Disincentives among us

 Disincentives among us

Yes.

Nature doesn't discriminate.

Our minds do 🤣

I had a boss, who was in-charge of some 25 people under him. He resisted strictness, harshness etc. Obviously, there have always been a few who take_advantage of any leniency 😜. Late coming for work went unpunished. Only a request “please be on time” after a dozen late arrivals. Slowly, even those who were punctual due to fear_of_punsihment yielded to the temptations of bold ones. That boss lamented to me, one day (I was the only fool who is much before time throughout my life😥), saying “I feel sad, my leniency gets punished by my own family(staff) 🙏”. I offered a solution “Sir, I will gift wrap a pencil and you present it to me, as a reward for my stupid punctuality, despite the absence of any risk for late_coming”. He didn't ‘give a damn’ to this suggestion 😜.( I didn't remind him that he routinely orders me to ‘man’ three counters till the latecomers arrive 😜. A disincentive gifted to me daily🙏😂)

Honesty, sincerity, punctuality, discipline, and such stupidities go unrecognised today. 

There is a disincentive too at times 🤣.

A couple younger to me by ten years invited us for the wedding of their daughter. Being close relatives, it was customary to pack a load of cookies as a return gift, needing a week to eat it. The host found a dozen of large sets left over, when the oldies declined it saying “cholesterol, BP, sugar, diabetes, ulcer” etc . All were 60+ and the cookies were expensive (specially ordered with ghee etc, but ranking as ‘junk food’). The lady host, handing over 6 packs instead of 1 said “your hubby has no food restrictions, so you can(must) take these”. At home, I quipped, looking at the stockpile of 6 weeks “disincentive for being healthy” 🙏😭

( My humble guess is, spiritual bijness is the only arena where, positive traits get incentivised unerringly by nature/divinity/whatever 🙏. Inability to refrain from punishing goodness seems to have come to stay as ‘second nature’ in us😥)

No wonder, the ‘devil’ somewhere up there, is relaxing with joy, since we are doing his job unto each other 😂( moral stories are limited to kid_age pastime only).

Unfortunately, the design of human physiology is stubbornly resistant about adapting itself to negative qualities of mind 😭. Chronic ailments flourish proportional to negative traits 😓

Anyway yours,
psn(23 Jul 2026)

Post script:

Forget about the absence of a structure in the “design” of koschan_paper in my school, to find out if I grasped the ‘concept’ in the science subjects(by-heart fetches centum👍). But my classmates, whom I met 56 years later are irritated when I ask “do you remember the rectilinear propagation of light?” Only two of them said “seems like having heard of it somewhere 👍”. I had to compromise sharing the memories of only our stupidities at school, not the concepts we learnt. No marks for grasp of life Concepts either 😜🙏🙏🙏

Acceptance

 Acceptance

“The body is unable to accept the medicine” declares a doctor, to the guys who volunteer to stand_by a patient. 

This sentence is very naturally interpreted by the care_takers/standers_by as “Oh! So the chances of the patient's recovery is now bleak” 😓

It is not about ‘refusal’ often. Inability to accept, when a human body is choiceless about our choices of intake 🙏

Ancients managed to ‘tackle’ even_the unavailability of air to breath and food to eat, by evolving into sophisticated practices which can obviate the need to convert the 5 basic_elements in nature into a form which is acceptable by the design of a human body 🙏 (I was made to try one such spiritual practice, and the need to ‘eat’ food dropped dramatically). Thats "acceptance" at sophisticated and subtle levels.

What about the accept_Abiliity of our mind? We put up a verbal argument, whenever our inability to ‘accept' a verbal statement gets provoked 😜.  When a ‘mind’ turns into its own enemy(peak levels of non_acceptance), others around start planning to ‘somehow’ hoodwink that owner of the mind to reach a mental health home 🤣. 

Inclusiveness seems to be the key to expand our scope of acceptance 🙏

We have no difficulty in accepting_inclusion of our body as ‘ours’. A chronic and acute diabetic is able to accept a proposal to chop off a toe(amputation) so that the rest of the body can live a little longer🙏.

