Language Languish!

I know of a 'wonder-full', amazing person.... who never fails to amaze me, never fails to make me wonder....!

....

All he does, is ridiculously simple.... He just quotes somebody else!

'Sounds' so simple!....

But please see,

quoting from.... our-own-within.... (your own inner voice, or still worse, the non-verbal thought...!!!),

is itself .... “a job”... (we realise only when we struggle to erase it at times, having said something “in an utterly stupid way!”...)

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Picking the words of so many varieties of minds....

matching it with the concepts within us, to enhance the ideas within, already struggling for apt words, .... matching it with better words, to enhance the very same ideas, embellishing it unto perfection... something that words do not seem to adequately 'appreciate'!

I dedicate this blog to that quote-wizard... 'ETBA'

That which impressed me, I quote below, and leave it to readers to decide ....

whether I “quoted” a wrong price for something too precious!...

For,.... this time it is merely about.... the...... 'quotable-quotes'.....!!!

psn(27^th October., 2012)

quote: http://www.speakingtree.in/public/spiritual-blogs/seekers/science-of-spirituality/are-you-busy

(One of the responses, by 'ETBA'.... that mystic-well-wisher!)

“Instead of saying 

“I don’t have time” 

try saying “ it’s not a priority,” 

and see how that feels. 

Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation.

I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. 

But other things are harder. 

Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.”

“I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” 

If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. 

Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. 

If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, 

we can choose differently.” 


― Wall Street Journal

Joke: Not always a laughing matter!

When a joke happens, how well or how badly to laugh?

That was the query!

Psn(22nd October, 2012)

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20121021091424AAIVjjo

For a nice joke,do you smile,grin,laugh or burst into laughter?

My 'lost' laugh at it:

Oh! It has to depend upon the situation around!
some jokes happen..... they are not narrated.... and if it is a serene condolence meeting, we have to even suppress our laugh biting the tongue quietly within!
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the other way, when the boss is telling a joke, listen to it as if we are hearing it for the first time, and plead to him intensely not to be so cruel, leaving us to laugh so uncontrollably! (it pays!)..
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When a spiritual master narrates a joke,
merge into it.... or miss a golden chance of enlightenment... (zen stories!)

Presidential debate at USA

I liked to look at the spiritual aspect of it....

Tough decisions going to be taken, for the growth of the economy, needs an emotionally strong nation, an emotionally stable society, which can sustain cheerfully austere measures, with a deep trust in the administration! They are 'obliged' to trust the administration, simply because they have elected it!

From this view point, I was listening to the debate between the two candidates for presidentship of the most powerful democracy of the world, USA!

I was impressed by the ability of the speakers as well as the audience to stay riveted on the finer details of the economy! Something that cannot happen for years in India, given the level of awareness we have about economic figures, and the 'head' for it!

And yet, I found that......

Emotional stability is not a subject, or a priority as important as economy! (They have every fourth doctor making money.... and a sizeable amount of it..... as a psychiatrist!)

If the most powerful nation does not find 'space' for discussing how the human qualities is going to evolve/grow during the electoral term of the competing candidates, how are they going to 'enjoy' the benefits of the material growth that they might reap out of prudent policies (giving the benefit of doubt that things do work!)...

Something that we have got for free..... here.... by sheer reason of being born on this soil! But yes, grossly under-utilized as yet, more so, over the recent decades(an entirely different matter!)!

We have a spiritual forum here, which actively discusses the potential of human-spirit, on an on-going basis, and here we have representatives from almost all walks of life!

Good going!

psn(17^th October, 2012)

Trapping Intuition!

There are two ways of answering questions that seek to know an abstract concept...

To point at instances, examples, and sayings of great ones,.... and from where, one can try to arrive at a surmised meaning.... a derived explanation.... and then try to grasp the concept....

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There is another way also.... to just try to put it as best as possible into words, from which a person can work one's way out, trying to use the idea as a workable experience on oneself!

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The efficacy of these is highly subjective..... and if so the choice too has to be individualistic too!

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I did like to take a look at a very general question from a 'practical' point of view!

The question seemed about 'trapping intuition' rather than 'tapping' intuition!

