works, we say "and now, Yoga".... meaning,  oneness, inclusiveness, spirituality, etc). 

Once this problem is understood with clarity, solution is obvious.

emotionally yours,

psn(7 Feb, 2026)