The mind resists to ‘ampute’ the negatives that deter the expansion of itself to ‘include’ more into itself! ( A classic example in the epic story of Mahabharat: Duryodhana declares(lucky to be able to accept that he cannot_accept something precious 😜) when he said “I know what is Dharma and Adharma very well. But I can neither accept dharma, nor get_rid_of the adharma in me”

We see tragic instances of teenagers suddenly ending their life, when they are unable to ‘accept' a score that cannot get them an admission into a medical College, in the ‘NEET’ exam 😥🙏. They get very high scores, not just a ‘pass’ marks. It is about cut-off( amputation)!!! Probably, they fail to remember(recognise) the ‘basic’ truth that it is a competitive examination, not a qualifying examination 🙏.  The criteria is ‘elimination’ among_the_qualified, and_not about ‘selection' or assessment for the qualification/qualified.

A joke:

At my workplace, me and my colleagues were approaching fifties. The lady engaged to prepare & serve us tea/coffee twice a day, needed to be reminded “without sugar”. My next seated colleague lamented “you are lucky, but I need to specify ‘without sugar’. I turned to that lady and announced ”without sugar henceforth, for me as well 👍”. Both, the lady & colleague stared at me in disbelief!!!!  I enjoyed ‘good tea’ for the next few months, consistently👍.  🤣…. That colleague, over these months, started accepting the irritating few customers at his counter, quite unaware of his subtle transformation in his mind 😜😜😜( for me, very privately it was “operation success👍”. That colleague became relaxed. The inevitable consequence was, his irritants found no resistance to their irritability, and gradually dropped off their own irritation_emissions 🤣🤣

I felt overjoyed to come across a statement by a youth who “accepted” his friend's concept about ‘arguements/debates’ some 15 years later👍🙏. It might take even that long to uproot some of the stubbornities in us😜. He conceded (accepted) that an argument is not about convincing the other, but about finding out how strong we ourselves are about ourselves being convinced.  This perspective is itself going to change the way we_argue😜🙏🙏🙏. “Pre-loaded” with utmost positivity in our arguments/debates 👍 

Acceptably yours,

psn(20 Jul, 2026)

Tailpiece 😜

If that “without sugar” wala joke is insipid, a sugared Fact 🙏:  a sensible mom stays awake without any reason, alongside her child, cramming the syllabus for the whole night to prepare for an examination next day😂. That child ‘feels’ motivated to “accept” the Need to forego sleep that night, and focuses better on the syllabus, instead of chanting “I am cursed to keep awake, while all others in our family are Snoring blissfully 😭”. 

Corollary of sensible arguments

 Minds have always been argumentative. Social norms can only restrict the articulation on the outside. Within ourselves, the only constraint is ‘an eligibility criteria to get admitted into a mental health home’ 😜

Some arguments get ‘seeded’ positively. And when the seed sprouts after a decade or so, the flower is exquisite 🙏

A whole science was evolved into, for ensuring that the corollaries of any ‘healthy' debate/argument, is not missed 🙏 Tarka_shastra was the name!

I was ‘just’ lucky to have witnessed the fading_phase of the science of arguments, when i was a kid, and my mom's elder sister was admitted into a group_debate ( a ‘male’ dominated exercise in 1955 to 1960, among sanskrit scholars in a tiny remote village). They broke the rule, when they saw an illiterate lady(my aunt) outperformed them, within the stipulated parameters of the science, and won an argument 🙏. The same lady admitted defeat with me 20 years later, when i happened to argue very respectfully with her in the interpretation of ancient spiritual concepts (in my mixed mother_tongue😜. I stand zero chance in sanskrit against her, to even talk).

A beautiful message sprouted recently after 1½ decades of some arguments between two youngsters, when they were just around 25.  Both were the academic ‘cream’ of our society, and hence equipped with the best available logical skills.