(Somebody else had also given an answer which was 'technically' wonderful, and full of valuable quotes and details from great men.... I was tempted to even copy it down here... but was not quite sure of the 'permission' of its author..... I tried an answer that an 'aam aadmi' can perhaps 'attempt' to ..... “do-it-yourself” ...!!! And, understandably, I try to turn every query as a reference to some kind of spiritual persuasion !)

psn(16^th October, 2012)

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20121013071923AARbAzA

Question:

People say trust your instinct & listen to intuition - but how do I know what my instinct & intuition say?

People says do what your heart says
People says trust your instinct and follow your instinct
People also says that listen to your intuition

But how do I know what my heart want, what my instinct says and what is my intuition

How to get over that confusion

My answer:

If we know what logic is... very clearly.... then, half the problem is solved!
Intuitiveness transcends logic often....
It requires reasoning (not logic alone) to even 'consider' looking at intuitive 'feelings'!
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There is no logic when we like a painting... when we like to keep looking at a rainbow for a while...
There is no logic when we get tears, looking at somebody 'else' in great pain or grief...
But, what we feel here is the manifest form of intuition... called emotion... That intuition is something that we have to allow to surface in its 'original' form (may be even as a non-verbal-thought)... not quite easy.... that is why we have fewer of intuitive people... most of those who do have such gut-feelings, are not able to have it 'at will' or consciously.... it just happens!
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(Now, please try to find out if it is a sheer coincidence that spiritual people are 'befriended' by this intuitive instinct too often, or rather in an unfailing manner?)

Relationship of Mysticism with Woman

Woman has been a 'mystery' to men and even man-kind since times immemorial!

So a query/question/inquisitiveness/curiosity/etc... about the relation between mysticism and woman is logically obvious!

There is also a spiritual angle to it. That is our interest here...

A gift from mother nature.... that often lies dormant due to lack of awareness about the value of maintaining self-awareness, this gift of intuitive aspect of mind often goes untapped. Yet, more than often, it gets tapped by situation, in a contextual fashion, leaving it to 'chance' as to how it gets evolved. It is here that the rituals and traditions had sought to enrich the life of a woman as also gently initiating her into spirituality. Now such 'value-additions' to life has withered away with stormy invasion by modernity!

Is it the upsurge of this aspect, when unawares, makes a woman look like a mystery? Is it not different to counsel a person, the very approach, technique and tools differing from that of psychiatric 'treatment'?

A very generalised answer is unlikely to appeal to the 'urgent' mind of present day!

So, I contend with just a passing reference, and quietly reproducing the answer I attempted to give for this wonderful question!

Regards,

psn(14^th October, 2012)

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20121013143429AAclQw2

What is the relationship between women and mysticism?

Can anyone explain? Any special relationship?

My answer:

Yes!
Women are 'naturally' gifted with more of intuitive aspect, most of which gets converted/utilized/manifested into emotional form.... Now, whether they are conscious of it is a subjective question.... Mysticism is to do a lot with intuitive aspect of the mind...
Emotions have never obeyed logic... so the manifest form... that is emotion.... which defies logic, looks mystic too... and therefore the seeming relationship!
If a woman gains awareness over this emotional aspect, it deepens the 'reach' into the intuitive aspect, and then, the reasonable-ness enables her to demystify herself from herself, not necessarily from others :)

Happy Food?

Hey! Not just that 'healthy-food'.... way beyond... happy food!

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No wonder! The nickname of the asker is 'prankster' (http://in.answers.yahoo.com/activity?show=0xCgJjUuaa )

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It would have been too simple, ordinary, and 'routine' if the query was about healthy food, and the answers might have been just 'bla-bla-bla....' (nothing to do with health, but a lot to do with 'avoidance of dis-ease'!.... that is what our 'modern-medical-science' with all its 'funding' churned out of our hard earnings gets us as its 'high-yield'!!!)

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Here is somebody who touched the very core of 'life-science', .... when that question was about happy-food!

psn(27th September., 2012)

quote:

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20120925012741AA98fw7

question:

What foods are good for happiness?

My (happy) answer:

Energy food! (Not those chemical energy... but life-energy..) Ayurveda looks at food from life-energy point of view, not from calorie/vitamin/protein point of view.. Food recommended by Ayurveda can give happiness (other medical sciences are developed looking at dis-eases, not healthy, happy people!)

Resistance

The flexibility that gets enhanced due to intense patriotism is what enables a soldier-spy to offer enormous resistance, in not yielding to torture, when captured by an enemy country!

