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Sunday, October 25, 2026

When a threat or blackmail is useless

 When a threat or blackmail is useless



๐Ÿคฃ


Usually, “emotional blackmail” works when a relationship is not totally commercial.



But when a guy declares openly “I have NOTHING to lose”???? ๐Ÿค”( Like jihadis? ๐Ÿ™)


I faced such a guy once. That incident enriched me with the rarest_of_rare kinds of tools, which I used 3 decades later, when I volunteered to help freshers in a spiritual program.



My readers are anonymous to me ๐Ÿ™. I can only request (blackmail is superfluous) “please tell your own minds, the author has requested to treat the incident as bogus/fictitious, and therefore don't dig deep. Instead look for any value addition based concepts”


Story:

A notorious guy got transferred to my location of workplace. The union_boss warned  me “PSN, I apologise. I bargained for a lesser punishment instead of dismissal, since his family is dependent. Please manage. I named your office, because you are more united”( Damn, I thought, unity is to be punished like this๐Ÿ˜ก)


This guy “D” belongs to the type “ I have nothing to lose”.

I wasn't that type ๐Ÿ™… I am able to visualise a situation where “I am desperate to lose something ๐Ÿ™” (loose motions, and the 4 toilets are engaged. I can't retain the something i want to lose, loose motions ๐Ÿ™).


My boss was disturbed. His power and authority won't work on this guy.

He asked me to handle: ”psn, he's your union_member. Handle him”

I stipulated a “condition” ( like the first ever stenographer, Ganesh did to Vyasa, who dictated Mahabharata)... I told my boss “i I need your approval to assign whatever duty I like, to Mr D”...     Boss said “okay, anyway he is not going to obey anyone ๐Ÿ˜œ”


I told D “I am authorised to allot duty to you. You will sit on this stool, until I ask you to get up and do something. You are free to go for lunch, drinking water and to the toilet. But officially, sit there”

It worked ๐Ÿ‘. He was overjoyed “Ah! Am I not a success! Zero work, yet pay is guaranteed “


3 others, who belonged to D’s cadre, started grumbling “we do even his share of work ๐Ÿ˜ญ”( not true.   He was an extra person, not a replacement. But psychology works differently ๐Ÿคฃ).   I told the 3 “do you not trust me 100%!?.... And you continue to trust me, because it worked for years. Can't you invoke the same trust for just_3 more days ๐Ÿ™,?๐Ÿ˜ฅ”...  They agreed to ignore him enjoying no_work ๐Ÿ‘


4th day ๐Ÿ˜œ

D was no exception to the subtle and totally internalised torture of doing nothing.  He started squirming on the stool the whole day ( those 3 even satiated their sadism with a teaser “stool has thorns? Pricking your bottom? Like to park your bottom on another stool?” etc)


5th day he requested me to go to him (sitting on stool, until told) and said “UNBEARABLE for me. Please allow me to do some work ๐Ÿ™”

I had no ill_will, enmity, hate or anything against him ( it's his physiological design to function his_way, and I am manufactured in my_way).  But, my structural design is programmed to confine D to suit my colleagues. So I stipulated: “okay, but anything that threatens the peace of my class of staff, if you do… I invoke this power to assign you to sit quietly on stool”

He agreed readily.

He discovered the joy of teaming with the 3 unconditionally. Those 3, bitten by the memory of his notoriety, took care not to abuse his cooperation.


I got relocated soon after. But those 3 never wrote to me anything to complain against D.


Story over ๐Ÿ™



I used this experience to help freshers to transcend their problems with sitting quietly ( meditation is torturous, if mind can't be quiet ๐Ÿ˜ฅ)



Inconspicuously yours, 

psn (25 Oct, 2026)

Sequel : try intellect if you cannot complain

 Sequel : try intellect if you cannot complain




Sequel to my previous blog๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ฅ


A joke:

Until a century ago, a namboothiri is prohibited from saying “enough” or “a little more please” to the person serving food during a feast.

Reasons are very very deep ๐Ÿ™. A modern mind is not compatible with the reasons if I spell it out ๐Ÿ™ ( level of spiritual evolvement was high!)


But, our “N”namboothiri) in my joke, lived within this century ๐Ÿ™. And a feast, where he was constrained to abide by this tradition.

A kid was serving a watery dish called “rasam”. Banana leaf is the eating plate. Tough to ‘hold’ rasam from flowing out of the leaf ๐Ÿ˜ญ

Kid is not a PhD in maths. Ratio and proportion is out of syllabus for the kid.


N used his palm to gather the rasam and gulped the excess. Kid thought “this guy is enjoying rasam ๐Ÿ‘. My duty to serve him more ๐Ÿ‘ ( ye dil maange more –rasam)”


It went on & on.