I quote just one sentence from their flowering of intellect 🙏

“I still remember the walk home when we were discussing religious conversions. I had a standard line at that time: "You can't convince me, I can't convince you."    You stopped me and said something like, it isn't about convincing the other person, it's about convincing yourself how strongly you actually feel about your own argument. That one line changed my perspective and permanently shaped how I view every argument I have”....(UnQuote)

Precious piece of Wisdom!( Emotional equipoise, as a living experience, is the immediate flowering of a corollary to this conceptual grasp, of the purpose of an argument or debate🙏..  automated corollary. Other corollaries need conscious efforts to operationalize the intellect with a quiet mind 🙏)

I now wish,
both of them were blessed, to reach at atleast ‘few’ of the several COROLLARIES that could have opened its doors for them🙏 ( Oh yes, its quite possible that they would have EVOLVED into a few corollaries already! Just that it is yet to spread out its fragrance)

Archimedes conceived a corollary ‘Law of floatation ‘ as a bonus😜, when he was looking for only “relative density” wala concept.

Newton missed the corollary that ‘a LIVING’ tree can defy gravity, when he discovered the gravity_law, from the apple that fell from the tree🤣

The ‘attention span’ of present day minds is reducing due to pace of life 🙏. One reason why, precious corollaries are missed 🙏

A corollary yours,
psn(18 july 2026)

Alternate nostril breathing

 Alternate nostril breathing 

If mere survival is the criteria, it doesn't matter how we breathe🙏. It is automated by nature, as a part of the design called ‘human physiology’

The “problem” is…….

ancient guys of Bharat, decided to make the stupid ACT OF BREATHING into a very sophisticated technology, for a very crucial purpose —--taming the MIND 😥.  A mind, when well tamed, in turn, serves a much more greater purpose 🙏…. Harnessing the vital enegy called ‘life’ which is ticking inside us ( I CONSCIOUSLY omit the next ‘level' of the next purpose 😜)

Somehow, I am pursuaded to try the stupid looking excercise of breathing through alternate nostril as a regular practice, each day for a fixed duration of time and at a fixed hour each day.

One nostril gets blocked 😜….on a day !

Sensible average people say “that's how things are today👍”  summary disposal of the problem. No probing or investigation warranted.

I “saw” techies ( kampootar science) conversing in computer language 🤣. It takes time for an oldie like me, when computers came when my learning curve has flattened long ago along the baseline of the graph 😭

A techie reports “one nostril is blocked” .

I thought “i am responsible”😥🙏 ( it's about my ResponseAbility….not the ‘accountability wala nonsense’)

I asked 🤣( quote)

An irritating koschan.

One nostril is blocked.

The open one is "unduly" burdened, when the mind orders "do alternate nostril😡or 😓"

Do we notice the burden imposed?( One techie in a team is indisposed. The other fellow doubles the efforts to "meet" the deadline/lifeline/whatever 🤣)

The project "manager" is not adequately humane, towards his team. One nostril blocked, he simply barks at the other "I don't care.... The deadline stands valid👍. The other does the work of this 'blockHead' as well”

And, 

this project manager expects the team to give after_sales support to its clients ( kid's health) on-site 🫪... wherever the kids are deployed 😓

As a kid,

I used to notice my elders around ( too many of them🙏😭....since i was the 1st born of the eldest adult of the joint family 🙏 ( joint by necessity, not choice😜... My dad is the banker for their food, provided by Nature 👍)

These elders shout logically or emotionally at me, often. I was at a loss to understand as to which software will 'sense' my response to them?

Much later, i discovered that the breath pattern gives a clue😜🙏🙏🙏

UnQuote 

I left it at that.

My type of QUIXOTIC guys have to ‘wait', till the sensitivity is deep enough for a techie to understand the ‘basic’ design of the next ‘project’. ( Spiritual projects are notoriously unique in themselves 😓. MBA schools don't have it in their syllabus as yet, this this kind of project management gets outdated with each_project 😜😜🙏🙏🙏)

Managerially yours,

psn(18 Jul, 2026)

Spiritual cashback

 Spiritual cashback 

A bogus idea, i concede 🙏 (no such thing, logically at least 😜)

Certain rituals compel me to ‘conjure’ very vague, unrealistic, improbable and unearthly ideas 🤣

That stupid looking ritual : soon after a death in my family, the priest ( master of ceremonies) would ask the ‘doer’( fellow who invokes the departed soul, which is supposed to be hovering around the place of death, trying to re-enter own body, being clueless about inaccessibility of the body. ) to offer water to quench the thirst of that soul, for some ten days.  A piece of unstitched white cloth is wetted in potable water and squeezed anticlockwise , to drip the water onto a stone, into which the soul is invoked.