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A candidate who offers resistance to 'additional' work is not preferred for recruitment by employers. That is what they try to find out during a personal interview... knowledge, skill, etc is already evidenced by paper-credentials.... But if an interviewer himself/herself lacks that flexibility, how can they find out whether the candidate is going to be flexible or is going to offer resistance?

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Spiritual seekers are 'obliged' to shed all sorts of resistance, if they hope to make 'any' progress at all on the spiritual path..... The master, teacher, guide can only create a situation, where the seeker can find it easier to drop resistance.... or where a person is almost ready, and when nature obliges to create the 'natural' situation, they evolve, and pave way for a debate about the need of a Guru! (Some huge trees have crevices, where dust settles into it over a period of time... some bird drops a seed having eaten the fruit thereof, and the rain provides the moisture, and that seed germinates!)...

....

Resistance... is a capability, when we have only positive emotions within us...

Resistance .... is a barrier, a block, when we have mostly negative emotions within us...

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Aam aadmi oscillates between right orientation, and wrong orientation, and thus finds that flexibility to be a weakness at times, and that resistance to be a 'defense' at times!

psn(23rd September, 2012)

Mental health, as important as physical health?

The moment I read the name board 'Psychiatrist'.... I asked that elder, with whom I was 'allowed' to take a walk in the evening ... “Uncle, psychiatrist ... for both?”... “What both?” he asked...

“Humans and animals..” I tried... not quite sure, if I was suppose to broaden the base further...

That uncle burst into laughter! In those days, it was the privilege of those 'uncles' to simply ignore us, and deprive us the taste of that wit, the humour for which, may be we kids even deserved part-payment of royalties/copyrights etc!

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Okay, it got 'almost' settled that ..... may be .... the animals never needed it... I could 'see' in fact, that the animals are either in their natural habitat, or under captivity, and so the responsibility is only with the veterinarian when it comes to any health problem for an animal under captivity (physical or mental)... But a new query arose... when we have a psychiatrist, does it make us humans to be superior or inferior in terms of vulnerability to such health care?... Mental health, to be precise?... (Maybe, some where around there, it occured to me, that there was scope to take care of my own mental health too! But, sadly, there was no 'known structure' in place, to nurture and nourish my mental health! Some consolation was that not all the Uncles and Aunts around had similar health condition.... those remarks about each other, percolated into my tiny brain, to reassure me that it was okay to be normally-abnormal, as an adult! Yes... when it comes to parents, till we are dependent, 'boss is always right'... is the first rule... and the second one, 'when in doubt, refer to rule number one'!)...

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Compatibility issues made that mental-health a bit complex... that was when we became a bit choosy about our friends... at that kid age, anybody is almost okay...

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This compatibility issue chases us only till we decide upon the spouse, and after that, it is about who decides thereafter!

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Somebody asked, about importance of mental health, in comparision to physical health...

(I could hardly hold back the flood of memory relating to that 'issue', while answering!)

I quote the brief question-answer, herein, below.

psn(14th September, 2012)

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20120907191626AAMMZ0b

The question:

Why is mental health as important as physical health?

....

My answer:

Because we have the ability to choose!
Mental health is not a prescription for animals, etc! They are choiceless.... they have to live, they have to survive, they have to 'self-preserve' ... We can go on hunger strike also!..
So, the mind has to be healthy, to be able to make life-positive choices each time... (beyond the ethical right and wrong too!..... For example, it is 'right' to throw the precious cargo overboard a ship to save it from sinking too fast with all the human life on it!)

Wrong/Right Label

A few classmates of mine, during our school days, used to boast about their ability to fool their parents/elders at home, when they managed to read 'objectionable' material right under their noses...!

These kids, pick a large size text book, and place the prohibhited one inside it, inconspicously, and enjoy watching the contents of the 'interesting' one inside the dull one acting as their 'cover-agent'!

Some idiots get caught, when the parents are a little alert for a moment (usually, at that parent-age, they are drowned inside their worries, and require a sledge-hammer-hit on their head, to get their attention focused into the 'now')... when they are alert 'by chance' they notice that this kid is unusually focused into this school-text book, and they peep in... that kid gets caught... But smart ones, know this, and take extra care to insert commercial breaks, asking the dullness-evoking-queries to the elders who stray around them!