N cannot complain. Kid won't stop.


A golden opporChutney sprung up.

Kid enquired as a matter of social courtesy”Mr N, how many members in your household sir?”


When a mind is prohibited from complaining, intellect is ‘given’ a chance to try a solution ๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ™


N, grabbed the opportunity and replied “If I manage to survive despite this unstoppable flow of rasam that I am forced to drink, there will be 19 members INCLUDING me, in my household ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ™”( kid got the message! Technically, N didn't say “enough of rasam for me๐Ÿ˜ญ”



In highly paid IT companies, no use complaining๐Ÿ˜ญ.  And within 2 years, a software professional gets habituated to CopyPaste of codes๐Ÿ˜ฅ. The innovation curve tends to become flat. Intellect is not ‘selective’ to function only when ‘complaint’ is useless. Attrition Zindabad ๐Ÿ‘.


I too resorted to quitting before the age of superannuation ๐Ÿ™. But not without the help of my pint_sized intellect ๐Ÿ˜œ. It was ‘because' of my intellect ๐Ÿคฃ. ( I have cleverly planted the details of that incident in another distant blog๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ˜œ…  Didn't want to get into trouble ๐Ÿ™). I didn't complain, but decided to quit+retire. My wants and desires ranked lower than my needs๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ญ. So, forsaking the salary was more “practical”. 



It's not wise to “supply” examples of intelligence rescuing in the situations where complaining is futile๐Ÿ™



Gullibly yours,

psn(25 Oct 2026)




Why do we complain?

 Why do we complain?


๐Ÿ˜‚ I don't receive any complaints about my blogs. But I know, the complaints are numerous ๐Ÿ˜ฅ. Just that, the mind of the reader is reluctant to voice it, ….

or even verbalise it within ( some confusions evade even a verbal form ๐Ÿ˜œ. Once I even wrote on “unconventional confusions” ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜ฅ).


Certain public offices do not ‘receive’ a complaint from the people who deal with those offices (Mostly government offices like municipality, judiciary, legislating netas, police, railway etc).  Once a boss at my workplace told us(at a staff meeting) “we have a complaint box which remains empty, but please remember, that doesn't mean that our customers do not have complaints at all. It's because they are sure that complaining is a waste of time”.  I think privately, personally and individually, I accidentally turned into a ‘private' complaint box for a good number of customers ๐Ÿ˜œ. They privately confide in me ‘hey, can you help?’, and I ‘carve out’ time to help. It helped me to grow multiDimensional in my ability to ‘respond’.


A baby never complains until it can ‘speak' ๐Ÿ˜‚.  A little grown up, the kid complains only when it doesn't get what it likes, not what it ‘needs’.  How beautiful life would have been if it were our needs that fill up the blanks of out lists of ‘wants’ instead of our likes and desires?  (During a residential program for a months long spiritual bijness, other participants converted their ‘complaints’ into an anger at me ๐Ÿคฃ.  Because, I was visibly comfortable with what was given to me to ‘eat’๐Ÿ˜œ. Complaints were in abundance, but no use vocalising it, when participation was voluntary ๐Ÿ˜ญ. “You asked for trouble, now don't complain” wala argument ๐Ÿ™. My mind had ‘kindly consented’ to accept anything given to eat. The body loved it like never before ๐Ÿ™. And when the body cooperates, spirituality sprouts fast ๐Ÿ˜œ).


Is it the intellect which complains? (Stories of rags_to_riches via sheer hard work and non_parasitical productivity are a hard_evidence of non_complaining intellectuals who listen to their Intellect often, instead of their mind, and go ahead with the problem solving process. They turn each difficulty into an opportunity ๐Ÿ˜œ).


Somewhere, in one of my earlier blogs, I tried to suggest we look at the ‘listener’ within us๐Ÿ™.  Either it is our mind or it is our intellect. Otherwise, there is no listener and the data doesn't even get processed inside the ‘physical' organ called brain ๐Ÿ™. ( A subtle difference between a brain_dead guy and brain_switched off listener๐Ÿ˜œ).  Attentiveness and awareness, though exclusive mutually, depend on our mind and/or the intellect to become operational ๐Ÿ˜ฅ.


When a mind listens, in exclusivity, there is a ‘scope’ for complaint.  Intellect can only generate doubts and questions, which the mind might conveniently misinterpret as ‘complaints’. ( Typically, a student's lazy and comfort loving mind says to the intellect: “I will ask the teacher” and informs the teacher “m’am, I didn't understand your lecture, I am confused”. The teacher merely repeats it, probably stretching the sentences a little more ๐Ÿ˜œ.  Understanding gets compromised in that kid's mind with “not safe to complain AGAIN now!๐Ÿ˜ฅ”.  A rare few kids translate the query of their Intellect and the words sound more like a ‘doubt’, than a complain ‘didn’t understand’ and the teacher is armed with the ‘specifics’ in the student's doubts to address it with alternative approaches, using a compatible interface as an example, etc!).


