I found a very good blog “Love is not
a duty”!
..
It did 'provoke' a thought process in
me!
It reminded me of a dialogue from a TV
serial, where the author surmised the entire relationship between
spouses, very briefly, and yet very beautifully, precisely, and
yes.... completely!
It takes a lot, to really expand that
idea ( of that author of the TV serial), and to grasp it in its
entirety!!!
All he said was, “during the
yester-years, the spouses looked at marriage as a 'duty' to the other
spouse. Today, they look at it as a 'right' against the other
spouse”.... He simply added: 'please look at the bulk of divorce
cases... the whole quarrel is about some 'right'!... And all of
those successful marriages have a common binding-factor, of offering
oneself unconditionally towards the spouse in a duty-bound
attitude..... it is up to the individuals to choose , as to how
they wish to have the relationship of a 'marriage'....'
The problem with 'love' is, after we
often look at the manifest form of it, to understand it, and then
just stay there, stuck to the manifest form! It is okay to make a
humble beginning with 'giving' out unconditionally, to get that feel
of it... but some time, we have to 'allow' ourselves to becoming a
loving-being, with that love as a quality of our very being (the
manifest form depending only on the outside situation..... for
instance, if we are alone on a tiny island right from birth, still we
can be a loving-being :) ...)... that 'duty-business' is the
consequence, not the purpose of love itself! All other duties are
obligatory, for some kind of social orderliness. (The so-called
bullock-cart-days-people, in their great wisdom had very consciously
chosen to exempt the wandering mendicants, monks, sanyasis, etc from
all kinds of duty-bound-obligations... they had enough trust in
themselves, their own wisdom, to know that these people are already a
'loving-being' in every sense, and need no rules to be governed
upon!)
psn(28th April, 2012)
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