I was reminded of this incident, when I read about the recent arrest of a cartoonist who was charged with 'sedition'!.... My doubt is... whether the charges are really valid? Or is it that he simply removed the wrong label? A sizable number of politicians are under cloud! A few of the legislators were enjoying those 'pictures and images', while the assembly was in session... Currency notes, bundles of it were displayed in the parliament, as proof of payment for votes!

We have a nameboard of a temple, with some Great Famous deity, and when somebody enters inside this shrine, its occupants are demons, witches, etc (consecration was due long since... that traditional 'kumbhabhishekam' or any ritual similar to that appropriate to that deity, of that temple, that religion, was long over due... and nothing to stop those negative kinds of energies to dominate the place.... is the nameboard valid? Or, is it misleading?.... Maybe the demons inside might use their clout to retain that misleading nameboard to avoid exposure of truth, or to be able to sustain with that wrong label!

Who has the authority to judge ?(irrespective of the competence!)

psn(11^th September, 2012)

Don't know How To Unblock

I blocked a few people who loved to follow me...!

They still follow me perhaps.. but the love(in its various 'forms') that they extend does not reach me...

My anger has blocked the intelligent advices from 'my people' reaching me...

My jealousy has blocked the love that my people emanate towards me....

My hatred has blocked the vibes of the positive actions of my people, from reaching me...

And worst... still...

My fear has blocked that 'sense-of-trust' extended by several people, known and even unknown, seen and even unseen,....  that they send out to me.... keep sending out to me!

I discovered ..... when I uncovered myself.... that it is my own four dear friends, (anger, jealousy, hate and fear...) who effectively blocked the universal networking sites of my deep togetheness with everything and everyone around!

I have to find a way to 'block' these 4 friends...... unless I learn to keep unblocking the 'reach' of those positives from all others , from all over!

(All this, only till I have the 'id' and the 'password' with myself...

That 'focus and sense of discretion' is all that I can use, and hope to 'do something about it'... while it lasts!.....

Hey, now-a-days, they do not 'handle the handed-over-passwords' so well, like they used to during the 'bullock-cart-days'! The traditional rituals of propitiation on behalf of departed ones doesn't happen at that enhanced levels... )

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Good that the 'how-to-unblock' at this spiritual networking site reminded me of my own (created) blockades!

The bloke in me,

psn(4^th September, 2012)

My Comments

My comments

http://www.speakingtree.in/public/narayanan.ps/comments

I just saw this!

Something very significant....

Even if people are not interested in making use of this new feature!

Just to have an access to 'my comments' in....... our this life....... and our past lives, ....

So many Giant Spiritual Masters have contributed to perfect a few techniques....   

the most prominent of them is known by a name which means (in English )...   "Karma-Synthesis"... (closest to the original sanskrit term.....)

Once we have an access to this, we get to the root of "Main Aisaa Kyon Hoon?" (why am I like this???)

(all the things that went to making of what we are right now....  !  Unless we know the main 'knot' in that confusing bundle of thread, how are we going to untie the whole bundled ball of thread, straighten it up, and make "some" meaningful use of it?)

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This feature (My comments...  enabled).... comes too close ....  to  the best of spiritual techniques....

Indeed a great tribute to the very SPIRIT of SPIRITUAL Networking Concept  itself!

My humble pranaams to the 'team at www.speakingtree.in  ..'  who designed this feature !

 

(right now...  I can even "Block MY OWN SELF..."...    I do not dare to try it....   almost touching what could be a 'live-wire'...  hopefully, they would disable this redundant feature appearing against the name of the user oneself.....   'Blocking myself' is almost like a suicidal act....   anti-spiritual-spirit...)

 

psn (2^nd Sept., 2012)

Unsought Wisdom

“When does wisdom comes unsought ...?”

Somebody asked thus!

Very fortunately sometimes, my memory overtakes my 'normal' sense....

This time, it reminded me of that old saying.... adage ... or whatever.....

(The original is in Malayalam language... the only benefit is the appeal it has due to rhyming words, when pronounced.... 'Kandu' and 'Kondu'.... )

“Kandu padichillengil....

Kondu padikkum....”

(One who does not learn by observation, watching, seeing.... is bound to learn it when oneself is hit hard by the very same experience!)

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The memory of it saved me from the need to look at:

whether , I know about 'wisdom'...

whether, I have wisdom (enough to talk even)..

whether I have the ability to discriminate between sought and unsought forms of wisdom...

etc...!!!

I answered...

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The asker said “fine”... and I looked about.. there was no fine to be paid, so it was fine 'with me' (his fine is with me still...)...