Habitual lamenting, cribbing, nagging etc are from those who trust only their own mind which has promised to incessantly chase a better and better comfort zone ๐Ÿ˜œ. I am reminded of a joke : a villager, visiting a metro_city for the first time, was advised “be careful, the shopkeeper can easily spot a villager, and will always quote twice the cost of anything you try to buy”.  This guy was forced to buy an umbrella, but decided to be ‘clever + defensive”. 

Shop wala : “this umbrella is for ₹100”

Villager : “too overpriced. I will offer only ₹50”

A lot of bargaining, and shopwala agrees for ₹50

Suddenly the villager : “I think its worth only ₹25” ( shopkeeper is “๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก”. But he too listens to only his mind ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ญ, not intellect. He decides to recover at least the ‘cost of time WASTED” ๐Ÿ™ ๐Ÿ˜ฅ)

shopwala: “okay, ₹25… and get lost, taking the umbrella “

Villager ( inspired by ‘success’): “Then, why not settle it for ₹12.50 ?”

Shopwala is frustrated. ( His mind is full of negative emotions now๐Ÿ™)

Shopwala: “oh please ๐Ÿ˜ญ… take it for FREE. But vanish from here p-l-e-a-s-e. ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ™”

That Villager is full of glee now ๐Ÿ‘.

Villager: “Great sir ๐Ÿ™. In that case, give me 2 ๐Ÿ‘”

( Joke over ๐Ÿ˜ฅ)



Uncomplainingly yours,

psn(25 Oct 2026)

Thursday, October 22, 2026

Effect of teacher in maths

 Effect of teacher in maths


๐Ÿคฃ


My guess is, maths permeates into all kinds of sciences that can sprout in a human brain.


Quite a few are unfortunate to ‘feel’ about themselves, as weak in maths, allergic to maths, not compatible with maths, etc.

It is ‘here’...that I noticed the ‘effect’ of ‘the’ teacher, which plays a significant role in bridging the ‘gap’ between such ill-fated kids/students & the fascinating game called ‘maths’ ๐Ÿ™


Maths has been a ‘scoring’ subject for me๐Ÿ™. Psychologically, I ought to be incompetent to advice those who are not ‘good friends’ of the fellow called maths ๐Ÿ™


It so happened, a child girl ‘G’ was abandoned by a private tuition teacher in maths, and the full fee refunded to G’s mom๐Ÿ˜ญ. Two weeks to go for the annual exam of 3rd standard for G.  Sure to fail in maths๐Ÿ˜ฅ. The mom asked my sister to ‘somehow’ get the child to just_pass in maths, or else a whole Year goes waste! I volunteered to ‘try’.

I narrowed down to the ‘clinching’ chapter in maths, (again a ‘maths skill’ ๐Ÿ˜œ, we may_say. Though this_skill of ‘narrowing down’ to the core of a problem helped me in solving legal issues ๐Ÿ™). 

In G’s case, identifying an improper fraction was a sure koschan/question ๐Ÿ™. It adds 10 marks. This child manages about 25+ marks . Falls short of only 10 more marks(maximum).  


I asked this girl to stand & listen to me (reason : I was personally+ privately not ‘comfortable’ that students ‘sit comfortably’ and listen, while teachers ‘stand’ all the 40 minutes to teach ๐Ÿ˜ณ. I can't ‘do’ anything about a Global phenomenon. But here it is one-to-one, and I am the ‘dictator’๐Ÿ˜œ).


One more child(miss V) was watching the ‘fun’ ( she was in 2nd standard only). 

I asked V to climb on my back when I knelt on the floor on my fours( knees and palms). I asked G to observe “a small girl sitting on me a huge fellow. Seems proper??” G nodded.

“Now see the Improper thing” said I.

V knelt down, and I ‘feigned’ like sitting on her back ( didn't want V to shout & distract๐Ÿ˜ฅ). I explained to G “V is too small, and I am so big. She cannot bear my weight, isn't it?”( G understood easily)

Now, I connected the fresh visuals to numerals “big number sitting on a tiny number, is an improper fraction… “( i didn't have to”tell” about the ‘proper’ fraction. It is the residue once ‘improper’ test is done. Medical tests are automatically ‘negative’ if the improper_viruses are missing ๐Ÿ˜œ).