( I surmised: soul can sense the jalaTatwa, one of the 5 basic elements, from the substance called water 🙏)

Then, i deduced,  (my cooked_up theory 😜), “a person who is very much alive, also ought to thank me from the depth of his ‘soul’ 🤣🙏”(no matter if his mind &/or body is busy otherwise 😳)!  Beyond a point, the thirst of a parched_throat does reach the spirit/soul within, and therefore the traditional practices of offering water even to a total stranger at our doorstep!!!

I started offering water to any visitor at gate who ‘happens’ to waste/expend more than 120 precious seconds of his time with me😥. If & only if, there is a ‘cashback’ scheme in the nature's design, the silent + nonVerbal ‘thanks’ of any ‘x,y,or z’ gulping the water offered by me would automate the credit into my spiritual account, maintained somewhere upstairs by that figurative entity called karmaphaladata 😜.

I ain't any serious about the cashback. I feel amply rewarded with the thirst of that stranger getting quenched. It makes sense 🙏👍. A normal humane gesture. Costs me nothing!

Quixotically yours,
psn(14 Jul, 2026)

PostScript: this ‘cashback’ is just a fancy_name. It's the same thing popularly known as “karma” 😜

Are our Values physical, human or spiritual?

 Are our Values physical, human or spiritual?

A software firm paying illogically higher ‘package’ to its techies asked an employee “We don't know, what ELSE can hold you back from quitting the job, when you are paid a 15% hike, against 7% to your bosses!😳”( USA based firm, caught in the depression of 2009, truncated the annual hike from 30 to 7% that year).

He said “higher studies 🙏”.

( A typical example of mismatch of personal_values held by the two people, who were 100% honest about their own ‘premise/values’ which decided their respective responsive actions, with a reasonable degree of ethics and integrity 👍)

A great singer, in a movie story informs his well_wisher “i don't need your charity of food for my hunger, because I suffer only when my throat can't sing, not when my stomach feels hungry 🙏. Poverty doesn't matter to me!”( emotional values, unavailable for commercial logic😜)

A spiritual saint, who begs for his daily food, was banished from the village, just because he uttered a chant even while defecating.  A true story of ”Shri Palani” (100+ years ago near Erode or so, a remote village). He stopped chanting with his vocal chords. But his personal ‘values’ of life happened to extend that_chant to his ‘body level’ as a vibe, within the ‘human_audibility_range’. Sitting under a tree in a desolate forest (next to the village, being ‘banished’), passers by heard that chant emanating from him, though he sat tight_lipped 😜 ( the story goes on to make him popular now, due to his SPIRITUAL BIJNESS/values).

The ‘normal' commercial_values held by we-the-modern guys needs no examples 🙏. Hormuz_strait decides our crude(oil)values for a war(since 2 months now)😥

My own values, I never had to ‘define’ consciously 😭… It came as an accessory with the original equipment, from the factory itself,😥. I can't modify it.   Disastrous disadvantage to me! Very few manage to tolerate me within my radius. A silver lining is, a few unearthly guys never give up on me😜

Worthlessly yours,
psn(14 Jul 2026)

Receiver set

 " Receiver set" was the popular connotation to the valve-radio, i heard in my kid days.

It implied 'receptivity'.

1971, when I waded through the huge voluminous book in university library, to hunt for brahmamuhurtam and its significance etc( AadiShankara), i could appreciate the choice of timing for 'broadcasting' of energy waves 🙂

But the criteria for 'receptivity'( a radio receiver set 😜) was not mentioned conspicuously 😓. 

It did not matter to me at_that_time, that I didn't know about becoming a receptacle in any verbal format.