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So, here it is now....

please fine me, if needed... or else... business as usual... no interruption from abstract things like wisdom etc!

Quote:

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20120819215942AA0OAXQ

When does wisdom comes unsought ...?

Thank you :)

Answer:

That is what they call as experience....!!!
...
Other wise it is simply aging.... nothing more!

Unquote:

psn (25^th August, 2012)

Advantage in Life

'Advantage Becker!' .....  That announcement opened my eyes!

He did nothing... just stood there... The opponent failed at something.... and the umpire shouted thus!

Wonderful! Somebody slogs, somebody fails, advantage to us! That explains why those 'morals' do not find much application in 'real life' now-a-days! Honesty, hard work, and such concepts find practical use only for scoring marks in exams during 'good-essay-writing'!

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But Education versus Experience?

Advantage 'Becker'?

That was the question, I found to be interesting one!

Quote:

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20120816210412AAO7DdP

What in your opinion does give a person the advantage in life - education or experience?

Some people believe that education leads to greater opportunity in life, while others believe that experience is the best teacher. What do you think gives the person the advantage it life and why?

My (dis)advantage:

Depends upon where we are located...
Head hunters go by name tags.... certificates make a living possible... The only hurdle is that interview... somehow manage it, and then it is their problem to prove that they hired the 'right kind of guy'... by the time they are inclined to agree to the truth, it is our retirement time, with pension!...
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On the other hand, if we are air-dropped on an island, uninhabited but hospitable to human life, pure experience (no degrees work here)... antenna open, alert mind, aware-being... response-able-to-life... works so well.... that divinity would bless us!

Unquote:

(Maybe that is why, what works in 'material life' often works against spiritual growth!.... The ancients were a bit rigid about ritualistic living..... they believed in equal opportunity to both... a householder, as well as that nomadic mendicant.... the rules had to be in conformity with laws which do not give any tennis-like-advantage!)

To some extent, we like to become as indifferent as those umpires....

We disrespect brains.... they(our brains) migrate .... 'Advantage-America' (brain-drain)..

We (the hundreds of countries trading mutually......) disrespect our currency .... deal only in dollars.... advantage USA/USD $...!!!

psn(23rd August, 2012)

Greatest Moral Conflict!

Sometimes, even without properly understanding what the question is about, I blurt out an answer.... One good thing is .....   I know what I said, irrespective of whether it really pertains to the question or not! This time, the asker agreed with it 'truely' too! I look at it as a 'fluke'! (Please see, moral conflict itself, is a bit elusive, abstract thing... and the 'greatest' of it! As if to prove it, no takers too, on that 'Yahoo Answers forum' too!)

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Worth sharing it on spiritual forum, I felt.... if some clarity happens, at least our fights here may not be due to 'greatest' of those moral conflicts.... maybe something lesser evil, hopefully!

The question, its link......

http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20120818155239AAvDPG0

What is the greatest moral conflict you had in life and how you resolved it?

My (clarity about) conflict:

The conflict was about the need of morals itself!
All other living beings never needed it...
They remain within their 'nature' and natural laws...
We needed morals... that was a conflict!
...
How I resolved it.... the resolving is in process... not complete... but mercifully, it is irreversible now!
Have worked towards it, and have been able to experience the deep interdependence with everything and everyone around! It obviates the need for morals, in an inversely proportional rate, without any restriction on the needed action pouring forth as required by situation!

And the asker said about this answer thus: Its truely true

unquote:

Truely true is something that I haven't earned hitherto!

psn(22nd August, 2012)

Brain drain to Grain drain

The history, post independence, from 15^th August, 1947 seems to be just about

brain drain

to grain drain....

...

trust drain

to dust drain...

(super dust... GM food, pesticides, chemicals, )

Jai Ho!

psn(15^th August, 2012)

Wondering about wonder!

Bouts of idiosyncrasies....

(hope this one is the last, at least for a while!)...

I wonder...

what would happen...

if

somebody

starts wondering... this wondering becomes very very very very intense....

and.....

that person,

reaches... touches....... the peak levels (please cooperate to visualise.... )

of 'wonder' within oneself?

End of this blog!

psn(13^th August, 2012)

Lighting up during dream!

Have any of us 'heard' of any instance.... any where... at any point of time.... ever recorded...

that,

somebody got an

“Enlightenment”

during a dream.... inside a dream?