A few more repeat-enactments… the visuals and terminology jargon ( numerator, denominator) became friends in G’s “brain” ( identifying bijness)

That girl G passed in maths๐Ÿ™. Admitted into 4th.  ( Sholay movie dialogue: basanti bhi khush, Chachi bhi khush๐Ÿคฃ…  mom & G both happy ๐Ÿ˜Š. Zero tuition fees)


My love for maths bloomed due to my paternal uncle (next to my dad, among 5 younger brothers). He said “you might be having a problem with Rider number 5, chapter 4 of Hall & Stevens?”

( What's a Rider?.... Quote: In Euclidean geometry, a rider is a problem or theorem that "rides" on a primary theorem. It requires you to apply known axioms, definitions, and major theorems to prove a new geometric statement, calculate unknown values, or establish relationships between sides and angles)


We were walking on a busy road. My uncle quit school decades ago, and was only a matriculate! He still remembers the rider numbers? And can identify the ‘tough' for me? I am ‘lost’ into gaping at him ๐Ÿ™.  He added “Fool, try joining the points D to Q, and extend it to meet the line beyond it at point X. You will sight the “applicability” of the theorem.”( He didn't ‘bother' to verify the results of his hint/tip. Uncle trusted the quality of his blood in me via my grandpa ๐Ÿ˜œ).

Back home, I narrated the incident to 2nd uncle who pooh poohed it ๐Ÿ˜ฅ, saying “that’s nothing. This elder brother was exempted from doing maths homework, when he yelled the answer the moment that teacher wrote a “sum” on the blackboard. He solves maths_sum mentally ๐Ÿ‘”. I dug up a little more stories about that maths_uncle. He created a ‘record’ by making the assistant busy to weigh ration items like rice 725 grams, sugar 285 grams, etc for buyers via ration card ๐Ÿ˜œ . The ‘normal' was, the billing clerk struggles to calculate manually, ration per head in a family card of 6 adults and 3 children ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ฅ. Full of fractions multiplication, in 1940 or so. Long queues, and the weighing guy waits infinitely for each ‘bill’. This uncle ‘heaps’ the cards with bills tucked in ๐Ÿ˜œ. That's his skills at mental calculation of maths ๐Ÿ™.

I had a teacher in maths who was an “M.A.” in maths, and taught to final year of M Sc  in maths, but quit the college job, preferred to teach kids like me in 7th standard in a school, unmindful of ¼ salary of a school teacher, compared to a professor in college as HoD๐Ÿ˜ฅ. ( His stories are awesome, and the s-p-e-e-d at which he calculated the affinity of students in maths stupified me ๐Ÿ™. I still treat it as sheer luck that I was his favourite kid in my class ๐Ÿ™. I realised only 4 decades later, that this genuis had a greater mastery in spirituality than maths๐Ÿ™. His blessings were with mathematical precision unto me ๐Ÿ˜ณ. Ain't I unduly_fortunate๐Ÿ‘???  While the bulk of us think that blessings are just a hollow gesture, placing palms on the head, nothing more than that, this Guru deploys a scientific phenomenon using the same’touch’, something that took me decades to learn & use ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™).



Illogically yours( maths is logical),

psn (22 Oct 2026)



A joke๐Ÿ™ ( please read + forget ๐Ÿ˜ฅ):

At my work place, clerks who are promoted from peons, are a little ‘looked-down-upon’ (merit criteria is diluted in the selection process). The efficiency is unaffected, only the psychological treatment is a sadism in few๐Ÿ™. I found a ‘way’ to remedy this๐Ÿ˜œ.

Promotee clerks love me unconditionally ๐Ÿ™(due to my manufacturing defect—I remain small like them๐Ÿ‘).

I gave these few clerks a “trick” . They jot_down the interest in each term deposit account for the half year, without any ‘worksheet' ๐Ÿ˜œ. The checking officer needs to only ‘look' at the working (figure work) and a tick in red-ink, at the jotted interest sheet. My trick OBVIATED the worksheet ๐Ÿ˜œ. ‘componding effect ‘ of interest, at monthly and quarterly rests, needs manual labour in those days, when calculators were primitive and its use was unfamiliar (1975-76).

Checking guys were ‘forced’ to recreate the worksheet, arrive at the final numeral(cumulative-interest) listed in the sheet, and tick in red ink ๐Ÿ˜‚. The frustrating part was, zero errors๐Ÿ˜ญ. Otherwise, they can give a ‘written order’ to produce the damn worksheet ๐Ÿ˜œ.

