'Marriage' revisited

This is just a copy-paste of a response given to a blog.

But, when I finished typing it out, I thought there is enough 'masalaa' in it to constitute itself into a blog.... There is yet to be a known law, which prevents a person from reproducing one's own response as a blog-post, with mere link-reference to the other one....

Here it goes.....

I happened to glance through a blog by an eminent person...

quote:

http://www.speakingtree.in/public/spiritual-blogs/seekers/faith-and-rituals/Why-do-you-marry

unquote:

I gave my response/reply/feedback as under:

quote:

The last few words of the blog is the clue... (quote: Marriage should ultimately lead to the spiritual upliftment ...)
For leading us to that 'ultimate' (spiritual upliftment), the BASIC aim, should be also 'spiritual-upliftment', and for that, there should be 'adequate' clarity about what is spirituality. I say 'adequate' because, entire clarity may not happen in the present day scenario (in the ancient days, when this ritual was 'institutionalised' it was this very same clarity that afforded it, it is the then form, and the depleted form today, which we find it difficult to uphold.
Please see, mere togetherness without proper-logical-parameters, marriage is never going to sustain in that 'materialistic-win-win' aspect. What ever we do. Otherwise, why do people keep juggling jobs? Attrition is the greater worry of head-hunters than the problem of recruiting the 'right-person'!
Today's partner-seeking is 'logical-compatibility' oriented. Emotional compatibility is a matter of chance! That is because, there is yet to be a structure(by any name, school, college, institution, training center, etc) which teaches a person to remain emotionally stable.... It is not about 'knowing' what emotion is.... Knowing manifest form of emotion is dealt in psychology, and managing imbalance is taught in psychiatry, but neither of these help to consciously stabilize into emotions! That is the domain of spirituality(at least, I think so...)
We have to get to the basics. Marriage is a restriction, a self imposed restriction , when we look at how animals, birds etc mate for the purpose of procreation alone. Any self imposed restriction has to be for evolving into something higher... always.... Otherwise, why does a surgeon willingly abstain from consuming coffee (caffine), a week ahead of delicate, intricate, brain-nerve surgery? Why does a 'promising' student keep away from TV, games, fun etc when the exam dates are very close?
Those who are spiritually evolved adequately during the early years of 'gurukula', in the ancient days, simply opt out of marriage (that is why the population explosion took place in the recent most century, not for several thousand years earlier... that reminds me... some 3 thousand years ago, the population of India itself might be less than a crore, but the 'Hindu' Gods were even then numbering 33 crores.... the devotee-God ratio was simply amazing...... Mercifully, there was no concept of 'aadhaar' (that unique id number allotment need) for those 33 crores of Gods! Otherwise, imagine the parameters of biometrics/demographics for those Gods? That reminds me, the priests used to 'invoke' those Gods, using the 'aadhaar', which may be Mantra, Tantra, or a mere Yantra!!!....)
Another clue is, most of the 'rituals' that is associated with traditional form of marriage is not available to be perceived from 'purpose' point of view. The purpose is subtle, too subtle to be available at 'sensory' levels. Either you blindly trust, or try to evolve enough to perceive it through 'vision' (not just the eyes)....
Nice blog, Madam, Dr. Neeraja Kumar, .... it is the choice of words that feels quite encouraging, and persuades a reader to delve deeper into this wonderful institution called marriage.... (interestingly, there is no ancient mantra/ritual to carry out that 'divorce').
Thanks & Regards,
PSN