End of the blog....

psn(13^th August, 2012)

post script: In my own self-interest... I think I should advise myself to run away as fast as mylegs would take me away from readers!

Laugh during a dream!

That blog about 'wonder' inside a dream, yielded a few side-effects too!

My spouse, who simply reads, and usually vacates the seat in front of the monitor without much remarks....

this time,

asked me....  "Why confuse others about that 'wonder'....  ?"...

"Most adults would have ceased to even laugh heartily during their dream!"....

(goes without saying....  babies, kids...   only laugh  .... usually....   during their sleep!)

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It took a full day for me to think over it, and then decided to put it to vote!.....

(A well meant, healthy caution please:   ...  this is something of a 'solicited' answer ....  usually from our spouse....  so no hurry...  worth consulting the astrologer even, about that "safe"  time ...  to ask about it......  not essentially the auspicious moment!)

psn(12th August, 2012)

Wonder!

Somebody said “I wonder”... and instantly, my admiration for that person deepened!

What is the point, if I do not tell the uniqueness of that wonder!

But all I could end up with, telling about wonder...

is that....

“Please see, do you wonder.... in your dreams?”

.....

Do you?

While in the inside ... of your dreams please, .... not on the outside...

...

(because, somebody told me... “ Yes. Sometimes according to the story of the dream”

.... when I asked most humbly thus: “A doubt... 'Do we wonder in our dreams?'....”

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I keep this blog brief....

I keep the element of surprise alive... about the wonder...

towards a higher purpose....

knowing the sanctity of 'wonder' itself....

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and all this,

if spirituality is not too casual for us!

(Yes, it can be fun, but with intense involvement.... not a game within a game.... game within a game, usually ends up into 'match-fixing'!)

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Wonderfully yours,

psn(11^th August, 2012)

Tense

Oh! Nothing to get tensed about really, right now... it is about where we are...

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I tried to call it 'modernity'... and then looked at 'backwardness' ... ('present' did not seem to suit eitherways, it presented only present problems nothing else, presently... so the choice didn't occur at all)...

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We have a few people around us who have not heard about Higgs Boson particle, even by its popular name.... Some haven't heard about the name of our Prime Minister, or even that there is such one, leave alone the complexities about knowing if that person is 'really' a democratically chosen/elected/nominated one!... If you pick one of those few, randomly, and ask their name, they happen to mumble something... you make out something of what you 'get' to hear and repeat it to him, to get some confirmation...... That person's counter-repetition(to confirm your call-back-for-confirmation), may not match either his own first attempt, or your call-back of what you had heard first.... Now you turn to others around and ask this person's name, others churn out yet other sound-form! (I am speaking of our fellow beings who are not so particular about their own names!).... But, these less-name-fellow-beings (not name-less please), are good at basics of life usually!

Now I wonder who is modern or who is backward?.... Somebody who knows Higgs Boson may not know whether his stomach is hungry or it is empty right now! He may not know whether his 'feeling' of tiredness right now m-e-a-n-s that he needs 'sleep' or just 'rest' right now? Unawareness of these basics, does it take us far backwards than the primitive man of old stone age? Fortunately, honesty about abstract concepts is seldom contested even in courts of law!

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Spirituality does not specify that we have to be 'modern' in terms of Higgs Boson particle or its kind... (It is our problem whether we acquire and maintain such knowledge at the cost of even certain basics, that I gave instances of !)

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All this started because to two simple questions that I happened to ask my spouse!

1. This is in two parts: a) 'If I tell you something in a very gentle way, what are the chances that you might simply ignore it for want of that “proper attention-drawing-tone” in it?' b) 'On the other hand, I use a harsh tone each time, to ensure your due attention to it (in our mutual interest... day to day routine affairs at stake), what are the chances that over a period of time, the very tone fosters a needless dislike towards each other?'
2. 'Is there a via-media... a mid way... a half way in-between these two 'a' and 'b' above, to benefit attention , retain gentleness, and other win-win?'

The reply part of it, might render it taking personal things into public domain... but the questions(basics perhaps!) by itself, I feel, would only bring us out of that cocoon, if any!

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I was wondering, if I had to ask this .... now.... yet again.... are we progressing, or progressively regressing? (in some cases, just 'regretting' !)....

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That is how I got entrapped into that 'tensing' tense!

psn(9^th August, 2012)