( Imagine the inner joy of those clerks, who had to merely CopyPaste a formula without even understanding the merits in it!!!  I too chant super_power_sanskrit mantras like those promoted peons, blissfully ignorant of the scientific quantum physics employed in those vibes_of_chants ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ฅ. Am I not a peon in spiritual bijness? ๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ™)



Now, my moment-of-frustration :

I was toying with a f(x) calculator at a shop. The sales guy said to me : “ not for you. Only engineering students know to use it” 

Me : “๐Ÿ™‚”( but boiling inside “๐Ÿ˜ก. I carry the genes of my ancestors who never even NEEDED algebra as an INTERFACE in their_way of Vedic_maths. And you are telling me that this f(x) is a live wire of 11000 volts which I shouldn't touch??? Damn!”)

Wednesday, October 21, 2026

Why to seek Wisdom?

 Why to seek Wisdom?


One of the stupid questions that popped up somewhere in my head, when I was a kid! (I was too small to know that there's a physical organ brain, and 2 other confusing entities, mind and me within ๐Ÿ˜ฅ) : why should I ‘seek’ wisdom? ( The basis = there are elders all around me, all the time, to tell me what-next should I do ๐Ÿ‘). 


Question deepened as I grew a bit more ๐Ÿ˜ฅ. Ravana seemed to be the most_knowlegeable guy in the history of mankind ๐Ÿ˜“. Not a single degree that he didn't acquire! An aircraft “pushpak” which never says “sorry, no seat available”. Music, literature, mysticism, magic, all forms of sciences(he placed the planets affecting horoscope of his son in its proper constellation at the child birth ๐Ÿ˜ฅ…. much to the embarrassment of Saturn, the in-charge of past deeds!). Just that he failed only at Wisdom ๐Ÿ˜ญ.  Oops! I felt “wisdom is not something that can be ‘sought’ as a boon!.  Absence of wisdom is a ‘bane’ ๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ™


Slowly, but surely, I inched closer to this fuzzy thing called ‘wisdom’( not that I ‘began’ gathering the damn thing ๐Ÿ˜œ…  Just getting familiar with it, to the possible extent ๐Ÿ˜ญ).



Concept_based thinking seemed a bit more practical (practicable, in daily life ๐Ÿ™) than the vast thing called wisdom.  Concept_based_Living posed a little difficulty ( mostly due to the hard_wired habit in my brain, which obeys a default_instruction of my_mind, about most of the routine life situations…..   example: earthen dam popped up in some ancient brain, when the mind fell silent for a split second, and intellect dealt with the input data “hey! Lets do something about this flooding of river every rainy season, and stupidly watching people getting washed away from the banks of the river” .  Wisdom in action??? Dunno yet ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ณ).


I stopped chasing wisdom ๐Ÿ™

But, something bigger posed a problem ๐Ÿ˜ญ…. Spiritual Wisdom ๐Ÿ˜ญ….  Till then, worldly_wisdom kept me just_wondering (duniyadaari, was a Hindi word for functional wisdom, I thought. Not quite sure, though๐Ÿ˜“).

Spirit within is itself elusive. Only then to ‘think' of making it any_wiser ๐Ÿ˜‚.


One thing seemed too reassuring ๐Ÿ‘. No spiritual master was ever branded/alleged/labelled/etc as an Unwise guy๐Ÿ˜œ.   Another astounding thing I noticed was that spiritually wise guys ( enlightened guys) were not always highly ‘knowledge_abled’. They posed no threat to the world record created+held by Ravana’s knowledge ๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ‘…   ( During 1993 or so, a Master in spirituality told us “enlightened guys have the Capability to ‘know’ whatever they Like_to_know….and instantly too !...  That ‘instantly’ bijness intrigued me ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜“. Till i figured it out by myself ๐Ÿ™, but I lack courage to spell it out, since I lack the experience ๐Ÿ˜“. No point, misleading a reader).



Muscle memory of the mind is like a virtual software, that resides in the cache memory of the organ brain ( my own ‘cooked up’ imagination ๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ™…  it seems to work inside me, without my consent ๐Ÿ™).  Sustained+ intense spiritual practices helped me to break the mind's habitual muscle memory effect that deterred my spiritual progress! 

A very bizarre experience ( rather experiences) emerged as a result of such sustained practices ๐Ÿ˜‚. A real example, which the readers are going to find it difficult to ‘gulp down their throat’ , was my experience with a tool, a guided meditation called ‘death’. I didn't know whether I was participating in the meditation or merely listening to the audio tape, after its ½ way through it ๐Ÿ˜ฅ. As soon as it was over, I rediscovered that I was squatting crosslegged, eyes closed๐Ÿ˜‚, not participating. Wisdom, intellect, mind or brain, or even the muscle memory of any of these didn't help me to ‘know' what I was doing ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ฅ….. 