The 'search' itself was inspired by a comment from a talk on "waves of beauty"( AadiShankara's composition), where in a mention about a few becoming receptive 'inadvertently' was made😜

The example cited was of a person who is unable to sleep due to severe pain lying in a hospital ( some ailment, injury, etc) and a truck driver driving for the whole night, to reach a deadline 😥.... Both these are very tired and 'need' sleep very badly. Both find sleep creeping into them during 4 to 6 am 🤣.

Wise truck driver takes a mini-nap, parking the truck on roadside. Others face the most accident-prone hours of the night 😂.

The patient may or may not get 'sleep', but finds some respite in his 'experience' of the 'pain' during that hour, even if the injury/ailment is same or worsening. 🙏

Both are 'forced' away from the 'resistance' in the mind/body due to fatigue ( a fatigued/injured soldier offers lesser resistance to the enemy😓).

In my case, I need to be consciously receptive, very healthy, alert, attentive and aware to experience the energy broadcasted even today by hidden yogis, who are also a "repeater-towers' in addition to their own addition of those energy waves 🙏. 

Deities are also_consecrated to receive, magnify and re_broadcast these positive energies ( and therefore, the propitiation during these pre-dawn hours 🙏)

As I said, I try to make it simple to suit my own requirement 🙏. Empty myself at subtle levels, and become a receptacle 😜. An empty fellow offers no resistance to block any subtle energies granted as a free_boon, blessings 🙏

Receptacle yours,
psn(12 july, 2026)

It's okay to reveal a secret

 Communication, as far as global applicability is concerned, and is more or less acceptable by a general consensus, i CopyPaste here 

Quote:
"This refers to the famous 7-38-55 Communication Model established by researcher Albert Mehrabian, which breaks down how we convey and interpret emotions and attitudes in face-to-face conversations."

7 is words, 38 is the tone and texture, while 55 is body language.

Is it not 'reasonable' to make a very wild guess, that our body 'may possibly be using Quantum laws' in its communication 'process'? ( BioCompute is already into the bijness. And to corroborate the 'guess' another accepted theory is (quote) "Composite fermions" a research work by an awardee of Wolf prize in physics, Mr Jainendra K Jain.)...

We, the commoners of today's life, are justified in saying"words fail me, to describe my inner experience "....   Whereas, when we look at history, words prescribed to a person for chanting by a 'wise' being leads that person unto the highest human possibility 😜. How can we rule out the possibility that the desi ancients had harnessed the quantum concepts to the extent of communicating a spiritual experience using words itself 😜🙏🙏🙏  

Consecration, jeeva samadhi, etc are non_verbal formats of communication of subtle energies 🙏

I cannot 'prove' an experience using words, to another person who is trying to use only the '7' in the ratio 7:38:55 to understand my experience or to even look_at_it as a possibility. And therefore, my inability to render a recipient capable enough to experience_and_only_thereafter accept, should not be misconstrued as holding back a 'secret'. 🙏

An example:
A very close friend, elder to me by age called to tell me about this temple and the uniqueness.

I tried to co-relate it with an episode in Mahabharata ( krishna eating a leftover bit of rice from Akshaya-vessel, not washed well that day😜🙏. Quantum laws, caused Sage Durvasa and his retinue simultaneously feeling well fed in a river during a dip in the water 😂)

I didn't imagine that "consecration" of a deity too happened in the same "principle of quantum physics 😳😥🤔"

That friend was referring to a rare kind of temple ( i googled "The legend you are referring to describes the unique rituals at the Thiruvarppu Sreekrishna Swami Temple in Kottayam, Kerala. "

https://www.facebook.com/groups/Periyavaa/posts/2404856936249421/    )

Co-relating bits and pieces of information strewn randomly, and discovering a SECRET needs the skills to use the 'sense of Discrimination' at the level subtler than our sensory levels of perception 🙏. 