My fair guess is….. wisdom is a mere label(like the words ‘darkness, cold, humility etc), something to ‘refer’ to, when we are sensible enough to be at our peak levels of inclusiveness ๐Ÿ™, and the level of wisdom being relative to our experience of inclusiveness ๐Ÿ™.  Concept based thinking, and living, seems to work for me at least. Awareness and alertness enhances the proximity to basic_life_concepts according to my intensity at it๐Ÿ™.


See if it seems to find any appeal ๐Ÿ‘.

Until I bump into something wiser, I am going to remain stuck to what works for me ๐Ÿ˜œ. 



Unwisely yours,

psn(21 Oct 2026)



Tailpiece:  my peak levels of stupidities churned out a wild imagination where,

I sought an unprecedented kind of boon :” Godjee, grant me Wisdom” ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ™

God : “ idiot…๐Ÿ˜ก… you already are that. Just remove the layers which obfuscate it”

Monday, October 19, 2026

Unofficial Vow

 Unofficial Vow


Traditionally a vow is understood as “a formal and serious promise (especially in a religious ceremony)”.



My ultiKhopdi (ultikhopdi is a Hindi word, more apt about me, to describe “quixotic” mind in English) … my quixotic mind is unable to come out of the ‘observation’ that a few guys around, when they ‘knowingly’ engage into doing something that is a negative act unto themselves, and they do it repetitively, I am irreversibly compelled to view it as a vow! ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ™.    Like somebody habituated to utter nonsense and very routinely says a “sorry” soon after— is he under a ‘vow’ ? He knows “sorry” is NOT an apology ๐Ÿ˜œ.  It's like “sorry to hear that you failed in your examination ๐Ÿ™”----nothing to apologise to the other๐Ÿคฃ.



Eating ‘junk’ food, is like an unofficial vow “I shall do everything possible to make my doctor rich ๐Ÿ™”

Manufacturing tension, hypertension, even about a situation where we know that it is an inevitable outcome of our own past routine, seems like a vow “I undertake to remain stupid, and therefore I need to create tension within ๐Ÿ™.  I have to avoid sensibility, which is unavoidable if I remain relaxed_while_ALERT ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™”


I couldn't ‘contain’ it within myself, this stupid curiosity “are they under an unofficial vow, to patronise absence of intelligence?๐Ÿค””.    How can I ask someone directly, “are you observing a Vow Sir? That you will avoid sensibility?” ๐Ÿ˜ณ.  He would get angry!  If my curiosity “gets the better of me” …. I try something like “why am I haunted by a negative thought that you are capable of doing this better????...  I can see that you are already doing your best๐Ÿ‘” Safe question.

I thought, let me compile my “silly questions” and take a safe_risk ๐Ÿ˜œ ( if it is safe, where is the risk?... I am trying ‘a’ stupidity๐Ÿ˜‚).  A blog “silly questions”...and a follow on… as “silly doubts”.   Stupendous success๐Ÿ‘.  No responses to convince me that I am wrong about unofficial vow ๐Ÿ˜œ. 


Ideally, “quality questions” from a student is a sure hint for the teacher to know “this kid is a potential candidate for high speed growth of intelligence ๐Ÿ™.  But, the volume of syllabus is a deterrent to encourage questions in a modern classroom. Exam-Scores are proportional to expertise in ‘copypaste technology’๐Ÿ‘.  By_heart + vomit it in the examination ( again a ‘kind of unofficial vow by the fraternity of academia —” we shall not allow intellect to be nurtured”)



The widely misconstrued version of “freedom is a fundamental right”  suits damn well, such unofficial vows of self_destruction. Nuclei families are shrinking further into living separately together, even within a pair of parents & just a kid ๐Ÿ˜œ.  No intrusion into others mindset ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ™



Unpromisingly yours,

psn(19 Oct 2026)

Sweating bijness

 Sweating bijness 



A very close friend asked me about my_experience with my_sweating ..



I wrote..



Sweat is a side bijness of the glands in the skin. Breathing is main bijness ( "skin suffocation" is a word that suggests ๐Ÿ™)



Sweat is a "response" to some kind of unusual occurrence in physiology.



About 'cold sweat' google says : Physically, cold sweats (diaphoresis) are triggered by your body's fight-or-flight response or a drop in blood circulation. Common physical causes include:

• Heart problems: Heart attacks or coronary artery disease.

• Low blood sugar: Hypoglycemia from diabetes or fasting.

• Infections and fever: Flu, COVID-19, or severe sepsis.

• Shock or severe pain: Injury, trauma, or intense distress.

• Hormonal shifts: Menopause or hyperthyroidism




Normal sweat : we become physically active. ( Table tennis, basketball...easier to trigger sweating)..    body is designed to 'be active' ๐Ÿ™.... We love AC, couch, etc, so 'gadgets' find a good market ๐Ÿ˜œ



Fan was a gadget which sponsored a 'hate' towards sweat ๐Ÿ™....  ( Kids say "i am sweating" and elders switch on the fan. Subtle message= avoid tolerating sweat".  Corollary=don't do anything that 'causes' sweating ๐Ÿ‘.....  Eventually, doctors 'love' this free advertising against sweating)



I wipe off the sweat, thereby, providing more opporChutney for sweating ๐Ÿ‘. When sweating stops by itself, I decide if I need a water_wash. If a car dries 'clean' after a rain, water wash is redundant ๐Ÿ™.



( I  suspected 'oil' only because I found soap lathering less, while handwashing sweat_soaked clothes. Google said "yes๐Ÿ‘".  Mogambo khush hua, because, bad oil is drained out ๐Ÿ‘)


Who am I to intrude into the freedom of others, who love to use make_up on skin?.  If they find it better to retain the sweat below their 7 layered skin, it's a fundamental right now under Indian constitution ๐Ÿ’ช.



( I have strong 'evidence' as well ๐Ÿ‘.   Very rarely, I get any encouraging response to my experience I share๐Ÿ™...   Most of them pray for me silently "may he get_well_soon ๐Ÿ˜”"...  I am grateful for both.)



Drily yours,

psn(19 Oct 2026)

Saturday, October 17, 2026

Madhushaalaa

 Madhushaalaa


"เค…ंเคงों เคฎें เค•ाเคจा เคฐाเคœा"


I bagged easily,  a few prizes during the mandatory celebration of Hindi_day in the Coimbatore regional office of my bank.



The Hindi officer was too happy to hear a very funny incident related to this book, and at once decided to ‘gift’ it to me, saying "it is lying UNTOUCHED in our mini_library. You will preserve it better ๐Ÿ‘"


Incident:

While I was at Amravati,  a new university was going to come up. "Vacancies" in the Hindi department are sure. 

A close friend of mine decided to 'qualify' for a 'job' in that university.  M.A. in Hindi ๐Ÿ˜ฅ.

He decided to submit the dissertation on this book. All the 'good' professors declined to 'touch' this book if it was for an academic qualification. Tough.

This friend got a humble professor who said "only my signature as a guide/mentor to fill the blanks. Remember ๐Ÿ‘"


That friend surprised me by saying "anyway I am going to slog alone by myself ๐Ÿ˜œ. Why don't you give me company?"


"Just company" was okay by me, I thought.

But fate had something else in store for us.


Within a day, he said "help me with the deeper philosophical sense in the verses(he was asking for a vital organ_trandplant, the 'heart' of the poem ๐Ÿ˜“)"


I said "on one condition ๐Ÿ™...   I am not a born_Hindi guy. Tough words. You give me the translated version in the 'local' Hindi that I can understand.  I will give you the deeper philosophical sense in my_Hindi. You re_translate it into literature_wala_Hindi and 'build' your dissertation stuff.


Two days of experience. He decided to gulp 2 pegs of desi daroo and then join me on a hilltop garden( around a huge water tank, catering drinking water to that town).... because, my words were escaping his mind, ๐Ÿ˜‚. ( Chattering incessantly, his mind was engaged into….not listening quietly ๐Ÿ™. Alcohol quietens, in a ‘measured’ dosage๐Ÿ‘)


Daily 10 pm to 2 am... 50 days, winter nights of less than 5°C temperature. ๐Ÿ˜‚


My reward was going to be 'put to use' only 10 years later, during my spiritual bijness ( programs I got enrolled into). The concepts got preserved like an engraved writing in my memory ๐Ÿ™


Thanks to Shri Bachhan senior ๐Ÿ™. He 'might' have even blessed me from somewhere high up there, above the skies๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™.


A unique experience of the 'book going through me'( usually, 'we' go through a book๐Ÿ™. But I didn't ๐Ÿ˜œ).


Oh yes….He got his degree and also the job (I was told, because I got transferred down to Cbe by then).


Unexpectedly yours

psn(17 Oct, 2026)

Upholding Sense of fairness

 Upholding Sense of fairness 


I never thought hitherto that I might dwell upon this aspect of our daily routine life ๐Ÿ˜‚


As a kid, I was stupid to assume that “what is true for me, will be true for others also, when it is about a ‘sense of fairness’ ๐Ÿ™

But, as I grew, the expectations met disappointment.


Today,  are we not scared of hidden conditions, cost, etc??? ๐Ÿ˜œ.   Are they being ‘fair’ to the bare minimum trust level that can be reasonably expected?