😥 I guess, anybody with a 'scientific temper' can agree on this 🙏

Openly yours,
psn(10 Jul 2026)

SwaDharma(my role)

 I wrote down a thought of mine to a few who still tolerate me despite what I am unto them 😜

Then I thought, 'who knows? Somebody at some future date might find a meaning in it 🙏... Anyway, its my own life experience, and not a fanciful idea seeking patronage for verbal embellishments or ornamental use of language "

Here it is.....

Swa Dharma 

8 Jul 2026

ये "सनातन धर्म"

का मेरे से ,

निजी/व्यक्तिगत रूप में कोई सीधा/direct संबंध नहीं है 😜🙏🙏🙏 

मैं खुद उसका एक परिणाम हूँ ( और ये तथ्य या उसके भीतर का तत्व, both are different 😜.... का अवबोध भी अनिवार्य नहीं है 🙂)

स्व_धर्म और उसके प्रकारों के अंतर्गत, मुझ पर लागू होने वाले धर्म का पालन करना ही पर्याप्त है।

विपक्ष दल के धर्म से अज्ञान, पप्पू को ही देखो 😜

उसके वक्तव्य+कर्म, सिर्फ और सिर्फ खुद का अस्तित्व बनाए रखने में ही व्यस्त है 😜 ( struggle to retain the relevance. PM is ignoring bulk of his ड्रामेबाजी)

बाल्य धर्म, युवा धर्म, गृहस्थ 'ashram' धर्म, वृद्धाश्रम धर्म ( पिता/पति/पत्नी/पुत्र/मित्र/बंधू/इत्यादि अनेक पात्रों का अपना विशेष धर्म है 🙏)

Identifying our own 'role' at each stage/situation of our life is not at all a part of our modern Syllabus 😂

When nobody is at the steering wheel, even a stone, which hits the side of a wheel, decides the twist in the direction of a vehicle rolling on its own. ( Problems decide our task/priorities on a day_to_day basis. Not our well defined role/Dharma 🙏😜).

"Who asked you for this lecture?"( I wish, my few recipients oblige me by copypasting this question, back unto me 😥....   Then, my own circle arround me gets better defined for me🙏)

A joke 🙏

The tradition of addressing people using each other's 'surname' was a 'tool' to empower the other to keep reminding me of my kulDharma( clan_duty unto the Society) .

Today, we find people shying away from using the surname. 😂

भाड़ में गया मेरा स्वधर्म 😡

Irrelevantly yours,
psn(8 July 2026)

Tail piece:

Once i found a non-presumptous manager as my boss. He never got irritated by any value addition from a non_entity like me( a clerk is a नाचीज़/nonEntity)

I kept my staff-file handy and asked him “sir, where in my appointment order is it written that I_need_to_work? “

He stared. I stretched the paper in that file to read+spot it( copy of my appointment order)

“I am appointed as a clerk at ₹xxx per month…bla_bla_bla…. Where is the mention that I have to “work”???”

He pleaded “please tell me”

Then i pointed to the clause “bound by rules and agreement, time to time updated between the management & workmen “ ( the agreement elaborated my BOUNDEN duties/dharma 😜 

His manager_dharma got updated 🙏

A funny incident: the class teacher of my son when he was in LKG, told her one evening (as my sister went to pick my son back home) : “Madam, i forgot my duty( Dharma). I was supposed to prepare at least one kid for a fancy dress competition in the evening today. There's one more hour time. Can you help”

Sister : 😳😳😳 at such short notice? I can try!

She pulled out my saffron dhoti, wrapped it around the kid asked him to chant a verse in Gita( he learnt it from my mom casually/playfully), holding a stick to look like Shankaracharya ( fancy dress costume, in a short cut). He chanted it smooth.

Sister, to my son : do it now before the microphone, looking up, the mike is taller than you… they may not tilt it to suit your height “

Kid nodded.

Just a “fill up the blanks” for that teacher.

But the judges were unanimous”first prize👍”( the kid had no idea what it_all_meant).

My sister to me : “thank God, i thought of a four_liner from gita, not the 1000 names of Vishnu 🙏😥. That kid keeps the trigger pressed till the magazine is emptied, whether i give him a pistol or a sten_gun !”