The original software, with which we are born, is neither fair nor unfair. It's just an open and receptive mind looking for ‘what works’? Kids learn and quietly imbibe the traits related to ‘sense of fairness’. ๐Ÿ˜‚


Parents ‘realise' their flaws only when they face some kind of emotional blackmail from their own children after they are grown up ๐Ÿ˜ฅ. The fear of losing the child's bonds is ‘used’ as a threat to get something out of the parents ๐Ÿคฃ.  The “awareness” about who is being fair, gets lost. Fear gives in to the blackmail.  


When a pattern emerges where we feel that the other person is not being fair most of the times, mutual trust diminishes ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ™

We look for how to rebuild mutual trust, in our non_commercial relationships (usually between close relatives and friends).  Whereas, ‘sense of fairness' is the functional form of trust.  A deep recognition of emotional interdependence is relative to the level of mutual trust.


It really happened ๐Ÿคฃ

About 15 of us were freshers, youngsters and novices at the small office of a workplace in a remote town. The main boss and two officers were well experienced in handling the workplace_situation.

When novices are the subordinates, the temptation is to exploit their ignorance about their own basic rights ๐Ÿ˜œ. “Sense of fairness” had totally evaporated in the main boss. We beginners could even ‘notice' the cunningness only when the two guys( our junior bosses) inadvertently grumbled at the”excessess” of their boss( our main boss๐Ÿ˜œ).  That main guy missed awareness of the fact that he has no separate switch inside his brain to be kept on, for maintaining his sense of fairness towards his breed(the 2 officers)๐Ÿ˜œ… 

We needed to find out the best ‘available’ defense material amongst ourselves, to fight the ‘absence of fairness’ in that main boss.

We met in privacy.

I was the unanimous choice. 

I protested saying “I am the junior-most among us ๐Ÿ™. I lack familiarity with workplace_related rights (based on sense-of-fairness). My personal anxiety is, everyone pays for my error in Judgement ๐Ÿ™. Please let a senior among us lead ๐Ÿ™…etc…etc” ( little did I realise then, when I was 22… that I was inadvertently blurting the basics of non_commercial interpersonal relationships ๐Ÿ™… the cluster of my thoughts at that point of time, were going to end up as my-personal-thumb-rule for the rest of my life ๐Ÿ˜œ)

The others made a proposal which I could not refuse ( same as the dialogue of the hero of the movie “The Godfather” ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜œ)

They said: “Look, whether you commit an error in judgement or any other among us, all of us are going to ‘pay’ for it alike. We are unanimous that… the probability of error is least in you๐Ÿ‘. We guarantee unconditional obedience to your decisions” ( probably, those guys must have felt that my “sense of fairness” was better than theirs, and accompanied by my trustworthiness, & ……dexterity of threat assessment (the boss “uses” his vested powers of disciplinary action to threaten us, at the drop of hat ๐Ÿ˜œ. Pure emotional blackmail).


It worked ๐Ÿ‘. I never had to regret any of my decisions, especially when the adherence was 200% plus๐Ÿ˜œ. 

My sense of responsibility towards my_breed fuelled an unprecedented speed_of_learning ๐Ÿ™ ( do we not see instances of illiterates as mega success stories?๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ™…  Driven to the wall, doubles our moral strength).

This intense life_experience, of evolving rapidly into ‘sense of fairness'... I guess…might have contributed to my high scores in “Jurisprudence” paper 8 years later in my LLB, with zero preparation from books ๐Ÿ˜œ. 


Another decade later, the intense spiritual practices seemed to act like a fuel for spacecraft, in deepening the same ‘sense of fairness' at subtle levels ๐Ÿ˜œ.  ( Obviously, perception ought to deepen!).  That's my experience, for whatever it is worth ๐Ÿ™. It works for me, and therefore I felt “it might be fair enough to share it” ๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ‘



fairly yours,

psn(17 Oct 2026)



Tailpiece:

My brother, a kid of 3 writhing in pain yelled to our dad “belt is biting my waist”.

Dad got annoyed, pulled out that belt, and lashed at the kid. (The pain due to the lash was too small compared to the ‘belt_bite’ and his sobbing subsided ๐Ÿ˜œ). A scorpion jumped out when the belt was pulled by a jerk.

Dad noticed the scorpion and felt a remorse, in having misunderstood the kid ๐Ÿ™( I still have strong visuals of the powerful expression in my dads face, when he realised that his_sense_of_fairness fell short, when he failed to ‘look beyond’ the limited vocabulary of a 3-year kid, and used the genuineness in pain, displayed by a scorpion’s sting(“ belt is biting me” ๐Ÿ˜œ).

A lesson for life, for me. Dad, a guru ๐Ÿ™